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Robert Scotland
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Find it hard having a gf

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me and my girlfriend argue a lot I like her and she is my first gf. But she says I don't respect her I do but is it my dyspraxia that's makes me not notice certain stuff.
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Is she specific about what makes her feel you are being disrespectful. If you know you can at least try to make a more conscious effort to try to avoid misunderstandings.

Hope that makes some sort of sense. All the best
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Re: Find it hard having a gf

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Robert Scotland wrote:me and my girlfriend argue a lot I like her and she is my first gf. But she says I don't respect her I do but is it my dyspraxia that's makes me not notice certain stuff.
In what way does she feel you don't respect her?

I know my problem has always been forgetting stuff. I always had to tell me ex if she wants me to do something for her to write it down for me somewhere I can see it or I will forget! It was never a problem of not caring or respecting her, it's genuinely a problem with my memory.

You have to talk things through really. Communication is always the key.
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I can't speak directly from experience but I would always respect someone if I happened to be in a relationship with them.

In 2006, I was with someone briefly. She said that she didn't like being touched, so I respected that, and our relationship was basically platonic - an extended friendship.

In fact, I wouldn't mind it if I had a wife who nagged me all day long - at least I would know where I would stand in the world rather than being on my own, not knowing which way to turn like I have done so for years.
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George

It can be very lonely, I know, but respect has to work both ways and if someone nagged you all the time it would probably mean they did not have the same respect for you or your self esteem.

Entitlement does get confused a lot but being unhappy in a relationship is really no better than being alone and unhappy.
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Re: Find it hard having a gf

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I know what you mean Tom, but I have been on my own for so many years that a woman nagging me would be a better than nothing!

Seriously, I would prefer a woman who I would be able to get on with.
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Re: Find it hard having a gf

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I have the same problem with people in general, it nothing I do is good enough. All I can say is the sit down and talk to her to see if you can work something out.
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Re: Find it hard having a gf

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Just that I was selfish didint listen to her just I got confused with her
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Re: Find it hard having a gf

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My last ex , god I had to let her go, it fared me apart and still flashbacks occur now and then. But I wanted her to be happy and I was going through my start of anxiety and depression. She said I conderdict her a lot. That broke my heart cuz I never mean too. I always brought and picked wild flowers for her, but I don't know what happened she had enough and could not explain or communicate one on one just on phone and text. That made me really sad and lonely and ashamed I let a good girl go cuz some how we mos understood each other I the end. Still today I want to just run up to her and give her a huge hug but I never have the chance to see her after. I know we are gonna bump into each other again somehow bit don't know what to say.
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Re: Find it hard having a gf

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You could write down reminders in your phone for yourself if you have trouble remembering certain things. Depends on whether or not your phone has an app for that. Just...I'd make sure she didn't find out, if it were me.
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