Frustration

[aberdeenlass]

Hiya folks, I'm looking for some advice. I was diagnosed with dyspraxia when I was eight, I'm now nineteen... ,my biggest difficulties are anxiety (in particular health anxiety - which is playing up tonight, I'm convinced I have a cancerous mole on my head!) and controlling my emotions I guess. It's always been the case that if I cant do something, I become really upset with myself; tears, anger the lot. I convince myself before I begin doing it that I can't do it - inevitably when I start doing it, I get upset. This happened tonight when my mum was trying to help me start sewing, I decided I couldn't manage it, even though I was doing fine, got frustrated for not being able to do things like other "normal" people can and lost it with my mum. This has happened since I was tiny - I didn't learn to do me laces til I was eighteen because of this .. My mum thinks I'm taking it out on her to be annoying however I've tried self harming but when I do that people just get even more angry with me. I'm really unsure how best to deal with these things, can anyone offer any advice? Much love x

[Catwoman42]

I sold my flat because I was obsessed abut rain coming in. to be fair sometimes, it did an i always got it fixed. But every time thee was heavy rain I obsessed constantly. i don''t know what the answer is, but I have had some success with a technique called(I think) tapping, which a hypnotherapist taught me. homeopathic remedies also helped...sometimes we have to try to push ourselves, but sometimes we have to accept we can't do things..probably knowing the difference is the hardest part. Good luck and don't be too hard on yourself.

[peterkeegan]

Have you been to see your GP regarding the self harm? Your GP may suggest a mental health assessment to try and get to the root of the problems that you are having to deal with. I'm sure Dyspraxia plays a part in some of the issues you are having to deal with. Let me know how you get on. Pete

[dj1981]

I suffer with anxiety and over worrying about things. The hardest part is trying to determine whether it's a part of dyspraxia or something else, along with trying to fully understand the different parts of dyspraxia and where to get help.
I've found counselling useful, reading self help books and talking to friends, though it's hard to explain and you can never fully understand someone's personal problems.