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George H
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A "can't be bothered" mood

Post by George H » Sat Jan 28, 2017 3:50 am

We have had Blue Monday on the third Monday of January this year, but I have felt that my own Blue Monday has been the following Monday.

For some reason, over the last few days, I have been in a "can't be bothered" mood - staying up all night and sleeping during the day - more alert at 3 am than at 3 pm. I have even written this close to 4 am. It happens a few times a year, and I think that having a partner would make things easier in that respect.

Up until this week I have been out and about shopping during the day (I am unable to work at the moment, which is a long story). The food in the cupboards and fridge go down until I do an online order. I don't think that it's anything to do with the time of the year or the weather - I believe that as a man, I also get the male equivalent of "the time of the month" when I can't be bothered even to get out of bed. A bit like a bear hibernating in the wild until spring arrives, and better comes along.

I think that one reason is that I really want a partner to share my life with, and sometimes, I don't mind if it is female or male. I am thinking ahead to my birthday at the end of August, and thinking about wanting a partner so that I can go somewhere together when it arrives - perhaps to see a musical at a theatre and go travelling. I have always had to go on my own to do things on my birthday, and I just want to put an end to that. But as it's seven months away, it's just ideas and hypotheticals at the moment. Valentine's Day is the hurdle that is a lot closer at this time of year - 2006 wasn't that bad as I was "with" someone back then.

Does anyone get "can't be bothered" moods, and is anyone experiencing it at the moment, whether it has anything to do with the weather or the time of year?

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Re: A "can't be bothered" mood

Post by Tom fod » Sun Jan 29, 2017 9:41 pm

I wish I knew the answer for myself too since I too have yet to meet anyone. Is it a case that we don't understand the spoken and unspoken language of love, Is it low self esteem or a combination of these and other things that weigh on our minds?

As you say being alone/single is a disincentive to getting out and doing what we want to do and share with a significant other. The cold and dark probably don't help either, but it is completely possible to feel just as down about being single/lonely in the height of summer too.

It's counter-intuitive and sadly by no means any kind of certainty but you probably have more chance of meeting someone if you're out doing the things you like/want to and feeling happ(y/ier) and 'on display' so to speak. However with Valentines Day coming up, I think many of us can fully understand why you want to hibernate. Unfortunately it will probably not have any positive impact on how you're feeling.

I doubt I've given you any useful answer here but I hope an answer/solution will come to you.
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Re: A "can't be bothered" mood

Post by lizzie1991 » Thu Dec 28, 2017 8:35 pm

George H wrote:We have had Blue Monday on the third Monday of January this year, but I have felt that my own Blue Monday has been the following Monday.

For some reason, over the last few days, I have been in a "can't be bothered" mood - staying up all night and sleeping during the day - more alert at 3 am than at 3 pm. I have even written this close to 4 am. It happens a few times a year, and I think that having a partner would make things easier in that respect.

Up until this week I have been out and about shopping during the day (I am unable to work at the moment, which is a long story). The food in the cupboards and fridge go down until I do an online order. I don't think that it's anything to do with the time of the year or the weather - I believe that as a man, I also get the male equivalent of "the time of the month" when I can't be bothered even to get out of bed. A bit like a bear hibernating in the wild until spring arrives, and better comes along.

I think that one reason is that I really want a partner to share my life with, and sometimes, I don't mind if it is female or male. I am thinking ahead to my birthday at the end of August, and thinking about wanting a partner so that I can go somewhere together when it arrives - perhaps to see a musical at a theatre and go travelling. I have always had to go on my own to do things on my birthday, and I just want to put an end to that. But as it's seven months away, it's just ideas and hypotheticals at the moment. Valentine's Day is the hurdle that is a lot closer at this time of year - 2006 wasn't that bad as I was "with" someone back then.

Does anyone get "can't be bothered" moods, and is anyone experiencing it at the moment, whether it has anything to do with the weather or the time of year?
Hi, I get the can't be bothered moods several times a week, month, day, year in more recent years and probably when I was still in secondary school/any form of college courses failed or completed. Same for work places. I currently don't work for a few reasons.

I think I can explain how I feel, maybe it relates to you. Basically early in the mornings particularly in the winter months I have a morning depression. When this happens let's say for example between 3 and 7am if I've woken up from sleep, or been up or night. I feel cold aches in my stomach, tired and sad not always to the point of crying but mostly feel it in my stomach.

Sometimes during the day I can become lazy but not on purpose. I may feel like I can only be bothered to do simple tasks. The simple tasks such as getting up from where I am sitting to make cups of tea and go to the toilet or answer the door etc.

When it comes down to slightly bigger things let's say doing a big tidy up that should really be done. It's like I have no motivation, if I do have the motivation I will actually rush around trying to get it all done at once. I may get frustrated at the amount I need to do even if it's simple like just tidying up one area. If I try to do this I end up just cluttering up the room not really having the patience again if I do then I will rush about tidying different things at the same time. In the end it will still end up in a mess unintentionally.

I know I need to be bothered but sometimes the can't be bothered feeling leaves me just doing almost nothing other than what I've mentioned and using the phone.

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