Hello
I am new to this board. I'm 24 and have undiagnosed dyspraxia. I work as a care assistant.
Recently I would say in the past year I have found simple things extremely hard to do, I've always had a difficulty in these tasks but somehow I'm finding it increasingly difficult to cope.
I haven't went to see the doctors for a confirmation because when I was at school I tried to get tested for dyspraxia and they took one look at me and said I didn't have it.
I struggle with buttons,spacial awareness, doing my hair and makeup, driving,cooking,talking to people.
I struggle at work too with the simple of things and people don't understand why I struggle and have never heard of dyspraxia. I have burnt myself, cut myself, hit my head off things accidently, I'm known at work for being "clumsy" which upsets me because I can't help it and it's not just clumsiness.
I also have a problem with standing close to people when I'm walking with them or invading personal boundaries.
I have trouble with reading people too and judging tones of voices, I'm also a very anxious person.
I think it's since I've moved out my parents when I was 18, that I've struggled and my parents helped massively when I was at home, and together taught me coping mechanism's but since I've moved out I feel I've lost all those mechanisms and I'm struggling to cope and it just feels like everything's getting on top of me and I'm really stressed.
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strawberrysmoothie
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Hi Strawberrysmoothie and welcome.
Sorry to hear that things are difficult and stressful right now. I'm also sorry to hear of the dismissive treatment you received was this recently and what position did this person hold? You're not alone see http://www.dyspraxicadults.org.uk/forum ... =14&t=5145 and other posts in our Getting Help and Assessment Section
Constantly being criticised for doing things awkwardly and differently sadly seems to have a corrosive effect and tends to set us more on edge causing us to make more errors as Dyspraxia and stress and anxiety almost always go hand in hand.
Perhaps ironically, this week is Dyspraxia Awareness Week. If you haven't done so already I'd also suggest it may also be worth contacting the Dyspraxia Foundation either by calling their helpline or contacting them via email. and of course you're absolutely welcome to ask questions/vent here in a supportive environment.
Sorry to hear that things are difficult and stressful right now. I'm also sorry to hear of the dismissive treatment you received was this recently and what position did this person hold? You're not alone see http://www.dyspraxicadults.org.uk/forum ... =14&t=5145 and other posts in our Getting Help and Assessment Section
Constantly being criticised for doing things awkwardly and differently sadly seems to have a corrosive effect and tends to set us more on edge causing us to make more errors as Dyspraxia and stress and anxiety almost always go hand in hand.
Perhaps ironically, this week is Dyspraxia Awareness Week. If you haven't done so already I'd also suggest it may also be worth contacting the Dyspraxia Foundation either by calling their helpline or contacting them via email. and of course you're absolutely welcome to ask questions/vent here in a supportive environment.
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BenjiBard87
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Hi there! 
Sorry to hear it's been so rough for you, and you'll find a lot of people here that can relate to that, myself included. It's quite an isolating experience, when you're treated as if you're this way because in their minds you've chosen it. Or at least, I think that's sometimes that's how I feel it can be viewed.
Here's the thing though...while it takes longer than the average Joe, it does get better. People with Dyspraxia have this extraordinary force called determination, and it seems we're bundled with more of it than most. It'll get you through, and you can afford to be kind to yourself too. People can juggle, but dyspraxics have to juggle on a tightrope. They may not succeed, but in the end when they do, it's far more impressive!
Sorry to hear it's been so rough for you, and you'll find a lot of people here that can relate to that, myself included. It's quite an isolating experience, when you're treated as if you're this way because in their minds you've chosen it. Or at least, I think that's sometimes that's how I feel it can be viewed.
Here's the thing though...while it takes longer than the average Joe, it does get better. People with Dyspraxia have this extraordinary force called determination, and it seems we're bundled with more of it than most. It'll get you through, and you can afford to be kind to yourself too. People can juggle, but dyspraxics have to juggle on a tightrope. They may not succeed, but in the end when they do, it's far more impressive!
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poodlelover81
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strawberrysmoothie,
First off, love the username. I'm amazed that you can do these things (cooking,etc.) at all, as I continuously struggle with them as a 24 year-old woman. I'm American, but I live in Russia, and in my culture if women don't know how to cook it's like the world is gonna' end lol. I'm afraid to move out because I struggle with simple tasks. Hopefully, this forum will help you out
First off, love the username. I'm amazed that you can do these things (cooking,etc.) at all, as I continuously struggle with them as a 24 year-old woman. I'm American, but I live in Russia, and in my culture if women don't know how to cook it's like the world is gonna' end lol. I'm afraid to move out because I struggle with simple tasks. Hopefully, this forum will help you out
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I can relate, my hands are always covered in cuts, scrapes, burns, and bruises that I can't remember getting.strawberrysmoothie wrote: I have burnt myself, cut myself, hit my head off things accidently, I'm known at work for being "clumsy" which upsets me because I can't help it and it's not just clumsiness.
Doesn't sound like they were a specialist/knowledgeable about it. You should get a second opinion.strawberrysmoothie wrote: I haven't went to see the doctors for a confirmation because when I was at school I tried to get tested for dyspraxia and they took one look at me and said I didn't have it.
Have you established a routine since moving out? Having a routine helps me massively! Be sure to add a bit of relaxing time in your routine.strawberrysmoothie wrote: I think it's since I've moved out my parents when I was 18, that I've struggled and my parents helped massively when I was at home, and together taught me coping mechanism's but since I've moved out I feel I've lost all those mechanisms and I'm struggling to cope and it just feels like everything's getting on top of me and I'm really stressed.