Problems with not offending my boyfriend/ emotions dictating weaknesses of disorder (Female 24 with Dyspraxia)

[Lifechanger]

Hello everyone,

I am quite new to this community.

I've been pretty lucky, as I've had the opportunity of help, self-reflection and self-awareness of myself from an early age. I firstly was diagnosed at 5yrs old with mild Asperger's, until my statement being changed to Dyslexia and Dyspraxia at 13yrs old due to being too creative, social development and fast development in a small time frame. Having a stubborn and supportive family really help me with my progress. At present I struggle when I'm overwhelmed or have too many every day pressure (such as exams, essays, family crisis's and when I take everyone issues on, instead of my own). If things don't calm down, the earlier effects of childhood show their nasty face, even coping techniques or learning things repetitively doesn't seem to work.

Basically my boyfriend has been very patient with my constant interrupting and how the volume of my voice peaking (sometimes I don't notice my volume, also I ask him to let me know if I interrupt and I try to concentrate on his tone). I've tried to find ways of curbing these issues, but it isn't always easy or recognizable, especially when stress. He's read up on my disability, but can't seem to understand my disability effects me emotionally and how I approach everyday situations and my education. Apparently I say one thing and act another way, I can never understand this, as I feel that try my absolute hardest to please him. It probably doesn't help he struggles to recognize his emotions and gets very insecure, even though I ask him to tell me, as I'd never do anything to hurt him purposely and I love him dearly. It's just my mind can't always work as fast as his, he is highly intelligent and that's why I'm attracted to him, as he helps my mind grow from the challenge. I'm just fed up of all the argument, that seem to escalate out of no where, it's confusing and I'm left clueless.

Anyone found any coping methods of not offending your partner?
Or advice on the emotional effects of Dyspraxia...
Also does anyone with Dyspraxia here, suffer from Hyper emotional sensitivity (Highly Emphatic traits)?

Any advice is very much appreciated.

[Tom fod]

Hi and welcome

To me it feels as if you're putting a lot of effort (maybe even too much) into trying to always do right by other people all of the time? Because we've done things wrong and been harshly criticised we sometimes can become too focused on worrying/being anxious about what we might have done wrong or might do wrong. We already have to work harder at some things so of course we find this exhausting and we inevitably slip up. Especially when we have lots of things we're trying to juggle.

Finding ways to calm yourself/situations and learning to take a step back to think about things afresh can really help. It's not always easy but this is where partners/friends family may be able to help by reminding or even insisting you give yourself a break and helping you and themselves to be more understanding. You can read loads about the typical issues people with dyspraxia have but we're still unique beings and won't tick all the boxes of what a dyspraxic person can or can't do or will or won't be good at.

Hope this gives you some ideas for creating additional or fine tuning your existing coping strategies. The best are those that you can come up with or adapt to suit your own ways/preferences. Please do respond if you feel I've missed or misinterpreted anything or if I can perhaps try to explain better or in another way.