Getting diagnosed

Getting assessed for your dyspraxia, getting help, disability allowance etc.

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Aaaaeeri
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Getting diagnosed

Post by Aaaaeeri » Thu Jun 13, 2019 2:29 pm

I live in an abusive house and I can’t go to my gp or college as my dad will find out and will have a go at me about trying to get diagnosed with something that doesn’t exist in his eyes. The same thing happened when I was diagnosed with ADHD and my mental health I didn’t even know I had ADHD( had always wondered) until about 9 months ago, I’m 17 now and was 5 when being tested. How can I get diagnosed without my family knowing

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Re: Getting diagnosed

Post by Tom fod » Thu Jun 13, 2019 6:02 pm

It is really none of his business and your GP and/or College should treat your case with confidentiality in mind. Your college is probably the easier route as NHS don't always have the resource. Any Assessor your college puts you in touch with may need to ask questions about your medical history. I would speak to your college's student support and welfare team and be sure to tell them of this difficulty/complication.

Do you think he may have it too? Often those who protest this way can be in denial.

It is just how you are and knowing/being able to accept you as you are, is really helpful.
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Aaaaeeri
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Re: Getting diagnosed

Post by Aaaaeeri » Sat Jun 15, 2019 12:43 am

Hey tom, thanks for the response. I already have counselling at my college so I’ll try and bring it up in one of my sessions. Thanks for the advice

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Re: Getting diagnosed

Post by Tom fod » Sat Jun 15, 2019 8:12 am

You're welcome.
It's natural for us to look for approval from others, sadly that isn't always forthcoming. Many are mistrustful of neurodiversity and difference. But we can't or won't always conform to others' 'ideals'

It's not your Dad's fault you were diagnosed with ADHD but perhaps he felt it was a failing on his part rather than something he could control or have prevented?

If you're able to learn to be confident in who and how you are, he may come round to accrpting in time.

I never really discussed Dyspraxia with my parents. I was diagnosed at school but it was never discussed with me so while I tried I often failed in things and hated myself for it. It was only about 8 years ago I started to better understand the condition and its effects for me and others.

A wild and weird sense of humour helps!
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