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Post by Lumic »

does anyone else ever get lonely??
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Post by rhyds »

I do sometimes, usually when I'm feeling generally low and under the weather, but I work my way through it, and remind myself that I do have people who care about me in this crazy ole world
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Post by quackstar84 »

Living with the Depersonalisation & Derealisation disorder, life is numb… emotions are numb and myself is numb… I’d assume I can relate to loneliness well.
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Post by Daniel »

Hi KJ, are you feeling a touch low at the moment? We can all have these moments, but try not to let it get to you. As Rhyds said, you're important to many people, as you're an important member of the forum here. As far as finding a significant other goes, if a radio show I was listening to today is anything to go by, there are plenty of eligible chaps out there in search for the right lady. Be confident that your path will cross with the right person in due course.
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Post by david456 »

I've been single for years, so with relationships, sometimes I do get very lonely. It's just a company thing and wanting someone to talk to and hang out with.

With friends at the moment, I am getting invited out by different peoplewhich is nice, as I've never really had that before. I'm just not that good in social situations. I get nervous and I feel lonely when I don't see my friends for weeks on end.
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Post by Greg »

Yes.
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everybody gets lonely, its human
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Post by GWhizz »

Yes at the moment I do feel very lonely and low. With girlfriend relationships I would like the intimacy of them and somebody to talk to somebody about anything under the sun being understood and it's frustrating when people don't keep up with you to let you know there ok and they still like you and don't worry but that's a different story
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Post by Shadwell »

I do get lonely as far as relatinships go, and being single, but I usually pull myself through by having friends, and going out.

and I am in one of these stages now, like seeing a friend get married, and now got a daughter, oh! well he has offered me the job of baby sitting his 1/2 son, and daughter 5 nights a week so that should keep me busy for the next 15 years or so!!!

not that I want kids yet, I just want to get my life on track, and have someone to share my life with. so that I don't feel so lonely all the time, and not relying on friends to always be around.

but more importantly someone to share the good, and bad times with. as well as holidays (as they make me feel the most lonely), as well as going out with friends that have got partners.

it usually becomes 2 is company, 3 is a crowd type of thing, and it isn't easy to get rid of that feeling either.
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Post by mina »

I'm feeling very lonely at the moment to. It's my birtday soon and was supposed to be going away but the person i was going with cancelled just the week before so now what i'm going to do.
a lot of my friends aren't very reliable like changing their minds at the last minute.
It makes me feel like i don't mean much to them cause it seems that i always do all the organising.
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Post by Shadwell »

don't worry mina, as long as it is somewhere you know, then you should be fine by yourself, just lonlier than if you had someone there.

same thing happened to me a few years ago, me, and a friend planned to goto the Isle of Wight together, then he had what looked to be a cold, but that went on for a few weeks, then the weekend before we were due to go, it was quite obvious it was something more that a cold.

like he went into his room, and came out 5 minutes later, and he was totally out of breath. so we decided it was better that we phoned up the hotel to see what happens next, as it was serious, that was after trying a few friends, but it was too short notice for them.

so I ended up going by myself in the end. it was fine, as I had been everywhere on the island quite a few times, so it wasn't like somewhere new, the only new parts were the hotel, and having a friend going with me, instead of going alone.

then the monday that I was away my friend got admitted to hospital, and died the following Feb. so it wasn't really his fault for pulling out, it was a genuine reason for pulling out. just upset that he didn't goto see the doctor or hospital, until it was too late for them to do anything.
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Post by mina »

thanks shadwell
I know its nothing serious with my friend
thats really awful about your friend though
I guess what you meant was that it might be something out of their control
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Post by Shadwell »

yeah something along those lines, but at the end of the day, there are more important things than a holiday, like health.

we were going to do all the pubs, and see how many we could get kicked out of in one night type of thing O:) :whistle: , he was a real party animal \:D/, so it would have made for a great holiday!! :-k it would have been good!!

then in the feb when he died, I also had a relative die, and both of their funerals were on the same day, 20 miles apart, and something like 10 minutes to do the drive, luckily I told my mother, I wouldn't do the service, as even if I ran straight out then I wouldn't do it in time.

so I had a quick coke with his relatives, and then excused myself, and explained why, and they were even happier then because it meant I was missing the service in one, to be at his funeral,

plus finding out about being dyspraxic in the Jan, so it left me in a sombre state for quite a while.

so that year wasn't a good start to it at all, I :-k that is what really prompted me to go for my large goods lessons, is all the bad stuff happening near enough all together, that I really needed something to give me a boost.

and the weird part is, I don't regret going for my driving lessons then, as it did take my mind off everything else, about the only thing I would have changed is the driving test!! but can't win them all :)
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Post by Carpe Veritas »

"Every body cries, sometimes" - REM

I've suffered from bad depression twice before, once from an ex girlfriend having an abortion, once because my best friend died of adult cot death - we headed out, she went to sleep she never woke up. Felt a tad alone both times :*(

But things change and I am now happy most the time and lonely only a little of the time despite having just moved away from all my friends.

I am lonely now but i know it will pass (sighs) still sucks when your there though.
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Post by Shadwell »

and that was without mentioning the depressions of family going on about it is time that I met someone special! and started a family, I didn't include that bit as they had been doing that every Christmas since before decimilization!!! as well as family get togethers, and everytime they seen me, what is wrong with wanting to live a bit first!!

or is it the way younger people are today, and yesterday!! well last 10 years or so!

I only have moments of lonelyness, it didn't mean I would get married, buy a house, and start a family when I was 18!! ok so I am 30 now, nearly 21!! 8-[ again!! \:D/

but it is only now that I am feeling ready, to take things steady, a bit like Eddie!!!!

got that bit of a rhym from an article in one of the trucking mags I used to get, and the heading was called "Steady Eddie"

then I will slow down on the mad nights on the internet WoW gaming, and not stay up until all hours, with the exception of family get togethers.
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