Relationships

[Alex]

I havnt had a relationship for over 3 years and my longest relationship was only 6 weeks maybe some people judge me before they know me does anyone else have this problem Alex

[Creative]

I haven't had a relationship for 5 years. The relationship only lasted about 3 nonths. My friend who's 24 like me has never had a relationship.

[Alex]

Do people find find u strange and get put off you when you say to people or a person that you really like that your dyspraxic?

[Creative]

I haven't discussed my dyspraxia with a boyfriend. When I was in my last relationship I didn't understand how dyspraxia effects me as well as I do know. If a person I like can't understand my dysprxic difficulties I wouldn't want to have a relationship with them.

[Alex]

I have told some people about my dyspraxia privious girlfriends and thats true if they dont fully understand dyspraxia then why have a relationship with them most girls i speak to judge me because of what i have before they know me do you have this problem with guys?

[Remus]

I haven't discussed my dyspraxia with a boyfriend. When I was in my last relationship I didn't understand how dyspraxia effects me as well as I do know. If a person I like can't understand my dysprxic difficulties I wouldn't want to have a relationship with them.

I have never been in a relationship and personally, I don't think I would want to. That road looks like it has got disaster written all over it.

I agree with you, Creative. Dyspraxia comes with the package, if that person didn't like it or understood it, tough luck.

[Creative]

I don't get to meet any guys my age. I do voluntary work and I don't often come into contact with young adults. When I do I worry that I seem different to them because of my dyspraxia and that I wont fit in with them. If I got to know a young adult well (I'm 24) then I would probably relax more and I wouldn't feel so selfconsious if I found something difficult or if I didn't understand something they said.

[Alex]

yh I have that all the time Iam almost 20 and think girls are put off by the fact iam dyspraxic and i wouldnt want to say the wrong thing if i was talking to them face to face i get very nervous very quickly and dont want to make a fool out of myself i reckon the best relationship you could have as i said earlier is someone that is dyspraxic

[keiraknightleyfan27]

I have not told any men except my dad and he is supportive. Everyone in my family knows, but sometimes I fear that guys judge me before they get to know me. Even though they don't know I have it, I think they think I'm "special" or "weird" or something like that and generally stay away. Also, I'm shy so that complicates things even more.

[Lady Fluff]

I'm lucky as my partner has dyspraxia as well - in fact, it was finding out she was and learning about what it was that prompted me to be tested for it.

No one does the DIY in our household!!!

[char89]

[I haven't discussed my dyspraxia with a boyfriend. When I was in my last relationship I didn't understand how dyspraxia effects me as well as I do know. If a person I like can't understand my dysprxic difficulties I wouldn't want to have a relationship with them


I have major problems with my relationship apparently im over the top with my affection and i like to talk talk and spend alot of time with him. I dont understand the affects of Disbraxcia at all im new to this can you help and explain some basic stuff that can afect a relationship ?? thank you x

[cpr02]

im not 100 percent certain but ill give it a go ! sometimes people with dyspraxia like there own space and dont like constantly having to be around people this could make moving in with your partner difficult as he would always be there so may need to understand when to back off a bit and give some space

People with dyspraxia can find interaction with others in large groups / or just in general a struggle so may not like to socilise that much due to this which could make finding a partener difficult when out they may not be able to judge others intentions body laungauge or pick up on social cues as easily this may mean they just don't know when its there turn to speak in a conversation or interrupt others frequently and come accross as tactless or become distracted easily - and loose track of the conversation this could all be things that someone who doesnt have dyspraxia could struggle to deal with / understand

There can also be a dislike of touch and a need to maintain personal space this could also be diffcult

also and finaly some people can have really good days where there dyspraxia is barley noticable and really bad days where it is very noticable this could also be diffcult to understand i think that when you find the right person they WILL understand !! hope i helped

[WTCCFan]

im not 100 percent certain but ill give it a go ! sometimes people with dyspraxia like there own space and dont like constantly having to be around people this could make moving in with your partner difficult as he would always be there so may need to understand when to back off a bit and give some space

People with dyspraxia can find interaction with others in large groups / or just in general a struggle so may not like to socilise that much due to this which could make finding a partener difficult when out they may not be able to judge others intentions body laungauge or pick up on social cues as easily this may mean they just don't know when its there turn to speak in a conversation or interrupt others frequently and come accross as tactless or become distracted easily - and loose track of the conversation this could all be things that someone who doesnt have dyspraxia could struggle to deal with / understand

Highly agree. On the Monday after Boxing Day I went to a party for the local Athletics Club at the pub over the road from the club. I saw lots of social groups of different sizes but I never felt I had a place in any of them. I would have just barged in and made a nuisance of myself. I wanted to, but I wasn't confident I would have been wanted or had a place in the group. I find it hard to even make myself known in a one-to-one situation for exactly the same reason. I am not wholly confident again I am wanted or that person wants to know me when they would prefer to know someone more exciting than me.

reading body language is also a major issue. People make such an issue of it however. And if body language wasn't such an issue I would be better off.

There can also be a dislike of touch and a need to maintain personal space this could also be diffcult

I love people touching me. Though I do like private space.

also and finaly some people can have really good days where there dyspraxia is barley noticable and really bad days where it is very noticable this could also be diffcult to understand i think that when you find the right person they WILL understand !! hope i helped

I totally agree with that to.

[Shadwell]

sorry I haven't responded earlier to this posting Alex, as only just come across it, but yes, even when you tell people your dyspraxic, they tend not to look it up, and then can't understand the social side of it, let alone how it effects you on day to day living.

ok so not every experiance is like that, but was msn'ing one dyspraxic (not our regulars), and even though enjoying the conversations with her, she was after moving things along a bit too fast, like she wanted to meet up, and even the inevitable. within a short space of time, and as she had joined the web-site (how she got my msn details), then I had to make out that I had a person that I fancied, not going to mention the person, she will know who she is if she reads this.

it kind of scared me off rather a lot, as I like to get to know the person first, and go with the flow, but she was trying to push too much, and too soon in the early stages.

I was after meeting up, but not until we got to know eachother a bit better first. it wasn't like nothing would ever happen, who knows maybe it would if we got through to that stage.

but I think people think that everybody is the same they want just one thing, rather than getting to know people first, and getting comfortable with the situation first.

[Alex]

Thank You for the reply like you i do like to get to know the person first before meeting up other things. but i started to speak to a girl at work then she added me on msn facebook etc i told her i was dyspraxic and i just get the feeling that she was entirely put off which was rather starange even after i explained what it was but she eyes me up a lot at work but i wouldnt want anything to happen but i just think that some people need to see what we see to completely understand what dyspraxia is

Alex