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shocked how to say no

Postby invisible2014 » Tue Apr 25, 2017 11:38 am

Hi my friend texted me today ,I'm so shocked,she knows I'm unemployed and she told me she's in debt 500 pounds because the hotel that her and her mum are going away to has taken there money out.im so shocked because I'm employed and I'm not going away with her so why ask me

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Re: shocked how to say no

Postby Tom fod » Tue Apr 25, 2017 6:11 pm

You can say you're sorry to hear of your friends financisl predicament but she needs to take this up with the hotel and/or her bank. It really is not you problem.
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Re: shocked how to say no

Postby Ram » Tue Apr 25, 2017 7:35 pm

If she knows you're unemployed, it's absurd she's asking you.

You could even tell her something along the lines of, "As you know, I'm unemployed at present. Consequently, I need to make sure I have enough money to eat, keep a roof over my head and pay for travel to interviews for the next few months. I won't be able to afford my own holiday for the foreseeable future, so that means I am unable to contribute towards the cashflow of anyone else's holiday."

If she can't accept a reason like that, she's a toxic friend who ain't worth keeping!

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Re: shocked how to say no

Postby invisible2014 » Wed Apr 26, 2017 8:16 am

Tom fod wrote:You can say you're sorry to hear of your friends financisl predicament but she needs to take this up with the hotel and/or her bank. It really is not you problem.
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Exzactly I thought she should ask her mum who she's actually going away with four a contribution and not me

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Re: shocked how to say no

Postby invisible2014 » Wed Apr 26, 2017 8:18 am

Ram wrote:If she knows you're unemployed, it's absurd she's asking you.

You could even tell her something along the lines of, "As you know, I'm unemployed at present. Consequently, I need to make sure I have enough money to eat, keep a roof over my head and pay for travel to interviews for the next few months. I won't be able to afford my own holiday for the foreseeable future, so that means I am unable to contribute towards the cashflow of anyone else's holiday."

If she can't accept a reason like that, she's a toxic friend who ain't worth keeping!

Yeah I was really shocked I mean I'm nothing going away with her so why ask me the hotel involves her and her mum so she should ask her mum not me


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