has anyoner slipped through the net? ie didnt find out about their dyspraxia until they were over 18.
Im just curious because it seems more and more poeple are slipping through the net. I did have speech problems at school when I was 4 and had therapy for 2 years. then I got moved to a mainstream school where no one knew about my previous problems. No reports were passed on to my new school and therefore my enw school didnt find out and nor did my high school so I was wondering if anyone has had similar problems?
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I think slipping through the net is very common - I didn't find out until 4-5 months after turning 18. And I know I'm not alone in that, especially on here.
Funny though, I knew of Dyspraxia before I was diagnosed, from people I'd met that had it. And all of them were diagnosed really early on in thier life.
Here's a question - of those that weren't diagnosed until after turning 18 - do you have more of the physical side of dyspraxia or the mental side? All those I knew who were diagnosed early on had mostly the physical side. Yet I have the more hidden mental side of things, wasn't particulary clumsy as a child, etc.
Funny though, I knew of Dyspraxia before I was diagnosed, from people I'd met that had it. And all of them were diagnosed really early on in thier life.
Here's a question - of those that weren't diagnosed until after turning 18 - do you have more of the physical side of dyspraxia or the mental side? All those I knew who were diagnosed early on had mostly the physical side. Yet I have the more hidden mental side of things, wasn't particulary clumsy as a child, etc.
Benny.
i was diagnosed at 44 and it was only because i decided to go to university as a mature student, did it come to light. up until then i had never even heard of dyspraxia. i now thank the stars for starting university because its better late than never, and learning that i have dyspraxia has certainly changed the way that i look at myself.
Hmm, am I unusual in that I was diagnosed at 11? Or is it just that others who didn't slip through the net haven't mentioned it here?
If it's unusual I credit it to my unusually paranoid parents. Early diagnosis is one advnatage of this.
The disadvantage largely being the vicariously learned paranoid traits I appear to possess.
If it's unusual I credit it to my unusually paranoid parents. Early diagnosis is one advnatage of this.
The disadvantage largely being the vicariously learned paranoid traits I appear to possess.
I would disagree with that. Diagnosis of specific learning difficulties is currently at a record high, according to data revealed by dyspraxia specialist and senior educational psychologist Madeleine Portwood. Things have improved dramatically over the last decade. There is a long way to go, but at least things are not getting worse.Im just curious because it seems more and more poeple are slipping through the net.
(Incidentally, I was diagnosed at fifteen years and seven months.)
diagnosed at 31 about a year ago.
Looking back it is gob smacking that I was un diagnosed - but it wasn't recognisde when I was at school and I am VERY good at compensating - I just don't do the things that i can';t do.
the physical stuff has got better as I've got older but my little girl asked me how to skip with a skipping rope and I can't teach her because I can't do it
I some times wonder what it would've been like to know when I was little s good to know now though, made a HUGE impact in my life. I'm kinda living those changes on my own except for here! my lovely hubby just doesn't quite get why it's such a big deal
Looking back it is gob smacking that I was un diagnosed - but it wasn't recognisde when I was at school and I am VERY good at compensating - I just don't do the things that i can';t do.
the physical stuff has got better as I've got older but my little girl asked me how to skip with a skipping rope and I can't teach her because I can't do it
I some times wonder what it would've been like to know when I was little s good to know now though, made a HUGE impact in my life. I'm kinda living those changes on my own except for here! my lovely hubby just doesn't quite get why it's such a big deal
i'm like you Ruth, i am an excellent compensater and if i can't do it, i don't. furthermore, in the short time since i've been diagnosed, just three months, there has been an enormous change in my life.
for one thing, i've become far more sympathetic to myself and more understanding of my difficulties. I am no longer waiting for life to some how miraculessly change and become easier for myself, i accept (most of the time) that i have a learning difficulty and that is why somethings are harder.
overall i've found a freedom to appreciate more of my finner qualities withouot offsetting them against some of my less than brilliant asspects. for example, my social clumsiness and the fact that i have social nuiance of a bull in a china shop and i am hopless at reading non oral communications. i am refrering to my relationships or failed attempts at dating. this is in spite of being very intuitive at times and understanding people better than they understand themselves sometimes.
also i've found that my friends do not, and are reluctant to, even discuss my condition and treat it as a bit of an afterthought. which is frustrating but i guess is a good thing as it means that they don't see me as a dysprxic but as simply Nick.
for one thing, i've become far more sympathetic to myself and more understanding of my difficulties. I am no longer waiting for life to some how miraculessly change and become easier for myself, i accept (most of the time) that i have a learning difficulty and that is why somethings are harder.
overall i've found a freedom to appreciate more of my finner qualities withouot offsetting them against some of my less than brilliant asspects. for example, my social clumsiness and the fact that i have social nuiance of a bull in a china shop and i am hopless at reading non oral communications. i am refrering to my relationships or failed attempts at dating. this is in spite of being very intuitive at times and understanding people better than they understand themselves sometimes.
also i've found that my friends do not, and are reluctant to, even discuss my condition and treat it as a bit of an afterthought. which is frustrating but i guess is a good thing as it means that they don't see me as a dysprxic but as simply Nick.
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I have been diagnosed about 6 weeks ago at the age of 33, but because of other problems as a mature student at uni, doing a second degree.
I don't think it would have been picked up at school. Because I was sent to a private school whose teachers only bothered to teach the top pupils in the class, when I went to a public school at the age of 9 I had a lot of catching up to do - so the problem was thought to be bad schooling rather than a learning diability... but having said that I was born three months premature at 2lbs in weight so this could be the root cause of the problem (so I guess I got off lightly...)
I don't think it would have been picked up at school. Because I was sent to a private school whose teachers only bothered to teach the top pupils in the class, when I went to a public school at the age of 9 I had a lot of catching up to do - so the problem was thought to be bad schooling rather than a learning diability... but having said that I was born three months premature at 2lbs in weight so this could be the root cause of the problem (so I guess I got off lightly...)
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In was diagnosed at 16 still shockingly late I think as my dyspraxia is quite severe. Though at diffrent points it was highlighted I had obvious difficulties that were often raised no one bothered to pursue discovering what the cause was. I think as I was at the top of the ability to range I was deemed a very low priority for help. Which I can appreciate to an extent as if you have lots of dramaticaly failing children unable to read a high achiever does not seem very significant. Given that I till couldn't write legibly at 16 which in my eyes is a significant problem.
hi Ruth.
yeah i allways used to have a problem saying anything good about myself, it was allways much easier to crtisize and find faults rather than look for something good to say about myself. however, years of conscious practise, means that sometimes I can be more positive about myself and i'm much less likely to be critical these days. In fact I make apoint of looking for the positive and if I find myself surounded by negative people, i simply move away.
I was taking part in a motivational group at university and the man who ran the group wanted us to do an exercise, and spell our names with positive affirmations. for example, "Nice Intelligent Caring Kind", nearly everyone in the group realy struggled but because i had years of therapy etc etc i had very little problem with it. it never seems to amaze me how much can be fixed by a simple change in attitude and the courage to try it a different way. I used to, and still do, over analays everything and thought that anything good had to be earned through the expression of pain. I stopped beleiving that years ago but it can still colour my thinking sometimes.
yeah i allways used to have a problem saying anything good about myself, it was allways much easier to crtisize and find faults rather than look for something good to say about myself. however, years of conscious practise, means that sometimes I can be more positive about myself and i'm much less likely to be critical these days. In fact I make apoint of looking for the positive and if I find myself surounded by negative people, i simply move away.
I was taking part in a motivational group at university and the man who ran the group wanted us to do an exercise, and spell our names with positive affirmations. for example, "Nice Intelligent Caring Kind", nearly everyone in the group realy struggled but because i had years of therapy etc etc i had very little problem with it. it never seems to amaze me how much can be fixed by a simple change in attitude and the courage to try it a different way. I used to, and still do, over analays everything and thought that anything good had to be earned through the expression of pain. I stopped beleiving that years ago but it can still colour my thinking sometimes.