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Dyspraxic + LGB

Postby Auron » Mon Sep 07, 2015 6:17 am

Quite a rare mix you may imagine.

I'm often met with surprise from friends or new acquaintances if ever the topic of orientation pops up and I mention that I'm gay.
I'm not very sure how usual this might be, the sample pool alone maybe so small that there is practically no "tendencies" to speak of any ways.

In my own experience ( I could be wrong) it seems my dyspraxic "quirks" are what eclipse any and all perceived homosexual "quirks" which is where the "no idea" come from when orientation is mentioned. I usually jokingly add "Yeah, I get that a lot, I think it's just my oddness as a person superceeds any detectable levels of gayness".


In a funny way, It's also helped immensely in me keeping a sense of self identity. When so many LGB folk (especially teens and young adults) have so many conflicting social pressures; disgust, pride, "campness", activism etc, as an LGB person growing up It's easy to get sucked into a "social tribe" mentality.
However, it seems having other strong identifying factors, be it a learning disorder, high/low intellect, or academic area, it is a little easier to hold on to the person you are and resist conformity within.... the magnetic poles of a social dualism. (for lack of a simpler way of putting it, LOL!)

...makes it easier to be objective about your own identity, which can otherwise be hard for young people to do.(and that is) one of the many positive things I've attributed to having dyspraxia.

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Re: Dyspraxic + LGB

Postby Captain_Ludd » Tue Sep 15, 2015 6:44 pm

Actually I kind of get the opposite, I'm straight but on a number of occasions I've been either "hit on" by guys or people have just assumed it.
I've no idea why I've asked both straight and gay friends and acquaintances if I'm particularly camp (since I'm not to good with the whole body language thing) and they've all said no, I can only assume people perceive me as a little different see I don't have a girlfriend and just come to completely the wrong conclusion somehow. :S

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Re: Dyspraxic + LGB

Postby Auron » Wed Sep 30, 2015 5:35 pm

Perhaps.

It's also quite a compliment.
It takes a lot of courage to "chat someone up" with only the 1:10 chance they're gay, but sometimes you meet someone who's worth the poor odds.

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Re: Dyspraxic + LGB

Postby Captain_Ludd » Thu Oct 01, 2015 8:30 pm

Oh its nice that someone thinks I'm worth the attention I just kinda wish one or two of them could maybe be women once in a while :) (who arnt tippsy).

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Re: Dyspraxic + LGB

Postby Auron » Fri Oct 02, 2015 2:29 am

Despite the fact that I'm very plain looking and was for most of my life quite over weight, I've had an above average amount of women chatting me up, usually because of gigs I'm doing, or just having the chats on a night out, but alas, zero guys.

I always thing "genie! surely SOME guy is going to try it on" but it's always girls.

I wish we could do a swap somehow. :grin:

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Re: Dyspraxic + LGB

Postby Captain_Ludd » Tue Oct 06, 2015 6:54 pm

Yeah its kind of ironic really :) .

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Re: Dyspraxic + LGB

Postby pendragon » Fri May 05, 2017 11:26 pm

Being dyspraxic and gay is a funny mixture. I'm almost completely blind to nuances; my gaydar is practically non existent. People sometimes react with surprise when they learn I'm a lesbian, though that's more to do with them being straight or preconceptions of how lesbians look and behave. Fortunately lesbian and bi women can tell!


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