krackerz1590 wrote:if you scared of getting a official diagnosis due to what others views and opinions might be think about you and what be best for you and what you need long term they not one has to live with it day in day out you do please think carefully if want to talk ober assessment and official diagnosis i'd be willing to talk over my own personal experiences willing to help and support you to make decision based on what right for you not for anyone else!
sounds like you need it though to make 'right' and sense in your head to fit jigsaw together of your life experiences ( bullying ,low self-esteem0 to finally have some kind of explanation and answer there
good luck
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We both realise neither can fully understand what the other is going through but I think it's harder for him to realise that it's not easy for me as his depression means he's seeing things differently to how he normally would see things. Fortunately he can get better one day though which he'll appreciate once it happens. He's read my 'development history' (there's a questionnaire somewhere else on this forum that I filled in) and I think it helped him to understand, he was never bullied at school and got on well with his teachers so I think he was shocked to see written in black and white quotes from various teachers of mine. 'It's the little girl who can't do anything' (said to me when I was 6, my teacher asked me a geography question which I couldn't answer as I'd missed the previous geography lesson due to illness. she then told my class I was 'the little girl who can't do anything' (I now have an honours degree from Nottingham Uni). I also had a teacher who told me at the start of year 6 that I only got 34 out of one hundred in the first 11+ practice paper (she said my friend who marked me as having got 36 had made a mistake and given me two extra points) and that I wasn't bright enough to pass my 11+ and I should stop hoping to go to the girls grammar I hoped to attend and find a comprehensive instead. My Mum was livid and also pointed out that my friend was correct - I DID have 36 out of a hundred after all. I passed my 11+ and the teacher was bitter about it for the rest of year 6.
I think I need the diagnosis for my own peace of mind and also when people complain about me tripping, spilling stuff etc I can explain it's dyspraxia. Same with driving, I'm fed up of people telling me that if I can't drive I can't have a life. I recently stayed with my Bf's family and his mother was asking me about my learning to drive again in the future when my bf helpfully suggested that if I didn't learn to drive I 'may as well give up on life now'. I treated him to an earful and asked him if he wanted to say that to someone with a medical condition such as epilepsy which means they can't drive. I realise how useful being able to drive is but I'm not going to die if I can't drive, if I never learn I'll just have to live in urban areas where public transport is good. I managed 3 years in Nottingham using buses and trams and, shock horror, my feet to walk places. I currently live in London and am able to get places easily.
Do you find people don't take your problems seriously? I'm fed up of being told that 'everyone finds driving hard at first but then they get better', yes, but those people have co-ordination skills and spatial awareness. I'm 21 and I still can't tell my left and right apart, in 9 driving lessons I;
- drove on the wrong side of the road without realising
- nearly had a head on collision with a Lorry, I was looking at the Lorry coming towards me but I didn't 'see' it was there
- almost ran over 3 people
- was reduced to tears by my driving instructor at least once in every one of the last 5 lessons
- turned the wrong way at junctions as I thought I was going left when I was actually going right
- had the car run backwards down a slope
- needed my driving instructor to release the handbrake for me everytime as I didn't have the upper body strength to
- couldn't do more than one thing at once, i.e. I could change gears but not steer and look through the window at the same time
- drove in the wrong position, my driving instructor kept saying 'but you're two inches away from the side of the road, can't you see that?' no, I couldn't, I looked dead close to it, like I was about to go in the ditch by it actually.
- couldn't remember what any of the road signs meant, esp those horrible ones with the wider line to tell you which junction turning is the main road as the left and right thing messed me up
- kept indicating to turn the wrong way due to left and right issues
- was helpfully told by my instructor that I 'needed to have my head checked'
I'm an intelligent adult, why won't people accept that I know my limitations? Everyone knows I can't sing and wouldn't expect me to perform in opera, so why won't people listen when I explain I can't drive? My friend who also suspects he has Dyspraxia (he already has dyslexia diagnosis so isn't pursuing Dyspraxia as his is relatively mild, definitely not as bad as mine and also because he already gets help from the dyslexia diagnosis) has the same problems as me learning to drive and gets the same hassle because of it.
argh!!!! x
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