Finally !!!

[Lainey]

Hi All
My son (aged 23) has finally, after all these years, been diagnosed (this afternoon actually) as having Dyspraxia. I hope it is okay for the mother of a Dyspraxic to use this site. I have gained more information from reading your wonderful posts than I have in over 20 years, so I thank you all for that. We have a mixture of emotions, as I am sure you can imagine, but I am trying to understand this and we often "clash" - I want to support him and do right by him so I hope you dont mind if I tap into your wealth of knowledge for advice from time to time. Anyway, you are all an inspiration. Best wishes x

[AlleyCat]

Hi and welcome to the forum! I think it's great when close relatives, friends and partners of people with dyspraxia come on here to find out more about the condition and what they can do to help, as it shows that they really care. From reading some of the posts on here, you will probably have gathered that some of us sadly have close relatives who don't take much interest at all. Whatever you want to ask, people on here will try to help in whatever way they can

[Lainey]

Thank you so much for your reply - am tearing myself to shreds atm as I feel I may have caused/contributed to my son's "problems". I have tried, really REALLY hard to make him "fit in" with society over the years - on researching Dyslexia and reading some of your posts I have contributed to his low self esteem by doing this, of that I am sure. His main difficulty is in thought process & organising and perceptions - to be honest he "tells it how it is" - I admire him, many don't anyway am off to "Google" some more - my greatest wish is that he joins this group - but am not sure he is "ready" just yet - he needs to get his head round it I think. Take care.

[Kimiann]

Hi Lainey,
Welcome to the best dyspraxic place you can find! I'm dyspraxic and so is my 25yr old son. He was diagnosed at 5 but not a great deal of info was available then. I've made the same mistakes as you - including blaming myself. As someone who has only recently found out she's dyspraxic I can relate to how your son feels. After a while I began to understand so much about my life and now I've stopped thinking I'm an idiot. Knowing has made my life so much better, it doesn't fix the issues I have but now I know why I do what I do. My son has been a great help as well.

I'm sure you'll find lots of help and advice on here,

Kim

[Lainey]

Thank you so much Kim. I am in good company on here I dont really want this to become all about me so am off to view/comment on other posts. How wonderful that you and your son have such support of each other - it is where I am aiminghoping to get to once I/we fully understand what we are dealing with here.

[Tim G]

Your verry welcome hear - I think its really good to have parents of dyspraxic children on hear as it shows that you really do care and want to understand.
I know it seames like you have to get him to 'fit in' but this is somthing you really shouldent push for - give him oppertunities but let him make up his own mind some people dont want to fit in, sochalise and just be them selves but this is a lot more of a austistic / aspergic thing. Unforanlty dyspraxicis don't often fit in but really do want to and this just makes things worse.

I compleatly relate to you saying about his organishion and saying it how it is - yes this is somthing which isent done often and can in some aspects be a advantage but i have found it a real hinderance as comuaction, thinking and sochal skills is a major issue for me.