Beginning of a relationship

[Dent]

I'm currently in limbo with a girl as to if to start a relationship with her, I'm interested other than flirtatious behavior when we're out in a group there has been no arranged time to meet outside a group, I've opened the possibility yet no confirmation and the I'm busy excuse. [Yet not enough to warrent backing off, just temporarily to prevent "The stalker" idea]

I'm asking this knowing the reply will be "Wait and bide you time." However, I've been in a similar situation where I've become annoyed and confused on signals and ended in annoyance and causing tension between friends.

What I'm basically trying to say is...

How can I tell the difference if she wants a no strings relationship "Casual play" or a relationship. Without offending or suggesting anything?

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Answers to your questions that you'll ask

Yes I've had other relationships
They were good.
I've not known her for that long
I don't know her previous boyfriend experiences.

[Wildcat_madness]

Why not ask her if its what she wants? Its simple yet difficult but you get her point of view.

Some girls flirt without actually meaning to entice (I know that because I've been told I do it myself lol) so if you're really interested in her, ask her what she wants and what she feels about you. If she wants to stay as friends then shrug and say 'fair enough' but if she wants more then you've scored

[Shadwell]

while wildcat might be right, there are also times when she will not say yes, to wanting something between you, like the woman sort of in my life, she has been flirting loads, but lack of social skills, and being rather inward then never really seen it.

even though there were roomers for years off her parents, and stuff, I just knew I liked her, but too scared to show my feelings. until the one day I did kind of snap just after finding out about being dyspraxic, and coping with a loss of a good friend.

so I wasn't in a good state of mind, as you can imagine, having all 3 things going on in my head, I approached her at work after a couple of dutch courage, I did ask her, and she denied it, even though that night I wanted her to deny it, in the back of my mind, I also wanted her to admit it.

and still am waiting for her to admit it, but seems like she felt I was testing her too much, and she denied everytime, until I kind of put my foot in it with her sister. I said that some of the questions I asked her, were because I wanted her to say yes. ie. would you like to move in with me?

there were other signs to go by as well, like her sister brought up the subject about me asking her if she wanted anything between us? which I had never mentioned a word to her sister about, and waiting for my response.

so while it is ok, to ask, just be aware of putting your foot in it with anyone. as it has taken years of still not knowing what she wants, and trying to get our friendship back up, but it is still only the odd word in the pub, as she won't say yes to meeting up any other times