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So terrified not coping

Post by invisible2012@ » Sat Feb 09, 2019 8:19 pm

Hi I'm really not coping feeling really anxious and scared about second day of first aid course on the 18th . I'm so.scared of failing trying so hard to.revice .it's effecting me so badly I'm feeling upset emotional on edge I can't cope .

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Re: So terrified not coping

Post by Tom fod » Sat Feb 09, 2019 11:58 pm

Hi there what aspects of the course are particularly troubling you? Practicalities of CPR or remembering all the steps in the right order.How long have you been looking at your revision and given it is/was Saturday evening I think you need to take a break to focus on something less scary and more enjoyable.

If you really can't break away just now, what would you say if you were called in to reassure yourself. You're a caring person and you want to do the right thing and you can do this. Have you tried watching You Tube videos

'm still surprised I passed when I did Public First Aid at college in 1992 and that was not a first aid at work course and I must admit I'd be even more scared by paediatric First Aid. The whole idea of the training is so you can make mistakes in a safe environment so you can remember better what to do if the real thing occurred.

Try this quiz
https://www.highspeedtraining.co.uk/hub ... -aid-quiz/
I bet you get more than 2 out of 5 on first go.

This one is more challenging but I passed by making educated guesses
http://www.norvictraining.co.uk/paediat ... -aid-quiz/
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Re: So terrified not coping

Post by allesandro » Sun Feb 10, 2019 3:00 am

Invisible,
It really sound as though you've been traumatized by having failed at previous endeavors. My guess is that most of us, if not all of us, have been traumatized by our failures in life. I know I have. The response in trauma is flight, fight, or freeze. I know that sometimes when I encounter a situation in which I begin to feel traumatized, I freeze. My brain just freezes and it's like it's being totally eclipsed .So, words, directions, instinct just go right through me and I am unable to process the information. You might consider seeing a trauma specialist. In the US, they are quite expensive, I don't know if they are available to you via the NHS. You can also try reading Francine Shapiro's books on trauma to get a better understanding of what is going on with you when this happens, what the triggers are, and when and where it first began, as well as what the underlying self cognitions are.
I think for most of us it's those old self cognitions that popped up whenever we were unable to grasp something as kids, and the attitudes and words that came from those around us including teachers and other kids. I know that's true for me anyway. Make use of whatever resources are available to you. I wish you all the best.

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Re: So terrified not coping

Post by invisible2012@ » Sun Feb 10, 2019 4:14 pm

Tom fod wrote:
Sat Feb 09, 2019 11:58 pm
Hi there what aspects of the course are particularly troubling you? Practicalities of CPR or remembering all the steps in the right order.How long have you been looking at your revision and given it is/was Saturday evening I think you need to take a break to focus on something less scary and more enjoyable.

If you really can't break away just now, what would you say if you were called in to reassure yourself. You're a caring person and you want to do the right thing and you can do this. Have you tried watching You Tube videos

'm still surprised I passed when I did Public First Aid at college in 1992 and that was not a first aid at work course and I must admit I'd be even more scared by paediatric First Aid. The whole idea of the training is so you can make mistakes in a safe environment so you can remember better what to do if the real thing occurred.

Try this quiz
https://www.highspeedtraining.co.uk/hub ... -aid-quiz/
I bet you get more than 2 out of 5 on first go.

This one is more challenging but I passed by making educated guesses
http://www.norvictraining.co.uk/paediat ... -aid-quiz/
hi thank you for replying I'm worried about the test ,I find the atmosphere difficult just me and teacher I've been revising text book I've bee. Doing those quizzes.i feel on edge all the time.tgats why this weekend coming up I've decided to go away for night so I'm.not sat in house thinking of course x

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Re: So terrified not coping

Post by invisible2012@ » Sun Feb 10, 2019 4:17 pm

allesandro wrote:
Sun Feb 10, 2019 3:00 am
Invisible,
It really sound as though you've been traumatized by having failed at previous endeavors. My guess is that most of us, if not all of us, have been traumatized by our failures in life. I know I have. The response in trauma is flight, fight, or freeze. I know that sometimes when I encounter a situation in which I begin to feel traumatized, I freeze. My brain just freezes and it's like it's being totally eclipsed .So, words, directions, instinct just go right through me and I am unable to process the information. You might consider seeing a trauma specialist. In the US, they are quite expensive, I don't know if they are available to you via the NHS. You can also try reading Francine Shapiro's books on trauma to get a better understanding of what is going on with you when this happens, what the triggers are, and when and where it first began, as well as what the underlying self cognitions are.
I think for most of us it's those old self cognitions that popped up whenever we were unable to grasp something as kids, and the attitudes and words that came from those around us including teachers and other kids. I know that's true for me anyway. Make use of whatever resources are available to you. I wish you all the best.
Your really right I have been traumatused by other courses have no confidence in myself doing first aid course trying so hard to pass really really hard really trying to revice text book go over practical things in my head .I'm really on edge keep doing quizzes inline .so scared of failing it's a nightmare x

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Re: So terrified not coping

Post by allesandro » Sun Feb 10, 2019 5:58 pm

I'm so sorry you're going through all of this. Take care of yourself. I wish you well. Let us know if there's anything we can do to help

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Re: So terrified not coping

Post by invisible2012@ » Sun Feb 10, 2019 6:36 pm

Thank you so much I really appreciate this.it may sound drastic but I'm thinking of going into a Samaritans branch just to talk to someone who doesn't know me .I last went two years ago when was in a drastic situation and speaking to a complete stranger face to face really helped .I just know I can't go on like this for another week x

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Re: So terrified not coping

Post by invisible2012@ » Wed Feb 20, 2019 6:43 pm

I passed

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Re: So terrified not coping

Post by Tom fod » Wed Feb 20, 2019 8:04 pm

invisible2012@ wrote:
Wed Feb 20, 2019 6:43 pm
I passed
Yay and many congratulations!
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Re: So terrified not coping

Post by invisible2012@ » Sat Feb 23, 2019 2:12 pm

Thank you tom x

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