Women

[Alex]

best leave it well alone my friend seems to have a screw loose if you know what i mean

[david456]

Careful, not to ask out girls that know each other in a short space of time. Also if they have a boyfriend forget it .

[Alex]

yes very good point i have girls that have boyfriends but i wouldnt go there if you know what i mean

[WTCCFan]

best leave it well alone my friend seems to have a screw loose if you know what i mean

I don't like to think of it that way. I like to hink of her as the drama queen you want to like. She is a very hard worked tho aside from that.

Careful, not to ask out girls that know each other in a short space of time. Also if they have a boyfriend forget it

I don't know how much you have looked into the history of this thread, or even if you have, but I was very lucky that Gemma still wants a good working relationship with me. The whole office seems a very friendly one. Most girls I think won't be so forgiving if you make an approach for her and she has a boyfriend.

[Alex]

well i wish you luck mate dont really know what else to say

[WTCCFan]

well i wish you luck mate dont really know what else to say

I think we have convered everything Alex. All I can say though is if your talking about a second shot at Gemma then she and I were never meant to be and I am fine with that. She has a boyfriend already.

But on Thursday I learned that one of my closest colleagues (a wonderful and kind South African born woman called Natalia) is leaving - her funding has ran out to continue with doing what she does in company and she plans on writing a book and then probably getting into holistic therapy. But she has one or to other interests.

I really plan on telling her how much I will miss her and maybe she feels as much for me as I do about her.

[Alex]

Yes do it otherwise you will proberly regreat it just take it easy iam sure it will be fine good luck hope it all goes well

[david456]

Yes, indeed I have read through the whole thread . It's good that everyone gets on in your office. Any girl worth her salt shouldn't all of a sudden avoid you because you asked her out, so it's good that this hasn't been the case.

I once asked out a girl at school, but I was unaware she was seeing someone at the time. (Otherwise I wouldn't have done so) She politely told me she was seeing someone and we just stayed friends.

[WTCCFan]

You, and especially my best buddy Alex, will be overjoyed at the news from today. I know I seem like I am hogging the limelight a tad - but I have all fingers and toes crossed that something comes from my best mates chances in his own life (wherever they happen to be) - but theirs good news....of sorts.

This girl (Lisa), who we help teach adult learners about the Internet and Emailing is my latest hope...as you may or may not know. Well, at every chance I got I made a note to get close enough to not just a friendly, light and gentle resting of my hand on her but also stand physically as close as I can (i.e. she mispelt "Google" as "Goggle" on the whiteboard and I was able to lead her by her hand where we had a laugh at the mistake).
And you know what? She never flinched an inch. She was as happy as anything it seems for me to do those things. Not once did she move away. Which was very encouraging indeed. Plus when it came for me to set up a projector in the upstairs meeting room I managed to steal a peck on the cheek.

Moral of the story? If you like her....don't be afraid at all to give her a light and gentle friendly touch with your hand..providing she likes you as much. Because let me tell you guys, girls, in my example, clearly it seems do not mind at all being touched if it is a friendly, light and gentle touch in a very un-intimate and un-sexual way on an area far from any sensitive area. For instance when leaning over together to see something on a PC screen or in a book, try putting your hand on her shoulder as a rest, or if you want to get past her place your palm on her back. She won't mind at all, I am willing to bet.

Good luck guys.

[Alex]

congrats mate thats fantastic news and she must like you for letting you touch her and move her hand to the mispelt word she must obviuously like you as well because of what she let you do I have no one now still waiting on the right person however maybe iam right or maybe iam wrong there is a girl I work with at spectrum another lifeguard called Alice she has a bf so I will stay well clear and make sure i dont do anything i will regreat but since the day i started she couldnt take her eyes off me she keeps giving me looks i cant really describe the look but i think she might like me also she always stands close to me and didnt want me to leave when she took me off one of the positions i was lifeguarding at the time and today i was lifeguarding the compotion pool and she started touching my shoe laces i know this sounds starange mate but hopefully it makes sense

[WTCCFan]

congrats mate thats fantastic news and she must like you for letting you touch her and move her hand to the mispelt word she must obviuously like you as well because of what she let you do.

Thanks.

I have no one now still waiting on the right person however maybe iam right or maybe iam wrong there is a girl I work with at spectrum another lifeguard called Alice she has a bf so I will stay well clear and make sure i dont do anything i will regreat but since the day i started she couldnt take her eyes off me she keeps giving me looks i cant really describe the look but i think she might like me also she always stands close to me and didnt want me to leave when she took me off one of the positions i was lifeguarding at the time and today i was lifeguarding the compotion pool and she started touching my shoe laces i know this sounds starange mate but hopefully it makes sense

The touching of the laces is a bit on the strange side but maybe - though I am just wildly guessing here - and perhaps their IS something to her moves and she ain't really happy with her boyfriend. I cannot imagine for a moment she is stringing you along and when you move in she will accuse you of trying to wreck her relationship. SOME girls are like that. That doesn't mean ALL. But I reckon the more likely scenario is that she is just perhaps a very flirtateous girl who likes us boys. Thought that I think could go only halfway (if that) to explaining the need to stand close to you.

I wouldn't take chance in any case. I would, if I were you, just maintain a distance for now but sit down and tactfully talk to her by trying to move the chat toward understanding exactly if she does indeed like you or not. I am afraid I cannot offer any suggestions as to what to say. But I am sure you will be able to think of something.

I wish you tho all the very best of luck.

[Alex]

cheers for that mate she loves her bf to peices and i wouldnt make a move as she is already in a relationship she was in again today and eyed me up a few times but iam going to keep me distence and wait and see what happens as you say it could be inacent but lets just wait and see cheers for advice mate appreceate it

[WTCCFan]

cheers for that mate she loves her bf to peices and i wouldnt make a move as she is already in a relationship she was in again today and eyed me up a few times but iam going to keep me distence and wait and see what happens as you say it could be inacent but lets just wait and see cheers for advice mate appreceate it

No probs. Happy to help. Hell, even drop me an email if you want any help and advice (as far removed from an Agony Uncle I am). Just say the word and I will PM my email to you.

Because remember that although I don't pretend to be some Agony Uncle with some degree in psychology or something, I feel I am perfectly qualified however to give heartfelt advice if I care enough about helping to achieve a degree of happiness in a persons life. And doing what you have wisely chosen to do - keep a safe distance - sounds just fine. Doing the things she does seems odd for a girl in a relationship. So I wouldn't take a chance either way.

That is the prob with us Dyspraxics - I think we care too much about fellow people. But then you look around and see the lack of consideration and respect some people have for each other and maybe that ain't a bad thing.

[Alex]

no not at all i care a lot for people like you say and your right there is this one girl at work who actrally cant stand me i dont like her very much and its all because i made a complaint about her when i got assulted at work and she did nothing so i went to me boss the nxt day and from that point on she cant stand me i hope she goes soon thats the only person i dont get on with at all and for the first time ever i actrally feel part of a group instead of being pushed out like i was before did you or do you have the same problem?

[WTCCFan]

did you or do you have the same problem?

Of course being bullied at school I always was picked on and left out. But not that I recall since then.

But this last day or two at work I have felt, maybe me being paranoid, whilst they have been very pleasant to me, one or more persons have gone behind my back to Kathy Smith (a volunteer co-ordinator) and made comments about my work standard and Kathy has taken immediate action and swiftly got me to do something else.

I will explain in the form of an example. Today I covered reception for about an hour. I recieved a call from a woman from some office supply chain and wanted to speak to Julie (Julie Boyack - the boss-lady of Age Concern South Tyneside). I hit the button to transfer her over to Mrs Boyack, she answered and I explain who was on the phone but, and I don't know what had happened (probably I was doing something wrong), the woman on the phone wasn't making contact with Mrs Boyack and again this woman from this office supply chain rung and again same outcome. Later she (Mrs Boyack) came down and, unless it was my imagination, she seemed a little miffed that this was happening all the time whilst she was doing whatever it was she was doing. Co-incidentally, a little later Kathy called Gemma (the girl who I gave the Valentines card to and who I was working with on reception) to tell me to work instead downstairs on something called the Service Brochure which is a brochure detailing all the services the organisation has.

I am wondering if Mrs Boyack went to Kathy and she said words to the effect that be being on reception wasn't working and that I need to be asked off to do something else instead.

Ever had the feeling people have done that to you?