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Problem at new job, help?

Post by Aizawa » Mon Oct 22, 2018 1:01 am

So briefly about me: I’m 27 and I have Dyslexia, Visual Stress and Dyspraxia. I was diagnosed at 22. So I’m new at my current job which is at a cinema. My manager scheduled me to work at a different area which is serving food/drinks to customers. I was meant to work alone but I kept on leaving the area to ask for help - even though I was previously given a group training with colleagues who had already been trained in the area. Anyways my mind went blank and I noticed some of my colleagues direct a crowd of people towards me, as I was serving other customers. I kept on making incorrect orders, I messed up food and drinks several times and had to deal with rude costumers on my own. I Became an absolute nervous wreck and I kept holding back my tears but I kept on trembling. I didn’t remember important tasks, I kept dropping things and all sorts of clumsiness happened.

I actually cried in front of EVERYONE! and a kind customer told me not worry.

It was a lot to take in, I felt overwhelmed. I left the area after asking colleague to cover for me. Afterwards, I had a 1-2-1 with the manager, I apologised and said how I felt. Now I can’t face my colleagues of my job. The problem was I didn’t speak up beforehand to notify my manager that I wasn’t confident in working in that area and I hadn’t disclosed my dyspraxia or dyslexia at interview stage. I really want to quit my job even though I started recently. because all the colleagues were staring at me as if I was a nutter. I’m a loner, I only speak to a few people in my work place.

I’ve spoken to my mum about it but she doesn’t seem to understand the level of embarrassment and anxiety I feel. I don’t want to go back even though I agreed to go to the next shift. I want to quit my job? The job and pay isn’t great, I’m currently on benefits as well.

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Re: Problem at new job, help?

Post by Tom fod » Mon Oct 22, 2018 10:38 pm

Sounds like an absolute nightmare and feels like you were very much dropped in at deep end to deal with multiple customers all intent on getting what they want. Anyone would be overwhelmed if they'd not had to do it before.

So how was your manager in the 1to1? Did he /she recognise that serving food had placed you well outside of your comfort zone? Is that normally a single handed role anw what do you usually do?

It's hard not to worry about what your colleagues think but should their opinion matter? It's a hard one to weigh up as whilst the role is causing you pain and misery are there areas there that you could be happy working in whilst you look for something more suited to you?

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Re: Problem at new job, help?

Post by Aizawa » Tue Oct 23, 2018 1:08 am

Thank you for your response.

During the 1-2-1 he apologised and he said that I could work in different areas like before, general cleaning, stocking up, screen checks etc. although he doesn’t know much about dyspraxia he did understand my needs by placing me behind the scenes at work today, mostly away from colleagues.
So the cafe/till area is only for one staff member per shift.

It seemed as though he told the other duty managers about the incident (or they might’ve replayed the cctv footage), they kept on checking up on me and what not.

For now I’m more comfortable working on screen checks, stocking up and I think the manager gathered that hence why I was put behind the scenes today.

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Re: Problem at new job, help?

Post by allesandro » Tue Oct 23, 2018 3:13 am

Well, I can't tell you what to do; that's up to you. However, if they have made an accommodation for you that works, I would take it. People forget about stuff very quickly, mostly because everyone is self-involved. They all worry about their own issues and just getting through the shift. At least they had the decency to have people keep an eye out, and to put you behind the scenes. If this change works, give it a chance.

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Re: Problem at new job, help?

Post by Helenjohanna » Tue Oct 23, 2018 9:13 am

I would stick with it. I actually think it's good that you broke down and talked to the manager. I have never done that and it's been to my detriment. Now you can be accommodated and your problems are out in the open.

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Re: Problem at new job, help?

Post by hoogie » Fri Oct 26, 2018 1:49 am

Its always horrible starting a new job, my first real job was working behind a bar and to be honest it took me a almost a good year to get used to things and to feel comfortable. I went through a similar situation at the time we had 2 bar areas in the pub and i was left to do the main lounge and it started to get busy I struggled with serving at the bar and running food in the restaurant, because of the stress I got too nervous to ask people waiting at the bar if they could wait a few minuets while i quickly took out a meal for a table which then resulted in a customer getting angry at me. I completely broke down in tears, I had a shift the next day and i wanted to avoid it and bury my head under the sand but i went in. One of the biggest things i have learnt is whenever I have any anxiety over something silly e.g. being worried to help out a customer. I always found that allowing my anxiety to control me caused more harm then good and would always make me feel worse. I now force myself to push past the anxiety and just go for it. The one thing I can promise you is if you really push yourself and take the time to learn every aspect of your job from knowing the hygiene aspect such as chemicals to product knowledge it will pay off! Don't be afraid to ask questions about everything and if you do mess up talk to your manager about have you could try and improve those situations, A good manager will appreciate your willingness to learn and improve no matter how many mistakes you can make.

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