From Bristol
Posted: Sun Jan 24, 2016 9:32 am
Dear all
My name is Jess. I am 26 as of the 15th January 2016.
I live in Bristol, close to Cabot Circus. In September I got married to my husband Gary. Gary has Asperges syndrome, partial deafness and depression. I have dyspraxia. I was diagnosed at a young age. Some how we work together.
I work for Lyons Davidson Bristol and I am training to become a Cost Lawyer.
Right now my Husband and I are saving money for a deposit to get a Mortgage.
Hobbies: spa/swimming, cats, sci-fi tv shows, board gaming.
How has dyspraxia affected me?
In the past I had very messy handwriting. I hold a pen different to normal folk. I was always the last person to picked on a team.
Recently though I can never work out if my problems are linked to dyspraxia or I am just being human. If there is a daily problem is it part of the normal functioning of being a human being. All humans have their limits. Or is it the problem specifically linked to having dyspraxia. Perhaps its not so important but sometimes I like to know is it just me or is everyoneelse experiencing.
Work/ Studying: Academically I am smart. I got a first in law and nearly a distinction in my LPC (my marks were at distinction level but I had to resit an interviewing and advising skill). Last year I did an ACL course and my marks were 3% more than my Manager. Exams were lot better since I got allowed to use a computer in the exam.
However, there are things that are just frustrating. Deadlines. I managed deadlines at University as they were generally spread out. This week I had a deadline every other day. Its not I could not do the work in that time. It panics me and maybe it tAkes a lot out of me. I have mentioned this to my Manager. She suggested she could reduce the number of files I am allocated. I do not think this would solve the issue.
A lot of my job involves negotiating with the otherside. I am not a massive fan of using the telephone. I think I get a bit of anxiety. When I do talk to sometime I am good at telling them what I need to say. i plan it in my head. What I am not always great is responding. I often get brain freeze. Sometimes people speak too fast that I have not orocessed what the person has said to me. I have my coping strategies but I would like to eventually move past them. Usually I try as much as I can make a note of what people say and say something like I need to take instructions. Eventually I would like to get to a position where I can have a full on debate over the phone.
I prefer letter writing in my negotiations. It gives me more planning and responding time. However, I need to be better at being more assertive, this orobably applies onnthe telephone. Sometimes its getting the words together which is difficult. There are ways to say things and ways not to say things.
Social: I have a few close freinds. I struggle breaking bounaries with people, being myself around others. Some people its more natural than others but a lot of people there is an invisible brick wall. I am not massive fans of large group situations as I struggle to follow different conversations. Sometimes I struggle talking to one person for a long period of time and I zone in and out of conversations. My husband hates when I do this. I day dream often. When I talk to people or talking to a group I sometimes plan the conversation. Problem is I get frustrated when my my very detailed plan doesnt happen.
I am quite clumsy and I often lose things. Most things that get lost on my side of the bed, my clutter area. I worry what my husband thinks of me. He jokingly associates me with Miranda on bbc iplayer. She has extreme clumsiness but I say its more exagerated than my clumsiness.
Driving: i had passed my driving test on an automatic car for the first time but I only just scraped a pass. I do own a car because we cannot justify the cost and we walk to work. My Father in law is going to help me sort out renting a car every now and then especially when seeing family. Dyspraxia did affect me when I learnt. I often hesitated when on roundabouts. My instructor said I have to find the moment and go for it.
Housework: not a massive fan especially when working full time. I am quite lazy when I have to use force/ muscles.
Fatigue: I get tired very early. Sometimes I am in bed by 8/9 pm sleep by 10 pm. Sometimes I am in bed and fall asleep before my husband goes to bed.
Please introduce yourself. If you are in Bristol or Reading area (use to live in Reading), or Dorset (parents live there) or if you are a lawyer I would like to know.
My name is Jess. I am 26 as of the 15th January 2016.
I live in Bristol, close to Cabot Circus. In September I got married to my husband Gary. Gary has Asperges syndrome, partial deafness and depression. I have dyspraxia. I was diagnosed at a young age. Some how we work together.
I work for Lyons Davidson Bristol and I am training to become a Cost Lawyer.
Right now my Husband and I are saving money for a deposit to get a Mortgage.
Hobbies: spa/swimming, cats, sci-fi tv shows, board gaming.
How has dyspraxia affected me?
In the past I had very messy handwriting. I hold a pen different to normal folk. I was always the last person to picked on a team.
Recently though I can never work out if my problems are linked to dyspraxia or I am just being human. If there is a daily problem is it part of the normal functioning of being a human being. All humans have their limits. Or is it the problem specifically linked to having dyspraxia. Perhaps its not so important but sometimes I like to know is it just me or is everyoneelse experiencing.
Work/ Studying: Academically I am smart. I got a first in law and nearly a distinction in my LPC (my marks were at distinction level but I had to resit an interviewing and advising skill). Last year I did an ACL course and my marks were 3% more than my Manager. Exams were lot better since I got allowed to use a computer in the exam.
However, there are things that are just frustrating. Deadlines. I managed deadlines at University as they were generally spread out. This week I had a deadline every other day. Its not I could not do the work in that time. It panics me and maybe it tAkes a lot out of me. I have mentioned this to my Manager. She suggested she could reduce the number of files I am allocated. I do not think this would solve the issue.
A lot of my job involves negotiating with the otherside. I am not a massive fan of using the telephone. I think I get a bit of anxiety. When I do talk to sometime I am good at telling them what I need to say. i plan it in my head. What I am not always great is responding. I often get brain freeze. Sometimes people speak too fast that I have not orocessed what the person has said to me. I have my coping strategies but I would like to eventually move past them. Usually I try as much as I can make a note of what people say and say something like I need to take instructions. Eventually I would like to get to a position where I can have a full on debate over the phone.
I prefer letter writing in my negotiations. It gives me more planning and responding time. However, I need to be better at being more assertive, this orobably applies onnthe telephone. Sometimes its getting the words together which is difficult. There are ways to say things and ways not to say things.
Social: I have a few close freinds. I struggle breaking bounaries with people, being myself around others. Some people its more natural than others but a lot of people there is an invisible brick wall. I am not massive fans of large group situations as I struggle to follow different conversations. Sometimes I struggle talking to one person for a long period of time and I zone in and out of conversations. My husband hates when I do this. I day dream often. When I talk to people or talking to a group I sometimes plan the conversation. Problem is I get frustrated when my my very detailed plan doesnt happen.
I am quite clumsy and I often lose things. Most things that get lost on my side of the bed, my clutter area. I worry what my husband thinks of me. He jokingly associates me with Miranda on bbc iplayer. She has extreme clumsiness but I say its more exagerated than my clumsiness.
Driving: i had passed my driving test on an automatic car for the first time but I only just scraped a pass. I do own a car because we cannot justify the cost and we walk to work. My Father in law is going to help me sort out renting a car every now and then especially when seeing family. Dyspraxia did affect me when I learnt. I often hesitated when on roundabouts. My instructor said I have to find the moment and go for it.
Housework: not a massive fan especially when working full time. I am quite lazy when I have to use force/ muscles.
Fatigue: I get tired very early. Sometimes I am in bed by 8/9 pm sleep by 10 pm. Sometimes I am in bed and fall asleep before my husband goes to bed.
Please introduce yourself. If you are in Bristol or Reading area (use to live in Reading), or Dorset (parents live there) or if you are a lawyer I would like to know.