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Gave up on life

Post by Tam1 » Wed Jan 30, 2019 11:40 pm

Does anyon else feel like what’s the point in life I got paid of my work 3 months ago I don’t know if it the dyspraxia but I just don’t want to do anything any more I just want to sleep am fed up of proving to people am not stupid and not lazy

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Re: Gave up on life

Post by Tom fod » Thu Jan 31, 2019 6:12 pm

Welcome

I think everyone one here has had a point where they think why should I bother it's pointless anyway.

So what job were you in that you got paid off of?
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With a foot full of bullets I tried to run faster but I just hobbled on to the next disaster.
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Re: Gave up on life

Post by Bay » Fri Feb 01, 2019 2:47 am

It's saddeningly familiar. I've got a job now for a little over a year, but my boss just snapped because I suggested an improvement to our system to the IT manager of the company and he thought it was a good idea to implement.. I've been put on notice that I have to follow the hierarchical lines so suggestions have to go trough my boss first. I had a job as IT support manager before, and I kind of blurted the idea out in conversation not thinking anything of it, so now I feel I can't talk to my collegues about anything anymore. And my boss is too pre-occupied to understand any arguments I bring to them and when I diplomaticly point out mistakes they make (as in "I don't understand why you say this because then that doesn't seem to work") they snivel that it's too complicated for me to understand and I just have to do my job. As I'm not allowed to take strategic or tactical decisions and my boss now micromanages me, my coping mechanisms don't work and I can't do what I'm good at, they now only let me do repetitive administrative tasks that I'm too slow for. For the good of the company, I feel like they should kick me out and hire three uneducated workers for the same wage as me alone, they'll do 6 times as much work than I do for the same cost. Given my previous career (never held on to a job for more than two years), this job is kind of my last resort though so I just try to get trough the day hoping my boss gets promoted away or something, and I try to find meaning and things that interest me when I'm at home. Even though I hardly have the energy left when I get home from work. Plan B is to play the lottery and hope to win. One in a billion chance is better than nothing right? XD Those are the sucky days ... On the other hand I've had worse prospects and managed to get to a better place before ... So just hang in there, things may get better.

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Re: Gave up on life

Post by SwervingCentaur » Fri Feb 01, 2019 4:18 pm

Every day. I've felt like this since I was sixteen. I've had over ten jobs, never spent more than a year at them. I failed in school, college and everything else.

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Re: Gave up on life

Post by Tom fod » Fri Feb 01, 2019 8:35 pm

Bay wrote:
Fri Feb 01, 2019 2:47 am
It's saddeningly familiar. I've got a job now for a little over a year, but my boss just snapped because I suggested an improvement to our system to the IT manager of the company and he thought it was a good idea to implement.. I've been put on notice that I have to follow the hierarchical lines so suggestions have to go trough my boss first. I had a job as IT support manager before, and I kind of blurted the idea out in conversation not thinking anything of it, so now I feel I can't talk to my collegues about anything anymore. And my boss is too pre-occupied to understand any arguments I bring to them and when I diplomaticly point out mistakes they make (as in "I don't understand why you say this because then that doesn't seem to work") they snivel that it's too complicated for me to understand and I just have to do my job. As I'm not allowed to take strategic or tactical decisions and my boss now micromanages me, my coping mechanisms don't work and I can't do what I'm good at, they now only let me do repetitive administrative tasks that I'm too slow for. For the good of the company, I feel like they should kick me out and hire three uneducated workers for the same wage as me alone, they'll do 6 times as much work than I do for the same cost. Given my previous career (never held on to a job for more than two years), this job is kind of my last resort though so I just try to get trough the day hoping my boss gets promoted away or something, and I try to find meaning and things that interest me when I'm at home. Even though I hardly have the energy left when I get home from work. Plan B is to play the lottery and hope to win. One in a billion chance is better than nothing right? XD Those are the sucky days ... On the other hand I've had worse prospects and managed to get to a better place before ... So just hang in there, things may get better.
Sounds like a rubbish place to work if you aren't allowed sufficient autonomy to take the initiative. Isn't your colleague who implemented your suggestion the one who should be more in trouble? Could he not have said "Boss Bay has suggested doing X, I think's a sensible idea. are you content that I implement it.

It's a pain having Dyspraxia as it too often means we struggle to inspire confidence. I think it is very important for us to be able to see the contribution we're making to help build our confidence in ourselves.That said the turning the handle stuff is important and bosses need to be better at recognising the value of that being done well to ensure situational awareness and inform the making of correct decisions etc.
Tom
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Re: Gave up on life

Post by Tam1 » Tue Feb 05, 2019 1:10 am

Tom fod wrote:
Thu Jan 31, 2019 6:12 pm
Welcome

I think everyone one here has had a point where they think why should I bother it's pointless anyway.

So what job were you in that you got paid off of?
I was working for a landscape company but they have went bust

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Re: Gave up on life

Post by Tam1 » Tue Feb 05, 2019 1:11 am

SwervingCentaur wrote:
Fri Feb 01, 2019 4:18 pm
Every day. I've felt like this since I was sixteen. I've had over ten jobs, never spent more than a year at them. I failed in school, college and everything else.
I’ve felt like this since I was 13 and am now 26 sometimes wish I could just sleep all the time

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Re: Gave up on life

Post by Tom fod » Wed Feb 06, 2019 5:43 pm

Tam1 wrote:
Tue Feb 05, 2019 1:10 am
I was working for a landscape company but they have went bust
My first employer sadly went under too. It wasn't easy at the time but having had some previous work helped me in finding another more stable employer. It is so demotivating especially when you seem to fail to get anywhere in all that you apply for. It is difficult but you have to keep on keeping on.
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With a foot full of bullets I tried to run faster but I just hobbled on to the next disaster.
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