New Dates

[Liz944]

Does anyone else have the problem with feeling very akward and unsure of themselves on first dates? Especially after having a break up from a long term relationship?

Has anyone found anything which breaks the ice a little and makes the date go smoother?

[Little Miss Anxious]

Yes, I am still grieving over my breakup bus as for my first date we were just drinking and chatting in the house which was cool with me. They say compliments and asking them about their interests and hobbies help, also talk about your view in life and she if he has some of the same beliefs as you. If he does. Bingo!

[Creative]

I've only had 2 boyfriends and tht was quite a while ago. I can't imagine dating again.

[Lumic]

i split up from my ex 4 years ago and since then i loved first dates found them exciting .. i am a very confident person thou on the outside and love meeting new people having a laugh and doing something new also. ive made a few mates from 1st dates too where there wasnt anything there at all except friends..currently with my bf now who i met 8 mths ago i think after the 1st date i was soo intregiged 2nd date was 2hrs for lunch after the 3rd date i knew i wanted to go out with him and very very happy now

[Little Miss Anxious]

am glad to hear it numic. Reccon that will happen me? I'm not sure put I think my ex has added me as one of his friends in bebo coz I recognise his email address. What does that mean? wb

[Lumic]

it will happen one day wen u least expect it and not looking for it.. i never wanted a relationship and now wouldnt swap it for the world.. although even after 8 mths its still fresh n new as he works away 2 weeks at a time so it make s me appreciate him n vice versa i actuallyt want to see him its not a chore

as for ex's adding u on social networking sites am sorry but this is my opionon it doesnt mean anything.. i know it may seem like oo he still cares but the truth generally is that people try n add u too see what your up too who ur with etc etc, its human nature to be curious .. a few of my ex's have tried to add me on facebook.. i dont see the point they are an ex for a reason... just cut ties to me it seems like ur hanging/clinging on waiting for him to make a move.. this is not healthy.. enjoy your life go out have fun make new friends get a hobby jus enjoy life... that is far more attractive to any man and before you knopw it you would have forgot about the "ex" moved on and met someone soo much better... but hey thats my opionon and my outlook on life...

[Little Miss Anxious]

I miss him soo much. It hurts so much and I would like to know why he would want to let go of me. I tried so hard to make this relationship work and I thought I was doing well.I still think we were the perfect fit and I love all his ways and Whish I could see him again. I would like a penpal on this please. Is there anyone who will be my penpal other than men??? wb

[Little Miss Anxious]

Hey there!

I have been on some dates already, nice experiences.

I have no friends except my ex I think.

my ex and I have been friends for a year before we went out and was my 3rd ex.

I have met many people offline from plentyoffish.com and benaughty.com.


A guy called Paul I had been with on 12 dates in total and even though it ended I have really enjoyed my time with him.

I am more concerned about Jeus's return and meeting the creator now when I die or when judgment day occures.

[Tim G]

it will happen one day wen u least expect it and not looking for it.. i never wanted a relationship and now wouldnt swap it for the world

I agree with you entirley - I was the same after a fue failed relationships so I decied not to bother realy and just to have some fun. Then I meet the girl I am with now and i just let it see how it went, no expectation of what will happen or what I want at first.

I belive that if you go out trying to get somone then eather you wont find anyone or if you do it wont work beceuse you looking for somthing which isent there in the first place. - The best thing to do is to be open and see what comes your way and how things work out etc.