Women

[Alex]

that was very good you got the card in without her noticing well done unlucky mate iam sure somthing will come up it is the thought that counts i actrally have a valintine for the 1st time ever even though she has a boyfriend but iam treding carefully i think personally she likes me even though she has a boyfriend but we have been on and off for 3 yrs but iam going to see how it goes she is coming to see me when i move to butlins so fingers crossed changing the subject completely aplogises dont know weather i told you i passed my pool test and am now a lifeguard for butlins i was very pleased with myself and there are some really good looking

[Creative]

Why is she sending you a valentines card when she has a boyfriend? I bet her boyfriend doesn't know she has sent you a card.

[Alex]

she didnt send me a card not that i know of anyway she wanted me to be her valintine but iam treding very carefully just in case somthing happens

[WTCCFan]

that was very good you got the card in without her noticing well done unlucky mate iam sure somthing will come up it is the thought that counts

Thanks Alex. That means a lot to me. I have actually two more lives (or chances) left. A girl who works in admin on the training programme who turned my voluntary work with my local Age Concern office into a 12 week, 5-day a week placement, is realy friendly with me and who I like too - though her work keeps me from seeing her regularly). I know it doesn't mean she is single when a girl (and I speak generally her about any girl) is friendly with you but I feel I can still try. And a lovely woman who is about my height who helps me teach a class in Internet & Email on Friday afternoons. Again I know it doesn't mean that because she is nice and friendly to me that she is necessarily single, but again I feel I am still aloowed to try. But more than with this lovely girl on the training programme who turned my volunatary work with my local Age Concern office into a 12-week, 5-day a week placement I feel the Valentines card I sent has given me the confidence to go down a more conventional and generally accepted road and talk to this girl and find out stuff about her. So even if "nothing comes up" with the lovely Gemma then I hope something "comes up" elsewhere".

i actrally have a valintine for the 1st time ever even though she has a boyfriend but iam treding carefully i think personally she likes me even though she has a boyfriend but we have been on and off for 3 yrs but iam going to see how it goes she is coming to see me when i move to butlins so fingers crossed changing the subject completely aplogises dont know weather i told you i passed my pool test and am now a lifeguard for butlins i was very pleased with myself and there are some really good looking

I am so happy fr you Alex. It would be brilliant if she is being swayed toward being with you but I just feel even if it was in the spirit of the day's meaning then this girl I think this girl still feels something for you. Even if it isn't for a genuine relationship.

[Alex]

Thanks my friend she called me last night and is going to come and see me when i move to butlins like you say i think she may feel somthing for me who knows i think she does but iam going to wait and see what happens and even though we have been on and off for a long time i think she hasnt stopped having feelings for me how did your valintines day go yesterday?

[WTCCFan]

Thanks my friend she called me last night and is going to come and see me when i move to butlins like you say i think she may feel somthing for me who knows i think she does but iam going to wait and see what happens and even though we have been on and off for a long time i think she hasnt stopped having feelings for me

Wonderful. You don't have to take up this move I propose as it could still be a wrong move to make, but I think you and her could be in a position where you have known each other long enough to be able to properly "open up" about whatever it is that is on your mind.

I don't think you seem to be able to do that when you first meet a girl. I don't think it is something you are advised to do on account that rather than warm her to you it seems to actually drive her away.

how did your valintines day go yesterday?

Like every other day Alex. Though it ain't Friday 13th that is unlucky for me. It seems to be Saturday 14th. I went round about 20 shops with my mother in Sunderland city centre to look for a scarf for my dads birthday.

I dunno why but I live in hope I can finally be a part of Valentines Day.

[Alex]

well I was working yesterday and had to watch people snogging in the pool and it does annoy me i have to say one of thease days we will both be part of valintines day but we will just have to wait and see what happens

[WTCCFan]

well I was working yesterday and had to watch people snogging in the pool and it does annoy me i have to say one of thease days we will both be part of valintines day but we will just have to wait and see what happens

Same here. Though it doesn't even have to be Valentines Day to most people. Yep, it just seems that whilst we do live in a free country (one of the few remaining redeeming features about this land - even then not much of it remains), their isn't a whole lot of consideration and respect for others going around.

But sending those cards I have to say I think, dunno about you Alex mate, has given me the kick up that place where the sun rarely shines to give myself the will-power to talk to girls the way people would generally recommend. And that simply, and in a nutshell, is get to know them. I have now, I think, the full confidence to ask this other girl who assists this assistaint to the IT tutor about what she likes to do to relax and stuff they say girls would likely take as genuine interest in a relationship with her (like a birthday coming soon or where she likes to go on her hols). In the case of the former, it is suggested, it seems, that she reads that as you having a genuine interest in wanting to help celebrate a birthday and in the case of the latter it is suggested it seems that you have an eye on wanting to enjoy time with her. Something like that any-road.

Let's try it.

[Alex]

completely aggree there mate the thing what makes me cross and upset at the same time some not all girls go for exactly the same type of bloke and its like what has he got that we havnt i mean i've met some really nice people on here including yourself and we all share somthing like an alliance type thing anyway its like girls wont give us a try becuause i think they automatically assume that your weiard because you might walk differently and are quite nervous but we get there eventrally so we need to unite and show girls that we are here we are nice respectful people and give us a try hopefully this makes sense

[WTCCFan]

completely aggree there mate the thing what makes me cross and upset at the same time some not all girls go for exactly the same type of bloke and its like what has he got that we havnt i mean i've met some really nice people on here including yourself and we all share somthing like an alliance type thing anyway its like girls wont give us a try becuause i think they automatically assume that your weiard because you might walk differently and are quite nervous but we get there eventrally so we need to unite and show girls that we are here we are nice respectful people and give us a try hopefully this makes sense

I feel your anguish mate, I do. But on the whole I do think the less evident the problem is on the outside, the less inclined people become to actually judge you because the less of an evident problem it is less aware people are - if that makes any sense! But then the more helpful and supportive they are the less it will matter to them.

I mean I work closely with about six women in the office and not one knows I have Dypraxia because I work so well. But I know even if they did they would do all they can to support me because they are simply "that way".

Try not to let what is a mindless minority colour your view of the rest of the local community because if they are anything like my colleagues in the office then you have nothing to worry about.

This link may help for asking girls out in future. But one particular tip on the website would be move to ask this girl out who assists me in teaching (called Lisa btw). If you can do this then it won't matter if you have Dyspraxia because everybody can do this. It is tip No 10# of "Get To Know Her". It starts "Try to chat with her...."

http://www.mahalo.com/How_to_Ask_a_Girl_Out

[Alex]

thanks for that mate i will have a look and let you know how it went what we have to think though is that there is someone out there for everyone so we need to keep our heads up high and wait and see what happens thanks for the link again

[Alex]

had a look at the link you sent me mate absolutely brilleant really helped thanks for that hopefully all the things it says on the site will help the nxt time i ask a girl out thanks again

[WTCCFan]

had a look at the link you sent me mate absolutely brilleant really helped thanks for that hopefully all the things it says on the site will help the nxt time i ask a girl out thanks again

I am so very happy that it has helped you that much. Theirs no great skill y'know. It is just people who are good with relationships probably like to make out it is...for whatever reason. "Just get to know her" is that one simple rule in a nutshell I reckon.

Say, theirs been developments in my side. Gemma finally plucked up the confidence to tell Kathy (a colleague in what I think is a higher role) to tell me (because she feared - apparently - "embarassing" me if she told me herself) that she had a boyfriend but that she wanted for us to continue a happy working relationship. I said I had overheard Natalia (a close colleague of mine) say she did and tat it was "history". Sadly that is all I said. I wanted to say much more. I wanted to say I did it in the spirit of the ocassion and that I still think myself lucky I have Gemma as a colleague.

Still doesn't stop me from worrying deply about her. This time it is a really serious type of "worrying deeply". It turns out she has a problem with her heart. It is like It must skip a beat or something. It is very upsetting for me. She even talked about dying. Which shocked me. Mainly because she sounds so down about it. She also has the flu. What can I do?:(

[Alex]

thats serious mate thanks mate appreceate it look best thing you can do is be there for her as much as you can just say in a friendly way if you ever need anyone to talk to as your friend iam always here for you then see what she says even though yes she is your colleague at least she knows that your there for her i know its hard mate but for now thats the best you can do you never know 1 day she might ask you out on a date but just go along with that first hope this has helped

[WTCCFan]

...just say in a friendly way if you ever need anyone to talk to as your friend iam always here for you then see what she says even though yes she is your colleague at least she knows that your there for her....

Right now I feel like saying in a "not so frendlier way"...grow up!!

I was told by the colleague, who it seems I am assisting less and less in teaching now, that she is known for being a bit of a hypocondriac. She said the doc apparently said their was nowt wrong with her and the little "thing" that happened was probably wind.

She does seem to be a bit of a little madam though.