Hi all.
I thought I would post this in relationships, but reconsidered, as it feels like a more general thing, rather than being explicitly connected to dating.
I have always felt kind of odd, because I had significantly less interest in sex (read: none) than my friends. I like to kiss, cuddle and have girlfriends, but I am not really into sex itself. This may be TMI, but I do *things* for girls in other ways, it is just actual sex I am not interested by.
I should mention that I am being assessed for Asperger's in February, so it may very well be that the connection is more to do with that, if there is any connection at all, that is. There's a girl with Asperger's on another forum who told me she is also asexual, so I considered the possibility that they are sometimes connected pertinent. ;o
How does everybody else feel?
Asexuality and Dyspraxia
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From what I´ve read online and speaking from my own experience, it seems us Aspies are often asexual, gender fluid and gay/lesbian. I am not interested in sex in any way shape or form, never have been.
It is also difficult for me to show affection. Usually holding hands and kissing is my limit.
It is also difficult for me to show affection. Usually holding hands and kissing is my limit.
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I don't think people with Asperger's are any more likely to be gay or lesbian, but I accept that this is a conclusion for which I have no evidence. Still, the other things you posit make sense.
I don't necessarily consider myself 100% asexual either. It's a sort of grey area.
I don't necessarily consider myself 100% asexual either. It's a sort of grey area.
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We're all different and there are likely to be many factors governing how 'sexual' we feel including but not limited to: attitudes of others; oppportunity,; whether/how comfortable with touching/being touched by a certain person/people in general etc.
Tom
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With a foot full of bullets I tried to run faster but I just hobbled on to the next disaster.
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Re: Asexuality and Dyspraxia
As a 50 something dyspraxic who has recently broken up in a long-term relationship, I am now somewhat asexual. However, in my case, that is down to ageing rather than dyspraxia.Dan wrote:Hi all.
I thought I would post this in relationships, but reconsidered, as it feels like a more general thing, rather than being explicitly connected to dating.
I have always felt kind of odd, because I had significantly less interest in sex (read: none) than my friends. I like to kiss, cuddle and have girlfriends, but I am not really into sex itself. This may be TMI, but I do *things* for girls in other ways, it is just actual sex I am not interested by.
I should mention that I am being assessed for Asperger's in February, so it may very well be that the connection is more to do with that, if there is any connection at all, that is. There's a girl with Asperger's on another forum who told me she is also asexual, so I considered the possibility that they are sometimes connected pertinent. ;o
How does everybody else feel?
I was what they call a frustrated chump for most of the time in my younger years. When I did get relationships, I have to confess I enjoyed the carnal side but not the other stuff so much.
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Re: Asexuality and Dyspraxia
Wikipedia describes Asexuality as
Whether this is a dyspraxic thing(I'm not dxed but have definite traits) or an ASD thing(again not dxed but have definite traits) I don't know.
I have bolded the part that very much applies to me. I have not had sex for 27 years since my late wife had a stroke. I am just not interested.Asexuality is the lack of sexual attraction to others, or low or absent interest in or desire for sexual activity
Whether this is a dyspraxic thing(I'm not dxed but have definite traits) or an ASD thing(again not dxed but have definite traits) I don't know.
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My thoughts on this is if the opportunity is not available to us do we naturally self-suppress our need?
Tom
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With a foot full of bullets I tried to run faster but I just hobbled on to the next disaster.
(from Peter and the Test Tube Babies, Foot Full of Bullets)
Moderator/Administrator
With a foot full of bullets I tried to run faster but I just hobbled on to the next disaster.
(from Peter and the Test Tube Babies, Foot Full of Bullets)