which colour hair do you prefer women to have?

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which colour hair do you prefer women to have?

Blonde
0
No votes
brunette
7
64%
red
3
27%
pink
1
9%
other
0
No votes
 
Total votes: 11

quackstar84
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Post by quackstar84 »

James wrote:Speak for yourself.

*is firmly in the "Suck up to women" class*

:D
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Post by James »

O:)

Shutting up now.

(I'm used to sucking up to women... most of my friends are female. It's second nature now. *doh*)
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Yeah I've been there and done all the "sucking"... it's their time to do the "sucking" now :whistle: :banana: :grin: :-$
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For god's sake, grow up, little boys.

The colour of a person's hair has NOTHING to do with what kind of person they are, how good they are in bed, whether they'd make a good partner. I'm sick of childish men's ridiculous method of preferring girls purely based on their hairstyle or colour.

Two bits of bullshit I've heard from boys on this subject:

'Blondes are the best, readheads are wild, brunettes are boring'

And

'Blondes will follow you into bed, brunettes will pull you and redheads will push you'


Clearly a load of childish bullshit that anyone with half a damn braincell wouldn't beleive. But no, I've known boys (Let's not call them 'men', they clearly aren't mentally grown up enough to deserve that description) who are supposedly intelligent that beleive in this crap. I'm bloody sick of being rejected/derided on the basis of my haircolour. So what, I might be a boring brunette, but at least I'm neither shallow nor childish.

That is all.
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Post by Daniel »

Fair points them all, Louise, but it was clarified by the poster and others earlier in the thread that their position is very much as yours, so no need to discharge quite as much vitriol as you did, but I think we see quite where you're coming from :)

For the record I think that the human animal, regardless of how intelligent it sees fit to credit itself with has tendencies to default to some basic determinates when it comes down to choosing a mate. I recall a series by Robert Winston which revealed that people can be attracted by scent (in that people with different scents have different gene make ups, are therefore less likely to cause any duplication in faulty genes with offspring and it's therefore hardwired in to us that we should find ourselves attracted to different scents). Is that what we'd call deep? What's love after all other than a series of chemical responses and stimuli? But then when we talk like that it doesn't sound half as appealing, does it?

Also, if you're tired of being labelled based on your hair colour, what about us guys who don't fit into that oldest of classifications of being tall, dark and handsome? Tall - well yes in my case, dark - definitely not, and handsome - well that's up for grabs really. However we are similarly tarred. Personally I'm happy enough not to look like a Mediterranean type and happier still not to act like them!

And may I add finally that if anyone does think anything along the lines of
'Blondes are the best, readheads are wild, brunettes are boring' they must subject their tiny minds to the very worst of trash tabloid media. A bookshelf or artistic portfolio is lot more indicative of a personality in my opinion.
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Post by Liz944 »

'Blondes are the best, readheads are wild, brunettes are boring'


Whoever wrote it must have not known about hair dye.... #-o
Drama is life with the dull bits cut out...
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Post by robyn »

daniel, I dont think men are similarly tarred, they maybe held to artificial standards to some extent, but no where near the levels of perfection that women are constantly criticsed against. typically, traditionally, men are commonly thought to get more atractive as they get older, where as women loose there appeal, it is ok for men to gain weight where as women are expected to stay thin (which is a doubley unfair standard as we are the ones who carry children and are naturally prone to cellulite) and grey hair and wrinkels on a man is seen as distinguished. I actually think that women judge women more than men judge us on physical characterists, but it is mens preferences that we are mesured up against (after all its mostly men who control the fashion industry and film industry) and being openly evaulated on hair colour (which as louise pointed out carries well known sexist stereo types) is insulting. just because there are now male models out there to let you guys know your not perfect doesnt mean you are in any position to empathise. being atracted by feramones is instinctive and natural and although it may not be deep it is also not shallow, letting hair colour have any reckoning on preference at all is (like louise said) little boys behaviour in a sweet shop, insult to us women and embarrassing for men, it is the 21st centuary after all
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louise, intresting point bout how hair colour doesnt affect performance i bed, i came accross a mag article years ago bout how men last longest in bed with red heads, least with blondes, and brunnettes in the middle. now dont get me wrong i totaly agree with you, it would be prosterous to suggest that our hair colour affects what we're like in bed, but these findings do suggest that there is a relationship between these things ingrained in mens brains!! Not that I know how accurate or unbiased this evidence was.

I compleatly get how frustarting it is to be put into a catogory due to hair colour. Im a natural blonde, add to that blue eyes, long legs and plenty up front, Im allways getting refered to as a bimbo, even in casual clothes. my natural clumsiness and ditzyness (thanks dyspraxia!!) make this worse and it allways annoys me that people (especially men) can make assumptions based on such things. I often feel compelled to point out that I was a member of mensa when i was a kid and that my IQ is in the top 0.1% of the population, most liking making me the cleverest person they're ever likly to meet, so the compleate opposite of a bimbo! However on the odd occassions that I (or my friends) have done this I then get accused of being a stuck up bitch (cant win) and looking down my nose at 'normal' guys (kind of inevietable when they tilt their heads to stare at my cleavage). What is wrong with men that they think this kind of behaviour is ok? I dont go arround prejudging them, its feels horrible to be looked at in this way, and although I normally find I get too much attention because of this, Im sure Id be equally horrified to be rejected due to the same kind of ignorant assumptions. the only comfort I can offer is to say that if the basis of hair colour why some guys out there over look how wounderful you are then they're not worth your time anyways, and there are many fab guys out there who arnt like this, Im lucky enough to know loads of guys who would never think of being so shallow, so dont depair!!
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Post by Daniel »

Certainly the images that men and women are subjected and compared to are not at all equal in nature or quantity, however I would like to state that in my experience women seem to feel under great pressure to aspire to the images of size zero models so ubiquitously displayed throughout the media whereas a great many men aren't interested in this image of women at all. Of course I understand the desire to feel good about yourself but I also feel that most women should be perfectly happy with how they naturally, sans diets and loads of make-up.

I can't speak with any authority as to what reinforces the differing demands on men and image as they age, and indeed we do age in different ways, although I do wonder if there isn't again something hard wired within us, men especially, that draws us towards an appealing image of a women with good child bearing characteristics (age, appearance etc.) well after the years when such factors have become biologically unimportant. Civilisation is something we try to hold ourselves up high with achieving but we're still crude animals underneath and this is covered up with varying success in my opinion.

Back to original issue of hair colour, it wouldn't surprise me in the slightest if there wasn't something similarly innate that dictated our attraction to those of a particular type of appearance. It all comes down to mixing up genes and creating strong and healthy offspring. Of course to label particular hair colours with certain characteristics is rubbish, but I don't think at any point in that thread had anyone even remotely advocated that position. On the contrary if we chose to examine the attraction people of certain hair colour and genealogical backgrounds had towards others, we could perhaps see to what extent innate trends do exist - reinforcing or otherwise the rather simplified terms of opposites attracting or not.

Another two penneth into the pot.

Dan.
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Post by Esioul »

I've heard that kind of thing Dan, but I must say I don't really agree with it. Genetcis was the reason an ex boyfriend used for why he found me unnatractive.

I also think the whole blondes and redheads being better in bed thing is really unfair. Another argument my ex boyfriend uses. For some reason it seems acceptable for men to have any hair colour, and not to fit conventional ideasof attractiveness. However, I and proabbyl many other women have been rejected or mistreated several times simply because I'm unnatrtactive, and I don't think that's fair. I think I do have somethign to offer even though I'm not attractive. Any boyfriend I've had/have/will have would probably have to be blind.
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Post by robyn »

your prob v attractive, almost everybody is in their own way. just sounds like you have loosy taste in men
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Post by Esioul »

http://www.thefword.org.uk/features/200 ... t_delusion I urge you all to take a look at this article.

So many fo the delusions men have about women from from images they are fed by the media etc from a young age.

This makes life as an unnatrractive woman practically intolerable.
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Post by Daniel »

Firstly Louise, I don't know what makes you think you're unattractive. Last I heard it sounded like you had half of the sci-fi soc after you :) That your ex uses the excuses about girls of other hair colours being better in bed shows either how detached he is from reality or that he's no good and just wants to hurt you. Either way you're much better off without. Try to be confident in who you are and doubt let the words of others, especially your good for nothing ex, sow seeds of doubt in your mind.

Secondly, in terms of the article, it paints a picture of some terribly sad, image obsessed guys out there living in some fantasy world, but those aren't the sort of attitudes I'm familiar with from the friends I have. Does anyone actually read the likes of FHM or GQ except for sexually repressed teenage boys? I think you'll find the inner geekdom of guys much more likely to be interested in planes, trains and automobiles, gadgets, footie stats and DIY than some random airbrushed size zero on the cover of a mag.
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Post by Esioul »

I hope so. A surprising number of guys I know would read such things and judge women on their appearance. Even sci fi, sadly, seem to beleive the whole 'blondes..' etc thing.

There also seems to be thsi distressing assumption nowadays that women should accept that men look at pornography etc which only perpetuates false imags of women and check out other women all the time. If we object to this, we're seen as being jealous and insecure. This isn't fair.
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Post by littlelostkitten »

heh

i have purple hair, and every time i walk home kids try and tease me and yell at me. purple hair rules though!!!
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