love vs dyspraxia

[emma31]

Has anyone found while being in relationships, u feel out of your depth and downing in emotions. When something goes wrong I can't seem to move on, it seems to linger and go round my head for days

[Ruth]

married for 16 years now......great years and some not so great years and still if something goes awry round and round it goes.........I also have some very important friendships and us all being human sometimes they go a bit pear shaped! I'm not sure why but I've got better at learning what I can and letting it go. I have a couple of happy places i send mythoughts to try and breakout of it...also a brisk walk with loud music seems to help.

[Tim G]

I know what you mean Emma - i find that things can get out of control verry quickly and I can get over emotional and over obsesed about things when really its better left or trying to help when all you can do is just be there and not intervene.

Its hard and grate being in a relationship but with dyspraxicia it makes things even more extreme.

[LilBee]

YES!
It could be due to past failed relationships though!! I can be obsessive, i know for definate!

Just a question: If you tried contacting a friend you hadnt seen in awhile about meeting up, but she was always "busy" and made very brief responses back or none at all, would you say she doesnt want to be friends anymore?
I have quite a few friends but i feel they get fed up of me after awhile, which is unfair as i always make the effort to organise meeting up\ go to concerts etc .
How can i ask people out without seeming pushy? Which i try not to anyway

[Jim]

Yes, short, non committal and evasive replys scream "GET OUT OF MY LIFE!!"

I've been subject to some myself, sometimes by someone I've really liked thought I got on with very well. It's a shame and upsetting but ultimately.. If someome doesn't want to know you then they're not worth the effort anyway.

My worst was at the end of my school life. There was a girl whom I had a great rapport with. We seemed to hit it off straight away and there was this "chemistry" between us when ever we were near each other. She had a great smile and basicslly I just felt great in her company. We used to go out for lunch together and generally just lark around enjoying each others conversation. Then suddenly one day out of the blue I got this really weird text message from her.. Saying something along the lines of "Hey sexy, sorry we haven't got together lately but my cousin got murdered. but when things quieten down I promise we'll get together!"

That was over ten years ago now and to this day I've never heard from her since, I tried getting in contact myself but nothing. I have completely no idea why it happend because she always seemed so comfortable in my company, dazzled me with the most beautiful smile gaze and enthusiastic conversation, but ultimately I had to conclude that she simply didn't want to know me anymore and there was nothing I could do change that and it was time to move on.

[LilBee]

Thanks Jim

But what i find strange is she's often text me asking how im doing, about my personal life and stuff, then (as you naturally do) i suggest meeting up she makes up excuses why she cant, even just for a coffee!!
Like, why make the effort and put me down! Especially since she's saif this to me, then i see her saying to other people "oh we must meet up,its been to long!". It just annoys me as i've done nothing wrong!

Do you think i should confront her, or not bother

[Jim]

Only you can decide that, but there's only so much effort you can put in with out any on their part.

[Tim G]

I think it really comes down to weather its worth it or not - if she is just messing you around all the time and cant really be asked then you have to think weather this is really what you want or need.

I think that you should consider confronting her as it would clear things up and you know where things are and what the real reasons are.