socalising

[Alex]

I get invited to a lot of things but i always turn them down as like you i feel of better things to do but i do regreat not going out as again seeing the pictures on facebook and thinking i really wish i would have gone out

[krackerz1590]

i have low self-esteem to AS dyspraxia and MH probs ,social communication difficulties due to AS and social anxiety due to all three too not making it easy to socialise i used to say 'no' to my friends when asked me to go out with them i now try to accept try my hardest i go clubbing down town even though mentally worn down by end of night as use up more energy than most! i used my mates as tools of helping me learn new ways of coping i got out with people i trust alot i find noisy crowded clubs hard to deal with stressful hard going grr.... but i don't want to feel like a freak failure let my friends down like a disappointment which i done before!!!

[Alex]

I must say i have been recently invited to a christmas party at work i went to the 1 last year but all me friends want me to come out but i just feel lost sometimes and there are so many people to talk to i get along with just about everyone at work but one of me mates really wants me to go but i dont know what to do!!

[krackerz1590]

i going out with the work girls on saturday as it's a girl's leaving meal it starts at 7.30pm chinese restuarant in a way i can't wait i'm excited and next minute i thinking about it all time about the social situation i'm going to be put in and how i going to manage it and 'fit in' even though they so understanding and supportive of me get scared and worried i'm 'trip up' and make a 'fool' out of myself on the night once there probably begin to relax and chill more just getting comfortable with environment as never been there before i will be mentally tired worn down drained by the end of the night be trying to be 'one of them' it's so frustrating and annoying never feel like i'm one of them however much i or they try to make the effort feel like i'm on my own socially all the time and that hurts alot to know this!

[Alex]

the good thing is that you are going out for one of your colleagues leaving so you dont have to try hard to fit in i have made that mistake and i reckon you wont need to try and fit in so as you say just relax iam sure you will be fine good luck

[Evasura]

I love parting and dancing!and I hate the crowds but when I'm dancing, after a couple of punches and a kick and a few sorry sorry sorry sorrys (if you say it very fast and with a very apologetic voice people seem to find it funny and if not, I don't care) I always end up with plenty of space around myself to dance. And my friends seem to know where my punches are gonna go anbd they hold me when I'm gonna fall down. Didn't have any good friends tl I was 19, but now I love it!

[StageFighter]

I used to go out quite a lot in my teens and now I've kind of reverted - I find meeting new people very stressful if I'm in the wrong frame of mind - it can cause me a great deal of anxiety on several levels. Even if see people I know in the street, unless I know them very well, I will often pretend I didn't see them to avoid the stress of talking to them. I often find it very hard to start and in particular, finish conversations. On the phone can be even worse. As for going out at night - I used to enjoy it, but then I drank more when I was in my teens - now I tend to find the situation intimidating and I find myself - on the rare occasions that I go out - on edge and unsure of what to do with myself. Even sending people texts can cause me so much distress that I will avoid doing it to the point that replies become long overdue.

[dyspraxiascotland]

Hi my name is Callum and Im new to this site so just wanted to say Hi to everbody first of all! Regarding socialisng im much better at it now than i have ever been im 29 now so do not go to as many nightclubs as i used to but still do ocasionaly. I try to avoid dancing like the plague as i generally end up hitting somebody with a stray leg or arm and end up apoligisng 5o million times! The bighgest problem i have tho is when there is more than 2 people sitting round a table having dru=inks i can never consentrate and loose track of whats being said and whats going on. 2 or 3 people is fine more htan that and people think in being quiet or disitrested in the conversatioan which couldnt be further from the truth!