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Little Miss Anxious
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Expressing my full self

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How do I express my true self to my family?
I am 24, have mild disability / Dyspraxia.

I am confident and believe that sex is healthy and human nature and it can be enjoyable. well it is healthy when both are protected and comfortable and healthy and it is consented.

I have decided that I don't want a boyfriend but I do want sex which I believe is fine and I will accept fbs , friends with benefits.

I want fun, sex and to feel comfortable and safe with the person but don't want to settle down.

I want sex but feel that it is better to be honest about that with a man so that I don't just get a boyfriend so that I can have sex because I feel that is wrong and would be using him and I want to explore life, be more independent and would be lieing to myself if I took that approach to get sex because I know that I don't want to settle down.

I am quite healthy, wise and very loving as well but I feel there is nothing wrong with what I want to do if I look after myself and if it is consented.

I have done webcam, including sex and nudity with one person who I like and am attracted to and wanted to arouse. I am glad I have experienced that.

I do lust after guys, so I want to experience it so that I won't be as eager to have a casual sex when I have a boyfriend or partner or husband

I do want to settle down eventually but not yet, I want to stand on my own two feet for a while but I don't want to withdraw from sex for that long. I love sex and I enjoy it.

I have many interests and not just sex and I am musical.

All I want is non strings attached protected sex with somebody I feel comfortable with and want to have sex with.

I want my own place etc.

I want to be in control of how I live my life and to be accepted by my family.

I do care about people including my family and it is my life. I don't want to regret anything or wish I did those things I didn't get to do when I die.

I live giving pleasure including sex and I like receiving pleasure. I don't regret any of it.

But how do I explain this to my family......

Thanks for listening.

WB....

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Re: Expressing my full self

Post by Tom fod »

I sort of understand where you're coming from even though I guess I'm a bit of a traditionalist and would want guarantee of exclusivity with any partner myself or maybe it's insecurities about her going off with someone else because I'm no good. Not all blokes are confident as they may seem.

As for explaining yourself to your family, why should you have to? How much of their business is it and do they need/want to know the details. As long as you're being safe and sensible its your choice and should not affect them. Best to be discrete with such stuff as much as you can.

Take care and all the best

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