Does Anyone have Kids or want Kids

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Davie232
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Re: Does Anyone have Kids or want Kids

Post by Davie232 » Wed May 09, 2018 12:14 pm

Dan wrote:
Whilst learning disabilities do have a hereditary factor, Dyspraxia is definitely not a dominant gene, so the chances are likely 25% or under. Also, it has been argued before that ASD may have been useful for evolution due to discoveries being made by high functioning autistic people.

I've always wanted kids, so I find the idea that we shouldn't have them due to the chances of our condition being passed on sad and I totally disagree with the notion. Still, I respect anybody's decision on whether or not they would like to have children, of course.
As I've said before on this forum, I rather not pass on my Dyspraxia to the next gen. While I know there is a chance it wouldn't get passed on. But I think everyone would agree here. That if we all had kids then we would want them to grow up without the struggles we had.

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Re: Does Anyone have Kids or want Kids

Post by Ram » Wed May 09, 2018 7:36 pm

Davie232 wrote:
Dan wrote:
Whilst learning disabilities do have a hereditary factor, Dyspraxia is definitely not a dominant gene, so the chances are likely 25% or under. Also, it has been argued before that ASD may have been useful for evolution due to discoveries being made by high functioning autistic people.

I've always wanted kids, so I find the idea that we shouldn't have them due to the chances of our condition being passed on sad and I totally disagree with the notion. Still, I respect anybody's decision on whether or not they would like to have children, of course.
As I've said before on this forum, I rather not pass on my Dyspraxia to the next gen. While I know there is a chance it wouldn't get passed on. But I think everyone would agree here. That if we all had kids then we would want them to grow up without the struggles we had.
I can see merit in both of your perspectives here. I suspect a lot depends on the extent of the dyspraxia that you have. Some dyspraxic people are comparatively mild cases who with a bit of extra effort can do virtually everything that 'normal' people can do. These people probably feel no hesitation in having kids than any other people if they want them.

There are, however, other dyspraxic people (hopefully a minority) whose condition is severe enough to make all aspects of their daily life a major struggle despite their efforts. It is understandable if dyspraxics in this situation are hesitant about having children since they might feel doubtful about their ability to take care of them, (irrespective of whether the condition is passed on) especially if they do not have an extended family to help them out.

Overall, I would never want to be the judge and hury about this. All any individual can do is think carefully about the question and make a decision on his or her own terms. Since I'm no lover of kids, my dyspraxia has never been a factor in my decision to be childless!

Davie232
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Re: Does Anyone have Kids or want Kids

Post by Davie232 » Wed May 09, 2018 8:08 pm

Ram wrote:
Davie232 wrote:
As I've said before on this forum, I rather not pass on my Dyspraxia to the next gen. While I know there is a chance it wouldn't get passed on. But I think everyone would agree here. That if we all had kids then we would want them to grow up without the struggles we had.
I can see merit in both of your perspectives here. I suspect a lot depends on the extent of the dyspraxia that you have. Some dyspraxic people are comparatively mild cases who with a bit of extra effort can do virtually everything that 'normal' people can do. These people probably feel no hesitation in having kids than any other people if they want them.

There are, however, other dyspraxic people (hopefully a minority) whose condition is severe enough to make all aspects of their daily life a major struggle despite their efforts. It is understandable if dyspraxics in this situation are hesitant about having children since they might feel doubtful about their ability to take care of them, (irrespective of whether the condition is passed on) especially if they do not have an extended family to help them out.

Overall, I would never want to be the judge and hury about this. All any individual can do is think carefully about the question and make a decision on his or her own terms. Since I'm no lover of kids, my dyspraxia has never been a factor in my decision to be childless!
For me, it's not about the extent of the Dyspraxia I have. I simply don't wish to pass it on.
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Re: Does Anyone have Kids or want Kids

Post by ALADDIN » Thu May 10, 2018 10:14 am

I would say I was in the middle. I can do most things, but it requires more effort, especially if I am not in the best frame of mind.

I cannot do some things.

Having a child, born to a father who is over 40 and has no disability has a bigger risk of ASD.

I think, a child, born to a father who is over 40 and has a disability is much higher.

See,

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/artic ... d-why.html

This is why I don't want children.

I am so scared of having a "disabled autistic child" or child with another disability.

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Re: Does Anyone have Kids or want Kids

Post by Goggzy60 » Wed May 16, 2018 8:26 pm

I have a 8 year old daughter who luckily doesn't have any Form of dyspraxia. I actually didn't find out about her until she was 2 as her mother had no contact information for me as I was stupid and move to Spain just over a month before her birth, also her mother couldn't contact me herself which I can believe she may have been able to find a way but she had a stroke at 5 months pregnant. My daughter is my princess and so glad to have her in my life.

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