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HopefulMike
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Tell your employer!

Postby HopefulMike » Mon May 08, 2017 9:58 pm

I danced the danced of telling my work and not telling my work for months, but I have never been in a better place work wise... in soo long since I did. I told my boss and lucky for me they are soo understanding and has done more than the speciialist mental nurse to try and help me! Where as the specialist nurse just wanted me off there books and even though she gave me a few good idea's , it was nothing long term.

I know its tough to tell work and I hate ppl knowing im different and dont want to be treated different. However try and think about yourself and even if others know your are different . But it can mean the possiblity of work with your boss or collagues ability to help you, e.g I realised I suck at a change with routine, so to be told ASAP or my role not to change at all unless advanced notice. Another thing that I brought up was how I really get distracted from my job if one little thing goes wrong and letting it get to me. Whereas my colleagues didn't know this , the other day my Boss saw I was in a mess and just spoke to me firmly and it helped soo much

I appreciate your boss may not be as kind as mine and some are selfish but if you think your Boss is human and wants you to work to the best of your ability then it is worth telling them.

I did find it soo hard to tell my boss and then after few months got the courage to tell my colleagues( just recently)... and now people seem more patient with me without it being over the top and feeling different.

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Re: Tell your employer!

Postby Ram » Wed May 10, 2017 7:56 pm

HopefulMike wrote:I danced the danced of telling my work and not telling my work for months, but I have never been in a better place work wise... in soo long since I did. I told my boss and lucky for me they are soo understanding and has done more than the speciialist mental nurse to try and help me! Where as the specialist nurse just wanted me off there books and even though she gave me a few good idea's , it was nothing long term.

I know its tough to tell work and I hate ppl knowing im different and dont want to be treated different. However try and think about yourself and even if others know your are different . But it can mean the possiblity of work with your boss or collagues ability to help you, e.g I realised I suck at a change with routine, so to be told ASAP or my role not to change at all unless advanced notice. Another thing that I brought up was how I really get distracted from my job if one little thing goes wrong and letting it get to me. Whereas my colleagues didn't know this , the other day my Boss saw I was in a mess and just spoke to me firmly and it helped soo much

I appreciate your boss may not be as kind as mine and some are selfish but if you think your Boss is human and wants you to work to the best of your ability then it is worth telling them.

I did find it soo hard to tell my boss and then after few months got the courage to tell my colleagues( just recently)... and now people seem more patient with me without it being over the top and feeling different.


Congratulations on your coming "out" being a success.

I must admit I have no plans to do this since it may lead to me being in the situation of non-renewal of contract. It really is down to each of us to follow our own instincts regarding our situation.

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Re: Tell your employer!

Postby Tom fod » Wed May 10, 2017 11:41 pm

Hi again Mike

It's really nice to hear a positive disclosure story. I think many shy away from it for fear that once that genie is out of the bottle all control is lost. It's about making the Genie obey your every command and using the knowledge positively for mutual benefit to employer, employee and business.

In cases where someone is doing reasonably well it's going to be a lot easier to have a positive experience, Sadly we see more examples where people are bullied and/or find themselves pushed out by badly implemented workplace change. There are things we can excel at and we do have flexibility, I do think optimum approach is to try to fit the job around the employee rather than try to force the employee to fit the job.
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