Living with dyspraxia
Posted: Mon Apr 15, 2019 9:00 pm
Hi all,
Just venting really.
Work is a big hassle, I am in a career which requires me to deal with multiple tasks at once, and try as I might to plan out when projects start, finish, and the milestones within it, I can’t help feeling stressed all the time. Other than writing out to do lists and gantt charts, how does everyone else deal with this?
At home is an issue as well. I constantly feel like I am constantly on edge, worrying I have forgotten something. For example, if I forget to do something, or get the order wrong, which is causing friction with my wife. As a father, it worries me, as with a baby, there are lots of things to remember, a constant stream of teeth cleaning, pottying, changing nappies, packing equipment, food, etc. It's tough for most people, but especially so for me. I am really worried about letting my daughter down.
Just generally, throughout my life I have struggled to really bond with people, in relationships and with my parents. I have had issues with depression from a young age. I have bee on anti-depressents. Essentially, I am struggling with all the relationships in my life, my partner, my parents, my sister has cut off from me completely.
I have social anxiety, which means that I get really stressed at the thought of meeting people, and afterwards worrying I have said something incorrect. Although, when I am actually there, I am fine. Probably because I am focussing on what to say, rather than worrying about it.
Concentration is a big problem for me, with some pieces of work I am fine. But when asked to so a large task, like an essay in work, I really struggle to stay focussed. I have had this issue all the way through my life, I always used to score higher on tests than coursework.
My short term memory is terrible. I feel that it looks like I am not listening, or that I am even more disorganised. But in reality, it’s just that I really struggle to follow a conversation with a lot of instructions or tasks in it, and often cannot write notes fast enough, or remember the points around the notes.
I also really struggle with grasping ideas, so when something complex is explained to me, I really struggle to follow, without physically writing down who it will look when finished, for example, writing the titles in an essay, or drawing up a table with the colomn and row titles filled out.
Any similar experiences or advice would be useful.
Just venting really.
Work is a big hassle, I am in a career which requires me to deal with multiple tasks at once, and try as I might to plan out when projects start, finish, and the milestones within it, I can’t help feeling stressed all the time. Other than writing out to do lists and gantt charts, how does everyone else deal with this?
At home is an issue as well. I constantly feel like I am constantly on edge, worrying I have forgotten something. For example, if I forget to do something, or get the order wrong, which is causing friction with my wife. As a father, it worries me, as with a baby, there are lots of things to remember, a constant stream of teeth cleaning, pottying, changing nappies, packing equipment, food, etc. It's tough for most people, but especially so for me. I am really worried about letting my daughter down.
Just generally, throughout my life I have struggled to really bond with people, in relationships and with my parents. I have had issues with depression from a young age. I have bee on anti-depressents. Essentially, I am struggling with all the relationships in my life, my partner, my parents, my sister has cut off from me completely.
I have social anxiety, which means that I get really stressed at the thought of meeting people, and afterwards worrying I have said something incorrect. Although, when I am actually there, I am fine. Probably because I am focussing on what to say, rather than worrying about it.
Concentration is a big problem for me, with some pieces of work I am fine. But when asked to so a large task, like an essay in work, I really struggle to stay focussed. I have had this issue all the way through my life, I always used to score higher on tests than coursework.
My short term memory is terrible. I feel that it looks like I am not listening, or that I am even more disorganised. But in reality, it’s just that I really struggle to follow a conversation with a lot of instructions or tasks in it, and often cannot write notes fast enough, or remember the points around the notes.
I also really struggle with grasping ideas, so when something complex is explained to me, I really struggle to follow, without physically writing down who it will look when finished, for example, writing the titles in an essay, or drawing up a table with the colomn and row titles filled out.
Any similar experiences or advice would be useful.