Hi there folks! I’m a 22-year-old male who was diagnosed with dyspraxia at a young age, and I just had my first intimate encounter. However, I discovered something rather... odd during the act: I couldn’t feel any of it with my member. Like, I couldn’t even tell if I was penetrating or not and my fiancé had to tell me when I slipped out of the hole a couple times. Despite my clumsiness, in the end she said she really enjoyed it, but I ended up walking away feeling like I hadn’t even just had sex because I didn’t feel any of it.
I’ve never seemed to have this problem with self-pleasure before, but I’ve noticed a lack of sensation down there when I have kidney stones (the only pain I ever feel is the stones’ trip from the kidney to the bladder, never any pain on the way out).
Anyone here have any similar problems with a lack of sensation in the nether regions, or have any suggestions on how to make things more enjoyable for the both of us?
Rather odd issue with intimacy
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Re: Rather odd issue with intimacy
If you"ve been used to solo manual stimulation it may take take a while to get used to intercourse. Keep at it with your partner and you will be fine.
The first time is often a bit 'is that it' for many. Learn about that you both enjoy together.
The first time is often a bit 'is that it' for many. Learn about that you both enjoy together.
Tom
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With a foot full of bullets I tried to run faster but I just hobbled on to the next disaster.
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With a foot full of bullets I tried to run faster but I just hobbled on to the next disaster.
(from Peter and the Test Tube Babies, Foot Full of Bullets)
Re: Rather odd issue with intimacy
I think a dyspraxic can find sex ovewrhelming, - the emotions, movement, position, penetration, sensory processing.
Does anyone agree with me ?
Does anyone agree with me ?
Re: Rather odd issue with intimacy
Yes, Whilst biologically it should come naturally there's a a lot of emotion, verbal and non verbal communication and if people are sensitive to textures that might also need to be overcome. I wish I could understand and get my head around the whole business of attraction, dating and relationships and womankind in todays age and that's before I get anywhere near having any more of 'that sort of thing' by which time I'll probably be much too old and have forgotten what it is.
Tom
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With a foot full of bullets I tried to run faster but I just hobbled on to the next disaster.
(from Peter and the Test Tube Babies, Foot Full of Bullets)
Moderator/Administrator
With a foot full of bullets I tried to run faster but I just hobbled on to the next disaster.
(from Peter and the Test Tube Babies, Foot Full of Bullets)
Re: Rather odd issue with intimacy
I find it overwhelming, there’s so much going on and sometimes in a split second i’ll Start thinking about dinner or the shopping by which point for me I’ve completely lost interest in what I was doing. I put it down to short concentration spand and that I can lose interest in things quickly
Re: Rather odd issue with intimacy
My hubby is amazing and supportive and we laugh it off but sometimes I wish I was better at it!!