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cloister_79
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Hello, I'm new here!

Post by cloister_79 » Sat Jun 17, 2017 11:37 am

Hi all

I've just been diagnosed with dyspraxia a few weeks ago, and I'm trying to work out how to deal with it, what it'll mean for me and my life, and frankly whether it's actually true or if I'm just a bit clumsy and stupid. For clarity, rationally speaking I know the diagnosis is correct because I saw a highly specialised speech and language therapist who confirmed it, but emotionally speaking I almost feel like I'm cheating, trying to take over a definition that I don't deserve.

I'm a 37 year old man (nearly 38) who has a full-time job, and I have several hobbies that I enjoy (such as reading and writing) but I am having trouble coping both at work and at home for various reasons. The main problems are my lack of organisation and the clutter I have around me (both mental and physical!) though I'm trying to learn how to overcome these. My wife does her best to cope with my lack of organisation and my moods (which can go up and down quite a bit due to anxiety issues), but I don't want her to have to because it can stress her out sometimes.

I suppose what I'm mainly asking is how other people cope? I know it's going to be different for everyone, but what works for some people might work for me too.

Steve

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Post by Tom fod » Sun Jun 18, 2017 4:32 pm

Hi Steve and welcome

Dyspraxia is difficult to define and from looking around you'll find we're a diverse bunch and are affected by and cope in different ways. There is often a vicious circle and the more anxious and less in control we feel the more greater the problems we experience. We often tend to be vary hard on ourselves when sometimes we need to take a step back and think about how we can handle things in a better way that better suits ourselves rather than following the standard way that others use.

When I first learned of the condition and the fact I was affected, I was going through the typical symptoms, no not me, I manage perfectly well doing that etc etc as was scared of what people would think of me given this lesser known label and what would I tell people and how would they treat me.

On the whole I think I'm less hard on myself and those I have told are generally supportive as they are aware of what I can do well and know I will try and can be relied upon if asked.

Feel free to question if there's anything more you want to ask and welcome to the Forum(s).
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