Romantic relationships

[Little Miss Anxious]

ok thanks kirsty. Im confused, am I ur penpal? I am waiting for another education psychology assessment to see how I have progressed, I am put on the waiting list.

[Liz944]

Like Kirsty said don't give him any money....

Personally from experience I have learn't not to lend money to others as you very rarely get it back (unless you can afford to lose it...) and never give gifts which are expensive and can be sold by the person who is given it.... always give a gift which would sentimental value or which can been enjoyed by both at same time e.g. theatre tickets.

[Little Miss Anxious]

Interesting! I am a very giving person and so is my boyfriend and is crazy about me and I adore him. Things aren't working out for him a the mo so I feel bad for him. He has been very nice to me. Can I have another penpal? Well Kirsty and Lizz how was your experiences with men? How do ye guys cope with Dyspraxia? It's great to have invisable friends like ye

[Little Miss Anxious]

Explaine to me what love is again? and how do you know you have found it or feel it?

[Little Miss Anxious]

I love romance. PLease why won't anyone answers my new posts?

[aargonaut]

Hi little miss Anxious, you asked what is love. It's difficult for AS people to comprehend. The way I explain it is; when you meet someone who you cannot bare to be seperated from, someone who cares and protects, someone who is there when you're down - and who doesn't argue or get annoyed over minor differences of opinion. Love is a feeling different from any other, it is happy but at times also sad. Love is: intimacy, closeness, wanting and sharing - often it makes the heart feel heavy and our thoughts obscured and sometimes messed up. Love is so many nice things between two people - when it happens you will know for sure.

[Little Miss Anxious]

Ya I felt all that with my ex. Would anyone on this like a penpal? I would love one.

[mattyjacko]

Im the oposite. I hate being single it is horrible i just cant be fully happy i need the comfort of knowing that someone wants to be with you and also i have a big physical need. I had a girlfriend from being 17 to 19 and i was always happy even when things werent going great and even when we were arguing i was happy but now i am nearly 21 and havent had a proper relationship since she decided she was a lesbian and left me for a girl. I love uni but i am never fully happy because not having a girlfriend brings my down.

How does everyone cope with being in a relationship?

Iv had boyfrineds in the past but it always seems to go horribley wrong; i just dont seem to be able to cope with it! Call it selfishness, but i dont like having to share my time with someone else, and always having to compromsie things to spend time with them. Having said that, maybe i just havnt found the right person. But from experience, i seem to cope much better on my own, and am happier that way. Some ppl hate being single, yet i love it!! How do everyone elses experiences tally?

[Creative]

I think you can be happy on your own. If your not happy with your life, being in a relationship wont make you any happier with it.
I'd like a relationship, but I don't meet people my age very often in my day to day voluntary work and I don't go out in the evenings.

[Little Miss Anxious]

I enoy being single and I want to find my own happyness without having to depend on anyone for it but I miss the conversations, cuddles, snogs, kisses, hugs, and telling them how I feel and them telling me how they feel, us laughing, messing and playing around like children and the feeling of being wanted and being attracive to another person and feeling safe and excited and happy in their pressence. wb

[WTCCFan]

I think you can be happy on your own. If your not happy with your life, being in a relationship wont make you any happier with it.
I'd like a relationship, but I don't meet people my age very often in my day to day voluntary work and I don't go out in the evenings.

You can be happy on your own but I know it is very hard to because of how hard it is looking at yourself, almost as a ghost, and not seeing anyone around who are in love with you. People who are succesful in relationships underestimte that because they almost for me seem to look down on single people. If they understood how hard it is for people who don't have the confidence or esteem to think they are a particular catch for anyone I think they wouldn't be looking down on so much on single people.

Also I think that a relationship does improve your happiness; ten-fold in fact. Because I think knowing that you have sold a boy or a girl into investing their love into you can vastly improve your level of peace of mind and overall contentedness because the quality of your life has just rocketed into orbit. I can only dream of how happy you can be knowing that theirs boy or girl who believe enough in you as a good enough person to fall in love with you.

But I also do voluntary work too, and I too don't go out in the evening because I feel I wouldn't stand a chance of making friends, and the receptionist in the building is just the right height for me. She is smaller than me and therefore we won't be looked on as a weird looking couple in the unlikely event I will have won her over into dating me because I would be the small one in the relationship.

What could I do to get her that won't seem like I am doing anything inappropriate and lewd?

[Creative]

It seems starnge that you are worried about this women's height. Get to know her as a friend, see if she shows signs of being interested in you, and if she does then you could ask her out.

[WTCCFan]

It seems starnge that you are worried about this women's height.

Doesn't seem that strange to me. My view is that some in society today have, for whatever reason, have seen so many relationships in everday life, (only the other day whilst at a bus-stop, over the road I saw a boyfriend who was so much taller than his girlfriend the girl only came up to chest height), developed a view I think that the taller-man/smaller-woman dynamic must be the traditonal physical look. And I think any relationship that doesn't conform to the normal list of traditional views are somewhat strange and not I think as warmly accepted.

Get to know her as a friend,

How do I do that? I don't want to do anything inappropriate that may get me in trouble with the manager.

see if she shows signs of being interested in you, and if she does then you could ask her out.

What signs may that be? I think I said elswhere that I wouldn't really know if a girl was coming on to me.

Dozens may have come on to me in the past but I couldn't tell you who came on to me and when and where because I couldn't read the signs.

It is sad so much because I think I would enjoy a girl lavishing her flirting upon me.

[Creative]

Does anyone ever go out socially where you volunteer? If they do maybe you could go as well and try to get her to go too.
To be friends with her you should chat to her and find out things about her and what she is interested in. Just try to get on well with her. I assume you have already found out that she is single?

[WTCCFan]

Does anyone ever go out socially where you volunteer?

If they do they don't invite me.

I assume you have already found out that she is single?

No. I try to have a sneaky peek at her left hand to see if one of them has a ring on it. If their is I stay clear. I don't know if she does have a ring because I can never get a peek. But I am sure I heard on a TV show once that one mistake you could be making when asking a woman out is to ask if she is single.

Indeed how do you ask a girl if she is single without feeling nervous. I feel nervous asking a girl anything.