telling my partner..

[pixiewoo89]

I've just recently found out that i have dyspraxia, and i am currently in a relationship, it's still early days as it's only been a few months. I want him to know about dyspraxia and how it affects me, but i don't know how to bring it up, he just seems to think it's about being clumsy, and i find it really difficult to express how i feel at times and basically find explaining things in general very hard...Anyone who can give some advice???

[Tom fod]

You could be subtle and just leave some literature about dyspraxia about the place so that he'll stumble across it but depends on how likely he is to pick it up and read it?

Probably the best may in my opinion would be to just drop it into conversation say hey I've learnt something about myself and why I'm a bit clumsy sometimes. Try not to fret he obviously likes you for who you are or else he wouldn't be with you in the first place.

Hope this helps. I'm considering another foray into the world of online dating after I gave up altogether earlier this year.I hate wanting to/feeling I have to explain how I am like I am. It's very frightening even though I'm generally very well regarded and probably don't need to feel I have to make excuses for myself all the time.

All the best

Tom

[Tim G]

I would say that the best option would be just to tell him straight off so he dosent get confused or has mixed messages if you bring it into a convosation or hint at it. - This may work but for me I like to be told things how they are so not to get confused also it shows honisty and openess which is good.

However if you feel that you cant realy explane yourself well or too afried to then do it by letter - write exactly what you want him to know and how you feel. - That way there is a lot less chance of it going wrong and probably less worry for you.

[Dandelion]

I'd been with my grilfriend for a year before she was diagnosed, and had always suspected there was something a bit awry. She'd always reminded me of a marionette where the strings were a bit tangled and that bothered me at first. Especially the way she kept spilling things and forgetting stuff.

Once diagnosed though, I felt that we could both get a handle on the situation and work together on dealing with the issues and generally understanding what was going on. It made a real difference! She also got diagnosed with mild Aspergers (I always thought she was a bit quiet!) and Dyslexia too.

Still with her after 4, wonderful (if sometimes frustrating!) years

[Kimiann]

I'm very lucky to be in a wonderful marriage of 29yrs and my hubby says my dyspraxia is part of me and if I was "normal" he probably wouldn't love me. He also said it means I'm never boring!! So I think the best thing to do is be honest, then he will understand why you do certain things and not take things the wrong way. I know my son (who is also dyspraxic) is always honest with his girlfriends. The other thing is if he can't cope with you having a "disability" you're better off knowing sooner rather than later.

[molsonsnobunny]

I know this topic is abit old and I hope that you have brought it up to your partner, If you haven't just be open and honest, like was mentioned just say you found something out about yourself.

I told my bf ( and hes the only person outside of my immediate family who actually knows) before I had any idea what was wrong with me, when I explained everything I felt so much better, like I could be 100% honest with someone. he appericated the honesty, and hes been unbelivably supportive. He thinks its cute because he feels like he's needed when I ask him to do things for me that I can't.