feels ledt out

[bettypage123]

hi im new to this sight , my 8year old dsughter have dyspraxa, and over time found out ive got it too , but not sure if they wil test on adults. ??

hope they do it might help me , feel like i cant do anythink, cant go out when i do im worred ppl are looking at me and thinking im stupid, get tremers, shakes, poorly head , moodswing, clumsy. when i go out i have a habbit of bumping in to ppl and things , and im worred ppl might hit me and so on . feel like i cant be a good mother at times as i cant talk her places

does any1 else have panic attacs and thing like that .

[bettypage123]

i just worry . maybe cuz of my past experience.. when ive been out and im haveing my tremers i start to stutter and shake .. ppl with say , omg she a mong , and have been picked on at school so ppl are putt off by me , cuz im alway doing somthing to show my self up but i look narmal to the eye , or so i like to think , find it really hard to make friend , and if i do , its not for long , cant be in big groups of ppl , , .. , all ive wantd was mate to except me , but ppl get the wrong impression , i have 1 true friend and that the father of my kids, my hubby to be, but i
really dont no why he put up with me... im always moody get really paranoide, i pulled down the exmas tree last year , becouse i got frustrated, and so forth ,
im not a nasty person and i do have a soft and loving side, but some days i morf into somthink that im not . ive tryed so hard to controole it but just cant, ,

i get angry with myself , my other relashonship never lasted long thay always say .. really dont no what i want . and end up , leaving me .. im just so lucky to have the man ive got .. does any 1 relate to me .. need some advice , feel so left out xxxxxxxxxx

[Grackle]

I'm sorry to hear that you are having such a hard time of things. It sounds to me that you have a lot of anxiety too - not surprising, many of us do. I think that it would be very helpful for you to get a diagnosis (if you can). I was diagnosed with something related as a child (clumsy child syndrome) and just knowing that it isn't my fault is huge for me. I spent a lot of my time in the past being embarrassed, frustrated and kicking myself for making mistakes or dropping, bumping etc. Now that I have accepted this as a part of myself, other people seem less likely to say something. If they do say something, it doesn't tend to bother me a lot. If someone calls me a klutz or something, I just say "Yes, I am!" (with a cheerful or frustrated tone of voice depending on circumstances). See if you can get some help from the doctor with anxiety. I find that if I'm anxious that a lot more things go wrong and I don't deal with the consequences very well.

I don't know if any of that was any help but you're not alone. There aren't usually that many of us on the site at any given time, so it might seem like nobody is listening sometimes, but we are here eventually.

[Osymandus]

Hi Bettypage (cool name btw ive read much of your work ).
Yes adults willl be tested , theres no stigma attached , and its teh first step to boosting and giving you your own sense of control back .
Good news on being Dyspraxic is you actually may well have higher then average intellegence (your here so its a good start )

For diagnosis go see your GP , ask to be refered to see a psychologist with occupational or educational therapy , also talk to them about your anxiety/stress , its affecting your day to day life and GP's really do want to help (even those that seem a bit gruff want to catch peopel before they get worse if only to reduce their paper work )

There is of course the Dyspraxic Foundation who are geared to helping Children and adults with childre (giving support and advice ).
And an Adult advice telephone line (open 10am-5pm Wednesdays ) and an email address to contact anytime .
1268 785838 or via email DyspraxiaAdvice@aol.com
Hope this helps and we are out there (oh yes you may also want to say hi to DANDA as well http://www.danda.org.uk/)

[bettypage123]

thanks guy , been to the doctor this moring, and i think hes going to her me got to wait for my appoinment to come in the post,

and hope i find out for sure if ive got dyspraxia and hope i get lots of help to cope a little better..i just find evey day life a struggle, really get me down .. sorry to go on , and thanks for your advice , it really helped me.

just hope he give me the right appintment as my doctor just think dypraxia was just for hand writeing lol silly man ... im not doctor but i no it effects every day to day life.. but mabe i do need to lern a little more

p.s sorry about my spelling . xx

[Osymandus]

Lol no worries i have Dyslexia as well And yes some Doctors don't have teh right info

[bettypage123]

wellim going to keep my fingers crossed and hope thing will work out fine,

get to see the doctor about my anxiety, but i think it more then that , but hope i get the answers i neeed. and i can see it writen down after all these years i can fanally find out what wrong...

but 1 question , is does dyprazia run in famliys?