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Posted: Mon Feb 16, 2015 2:49 am
Im hoping to meet people other dyspraxic people aswell!
Posted: Mon Apr 04, 2016 10:27 am
Known since I was really young that I have Dyspraxia and mild Autism. Grew up overseas so never really knew anyone else who has the same thing. Anytime I've tried to open up to a friend the best way I could explain the way I am is to show them a definition of what Dyspraxia is. (Not much Help) I'm not very good at writing things down so I hope that I can chat to people for advise about things and visa versa.
Posted: Mon Apr 04, 2016 10:26 pm
Welcome to our community. I hope you find it helpful and supportive
Posted: Tue Nov 01, 2016 2:16 am
Hi I am a 28 year old woman working on getting a diagnosis. I'm always known I was clumsy and "different." I've always felt like I wasn't naturally good at anything and that it takes me twice the effort to get half the results as other people. I grew up in the US, I don't think dyspraxia is as well known here as it is in the UK. Realizing that I may have dyspraxia has given me so much relief for my self-perceived short comings. I was on a sports team in university, and was usually benched instead of being allowed to compete. Despite being one of the hardest working people on the team, I was one of the worst athletes. I quit in frustration my last year, I just wasn't OK with putting in all that time and not being allowed to compete. I've always been really hard on myself about it and viewed myself as a failure and a quitter. Now for the first time I'm really proud of myself for being able to make a university level sports team despite my limitations. Just reading other peoples' stories online so much about my life is falling into place and oddly enough giving me hope. I know that I'm not a failure and I'm not alone.
Posted: Fri Nov 11, 2016 10:43 pm
My name is Dave which is probably easy to work out from my user name
I don't have dyspraxia myself but my partners son was diagnosed 13 years ago with dyspraxia.
He's now 18 and is a good person. Two months ago we all decided to make a big move to live together (not having lived together before or spent a large amount of time with the son together during the last year while our relationship developed) and also relocated 300 miles from my partner and her sons home town to sunny Cornwall where the rest of their family are.
The son has found the move very distressing and it soon became apparent to me that I need to learn and understand as much as I can about dyspraxia to help and support him best I can and in all honesty cope myself with some of the daily challenges that have been arising.
Although his mum is very good at supporting her son I have found that due to her family not accepting that there can be more then just the physical aspects to dyspraxia she has struggled to help me understand after years of being "shut down" by her family.
So here I am and hope nobody minds me listening and learning.
Posted: Sat Nov 12, 2016 11:45 pm
Thanks for introducing yourself and for caring.
It sadly does seem the case that the emotional impact of dyspraxia is all too often misunderstood/overlooked. It's more than just being a bit more clumsy and awkward in a physical sense. We can feel very isolated and alone. Change and uncertainty are issues that bother a lot of people but I would venture to say that they often cause an additional level of distress for us, as our existing coping strategies may no longer be workable, which will heighten any anxiety.
it can take a while to readjust and see the positives of change that we may feel as having been imposed on us. Add to that, being on the cusp of adulthood, theres's a lot of change involved in trying to forge an identity. As guys we tend to also feel less able to openly talk about any difficulties, lest this be seen as a sign of weakness. We often feel we need to try and explain ourselves but this is difficult and that itself can become a vicious circle.
If in the future you want to encourage your (step) son to visit this site we can always remove your posts, should you want us to do so. In the meantime feel free to have a look at what has been posted here. Please feel free to ask any questions you might have, Please do bear in mind that despite a common condition every one of us is still very much a unique individual trying to find his (or her) way.
Posted: Tue Dec 06, 2016 9:52 pm
Hi I'm 22 male, recently discovered I'm Dyspraxic and struggling to come to terms with it. I've always known I'm 'different' and never really had an explanation for it. I guess I just hoped I'd be accepted as the funny/loveable weirdo, but deep down I just wanna be normal and think like a normal person. For me I can summarise the most painful parts of my life below:
1) being bad at sports - embarrassingly bad. An average 4 year old kicks a ball/throws a ball better than me. Destroyed my self confidence/masculinity and made it harder to fit in. I think I over-compensated by being the clown in whichever group I was part of, but sometimes I'd like to be taken seriously.
2) I know I'm intelligent I've done well good job in finance etc. But I've underperformed relative to my potential throughout life as I'm terribly disorganised and a worrier. On top of that I still think I'm stupid because sometimes I lack common sense, jumble up words, and lie because my working memory is so appalling.
Only found out couple months ago from an orthopaedic surgeon my diagnosis - as son had same issues.
I feel negative though as not much can be done to help - as without being offensive I can tie my laces and use scissors so I'm skeptical as to how much an occupational therapist can help, I just can't play sports, walk in a straight line or control my emotions
Oh well, can only make the best of the **** card you've been given in life (sigh). Sometimes I feel like I'm so outgoing, funny, caring if I was more athletic and didn't have dyspraxia I'd be so confident and happy on the inside (not fake happy).
Funny part is I get told I'm good looking by girls, but never had the confidence to ask a girl out (getting with girls when drunk is fine lol) I just can't see any worth in myself as I've never felt talented/known what my innate abilities/interests are.
Posted: Wed Dec 07, 2016 12:27 am
Hi and welcome
It can feel very emasculating especially if you naturally compare yourself to others. I've really struggled with dating relationships and loneliness. Visual impairment and not driving hasn't helped either but I'm reasonably self reliant determined and independent.. My coping strategy for my lack of athletic prowess was/is a disinterest in sport but that can leave you feeling like an outsider too.
It's not really any easier if you're a lady and struggle with hair,makeup, walking in heels etc. It can be easy to beat oneself for not feeling fortunate for what we do have/can do, but remember it is relative and on a bad day being dyspraxic can really make you feel rubbish and it can be hard to process quite overwhelming feelings and put a brave face on.
Anyway I hope this site helps.
Posted: Sat May 13, 2017 11:18 am
Thanks to whoever set up and runs this form. A valuable tool for people diagnosed with dyspraxia and others like me without a diagnosis but a dyspraxic all the same.
Also pleased now that children problems can now identified at earlier age and there needs can be better catered for.
Posted: Mon Sep 04, 2017 6:55 pm
Hi I am a newbie to this forum. My friend has a son who was diagnosed with dyspraxia as a child but was never told that he has this disability. He struggles academically now-organizational skills, essay writing, has very few friends of his own age. Trying really hard to find more info on dyspraxia but having difficulties. In some ways it seems very close to LD which both of my children have. Any ideas? Books etc?
Posted: Sat Nov 11, 2017 5:42 pm
I've joined really on behalf of my Son, he is 24 and on the whole does very well, he got diagnosed very early on age 3/4 years of age due to his lack of speech (absolutely none used Makaton) and was statemented. However he had a job in IT with a company that was very good and understood, left him to get on with the work and did not pressure him to attend the 'social side of the office'. Unfortunately the company moved to London which meant public transport for over an hour until then work was a 15 minute walk - no problem. Since then he has been pushed by Universal Credits into MacDonalds and all sorts of other positions which have just sent him into melt down!! We have just started looking at PIP anyone else been through this? He wants to work. I get very angry, I work in a hospital so deal with some stuff that maybe a person behind a desk could not deal with I do not think any less of them for that and would not expect them to do what I do so why if some people are not suited to a customer service based job are they pushed into it??????????
Posted: Sun Nov 12, 2017 1:47 am
Bren wrote:Hi All
I've joined really on behalf of my Son, he is 24 and on the whole does very well, he got diagnosed very early on age 3/4 years of age due to his lack of speech (absolutely none used Makaton) and was statemented. However he had a job in IT with a company that was very good and understood, left him to get on with the work and did not pressure him to attend the 'social side of the office'. Unfortunately the company moved to London which meant public transport for over an hour until then work was a 15 minute walk - no problem.
Since then he has been pushed by Universal Credits into MacDonalds and all sorts of other positions which have just sent him into melt down!! We have just started looking at PIP anyone else been through this? He wants to work. I get very angry, I work in a hospital so deal with some stuff that maybe a person behind a desk could not deal with I do not think any less of them for that and would not expect them to do what I do so why if some people are not suited to a customer service based job are they pushed into it??????????
Sorry to read of your son's situation. Have you/he had any contact with the Disabled Employment Advisor at JobCentre Plus? I completely agree that it is at, best counterproductive,to try to force anyone with Dyspraxia, or any disability, to do something so far outside their comfort zone. I don't think I'd fare at all well in a public facing frontline customer service role in a completely new and to me alien environment. Any placement requires the necessary support from an employer who understands and wants to bring out your son's potential as an employee. What, if anything, does he declare about his difficulties/abilities and necessary coping strategies?
Would your son be amenable to joining this forum?
Posted: Wed Dec 06, 2017 10:14 am
Thank you for letting me hear, I only recently found out that I have Dyspraxia and this is has been a massive breakthrough for me. I never knew what I had and now finding out what it is, apart from my mental health issues, I feel a lot better.
Posted: Tue Oct 02, 2018 10:08 pm
Evening all! just want to introduce myself.
I am currently unemployed and having severe trouble getting work following a disastrous placement as a student nurse. At this point I am still being assessed for the condition, however my Occupational Health doctor is almost certain that I have it. Growing up I had a very ungainly gait and I could fall over anything. As a result of my gait, and rather poor posture I was compared to a monkey, chimpanzee, and other primates, which at the time I used to get really upset over I had to write down the sequence for washing up in middle school once and I couldn't do it, because I had to think about it. Although I could play the piano, I struggled with stuff like wood work. Playing Rounders in PE was a nightmare, but long distance running I was really good at, ss long as there were no chalk lines for me to fall over! When I am stressed out, tired or just not feling that great for example I have terrible trouble getting my words out in a normal conversation and my time management is not always that great. Safe to say I wouldn't be surprised if the specialists confirm it. Especially with a score of 16/20 or 16/21 on a Dyspraxia screening tool I had done in February.
In the past, growing up I got hassle at school from kids who just liked to annoy me, and used to have rather foul mouthed outbursts, and ruined quite a few pairs of glasses. Things got better when I went to high school thank goodness. Even now I tend to have trouble keeping a lid on my emotions and when I get angry I just become vitriolic and rather nasty. I also find that I swing the other way, stressed, tired or anxious, depending on the circumstances I can go hyper happy, I even got excited over my mum bringing me a carton of Apple juice in March! Tonight is a big case in point. Ok so the last ten minutes of the Villa game were tense, and it really was a roller coaster, and when we equalised the Holte End where I was with my cousin/carer went crazy. During the second half I just couldn't get any enthusiasm despite my love for the Villa, yet when we were pressing, and scored I just lost control of nearly everything. Is this range of emotions normal in dyspraxia? It felt like I was just having a meltdown when that goal went in, I mean there's happy and there's happy, but I felt like I was just losing my cool celebrating.
Does anyone else find they can have this sort of emotion as much as negative/angry emotions?
Thanks in advance
Posted: Tue Oct 02, 2018 10:57 pm
Hi and welcome
It's sometimes hard to define what is a dyspraxic trait as there are other factors and we all have different red lines. Dyspraxia is hard work as you often have to put in more effort and normal setbacks and criticisms can often feel like a personal attack. Emotional outbursts are sometimes cited as an example of behaviours that may be observed in those affected but many people are passionate and often hyper conscious of how others perceive them.
As a moderator here I have to be well moderate but I confess I can catastrophise and can be overly annoyed by some things that shouldn't matter. One of my favourite mantra's is the the customer is not always right! Sometimes the customer is a twat. However sometimes people are intent on trying to get what they need and are more upset/stressed by the system being charming and patient can really pay dividends. Other people just make you want to swear and curse!