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How do Dypraxics cope in a love or sexual relationship with someone who they are really found of?I find it hard to trust men to be with me because I know I am different then him and don't want to be judged or make an idiot out of myself.Men see me and think,theres nothing wrong with her, shes fine...........?
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Post by gherkin001 »

If someone cant accept you for you and your differences so they arent worth your time so dont worry about it...

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Thanks kirsty but I was asking how to handle a relationship with a boy who is very found of me, loves me,but doesnt know this hidden secret...?
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Post by SavV »

Whoa, long time no post!

Anyway... before i sidetracked myself there I was replying to something...
Ahh yes, How to handle a relationship with a lad thats very fond of you and the like.... Hard fact of the matter is if you plan on sticking with him, you're going to have to tell him. I'm still single - not looking like thats going to change any time soon - but I am very close to a couple of young ladies, whom I eventually had to tell, just cause they meant so much to me. (have very few frieinds, do I). How they take it is I find a good guage of character... and if they are worth knowing still. Fortunatly for me, both these two (who incidentally are almost complete opposites, though have a few striking similarities... but there I go sidetracking myself again, where was I? Oh yes..) took it well, though others have not... and we've since lost touch.

If he is indeed fond of you, and loves you, he won't be all that judgemental. But you should expect to have to spend a great deal of time explaining... a great deal of time, its hard to explain is dyspraxia.

Anyway, now I've finished confusing you I'm off to create havoc on a few other threads!

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Post by gherkin001 »

I can only advise you to tell him the ways it affects your life. If its only minor issues you have then he wont be phased at all. On the other hand if they are big issues then he may just want to find ways to help you cope. Dont stress yourself out, it will only make things harder for you. Trust me, if he truly cares it wont make much difference to him beyond wanting to help you as much as he can.

Kirsty.......
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Thanks kirsty and Savv you have just hit the nail on the head. now who is wcc fan-anderson84?he just emailed me.seen my add for a penpal on this forum.Any female penpals...?email me Amynirvana87@youtube.com
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Post by WTCCFan »

Do you not want a male penpal Little Miss Anxious? Do you not want me as a penpal? :*(

Something else you said worried me. You said you find it hard to trust blokes because you know your different to them and you don't want them to judge or made a idiot out of yourself and you think men judge you and think nothing is wrong with you.

Firstly I don't like to judge. Not all blokes are like that. Secondly you could never make an idiot out of yourself because you happen to be different. As Gerkhin says if they judge you their not worth it. Their only worth it if they can see past your differences.

Another thing worries me. You think men will see you and think theirs nothing wrong with you. Is that so bad? Shows, does it not, that they can see past your differences an treat you as a person and as a woman - not as someone who has the differences you have. I have seen your YouTube log and your a very good singer. You can use that talent to be every bit as good as the top mega-beautiful women of todays pop. Your differences won't matter to anyone because your voice would be what matters to them.

Anyway....I have never been in a relationship so I do not have any experience to back on but to answer the question "How do Dypraxics cope in a love or sexual relationship with someone who they are really found of?" I wouldn't see myself as being scared at all. I would absolutely love being in a relationship. I would feel "inadequate" in the trouser department and not exactly the hottest of hunky lovers but I would love the hugs and kisses.
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