I went out the other night into town and to some pubs and clubs, they were so busy!
I really feel overawed and quite intimidated at times. I'd like to talk to more girls in particular, when out, but with loud music and with people moving all over the place I really struggle.
How do you deal with nights out and trying to meet new people?
Out on the town?
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hmm, sounds like a place my brother calls "sardines" as if you got enough room to lift your pint up to your mouth, then the send in another person, as you got too much room!
and with it being a night club, then it has really ear deafening music, so I don't bother, unless it is a quiet night there.
and then dive out the doors before pub closing times, as for speaking to new people, then I tend to avoid it like the plague, as most of them are below the alcohol age limit (with parent's and a meal).
so usually just go out, and speak to friends and relatives in quieter pubs. and mingle with the people I know
and with it being a night club, then it has really ear deafening music, so I don't bother, unless it is a quiet night there.
and then dive out the doors before pub closing times, as for speaking to new people, then I tend to avoid it like the plague, as most of them are below the alcohol age limit (with parent's and a meal).
so usually just go out, and speak to friends and relatives in quieter pubs. and mingle with the people I know
Mike
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this is something that i really struggle with, as i go to a lot of indie discos and gigs. i always find it so difficult to understand what people are saying....i think my friends used to find it frustrating as they have to repeat things 3 or 4 times but they understand that it's just the way i am now. it really upsets me when i ask someone to repeat something and they just say "oh, it doesn't matter".
new people who strike up a conversation with me tend to give up fairly quickly as i can never understand what they're saying, and if i do then i tend to use one word answers.
getting drunk tends to help me a bit, but mainly because i don't feel quite as self-conscious. lately i've found that sign language is a brilliant idea for communicating with friends in loud places! it also means that you can have conversations about people around you without them having a clue! me and my girlfriends use it to talk about good looking men that we've spotted
new people who strike up a conversation with me tend to give up fairly quickly as i can never understand what they're saying, and if i do then i tend to use one word answers.
getting drunk tends to help me a bit, but mainly because i don't feel quite as self-conscious. lately i've found that sign language is a brilliant idea for communicating with friends in loud places! it also means that you can have conversations about people around you without them having a clue! me and my girlfriends use it to talk about good looking men that we've spotted
about it is a great idea Lucy, you should take it up with a few friends, only thing that I found is, I find that I can read sign language, faster than actually do sign language.
me and a friend learned sign language together, and got to know the alphabet in 2 weeks, and up to a reasonable speed of being able to read it.
but there again, we were doing it from like 10 pm, until 3-4 am, as we couldn't sleep when in the halls, in College.
but it also comes in handy when you need to talk to someone that can't seem to lip read specific letters of a word, and if lighting is poor, then people can see hands better than lip reading.
I think it is because of the hand-eye co-ordintion thing that I am not very good at speedy sign language. but here I am 12 years later, and still know most of the sign language, and getting taught more, as he got married to a nice deaf lady (this Saturday just gone).
another thing I have become aware of is how much lip reading I do when out, even in quiet areas, if someone asks me to do something, then I might go to the wrong place, but if I am actually watching their lips then I can tell what they sort of mumble afterwards.
I don't know how many others have noticed that, but I sort of taken it for granted, until I actually got to know my friends wife, then I did notice it
me and a friend learned sign language together, and got to know the alphabet in 2 weeks, and up to a reasonable speed of being able to read it.
but there again, we were doing it from like 10 pm, until 3-4 am, as we couldn't sleep when in the halls, in College.
but it also comes in handy when you need to talk to someone that can't seem to lip read specific letters of a word, and if lighting is poor, then people can see hands better than lip reading.
I think it is because of the hand-eye co-ordintion thing that I am not very good at speedy sign language. but here I am 12 years later, and still know most of the sign language, and getting taught more, as he got married to a nice deaf lady (this Saturday just gone).
another thing I have become aware of is how much lip reading I do when out, even in quiet areas, if someone asks me to do something, then I might go to the wrong place, but if I am actually watching their lips then I can tell what they sort of mumble afterwards.
I don't know how many others have noticed that, but I sort of taken it for granted, until I actually got to know my friends wife, then I did notice it
Mike
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That is such a brilliant idea! Particularly about boys. Me and friends used to have a code, but as all my close girl friends have boys now, it tends to be just me 
. As for going out, i find that eye contact works brilliantly, but then you only usually attract the bad boys. Otherwise I just dance like a mad thing when in clubs, and save conversation for quiet pubs.
. As for going out, i find that eye contact works brilliantly, but then you only usually attract the bad boys. Otherwise I just dance like a mad thing when in clubs, and save conversation for quiet pubs.