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Nmcg1993
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Heartbroken any advice?

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A couple of weeks ago the man I loved ended our relationship of over four years. He said I was constantly down and he felt he couldn't cope anymore. I admit that it's my fault I was needy and constantly afraid of being cheated on. After we split up we met up even slept together. He says he still feels a connection and that he still loves me. I told him I'd do my best to grow up stop being jealous try to be happier etc. He keeps saying he wants to be part of my life but that he's confused aboutv everything I told him I'd do my best to help and listen so we can work it out. I don't know if I should wait him out of if I should just forget about him and move on
I don't want to be with anyone else. I love him.
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Re: Heartbroken any advice?

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Hi
I think you need to tackle why you don't feel you can trust him? Is this because you have been cheated upon by others or does something tell you all men are like this? (That is not true btw).

You need to ask him to be clear on what he needs and be clear about what you need so you both each have an understanding of what you both want and need. If these things vastly differ it may be time to say goodbye.

Wells that's the theory. I think it would be sensible to give him space so he can weigh thingss up for himself. You didn't state his reasons why he broke up with you so I'm reading between the lines a lot here. My apologies if I have got anything wrong and caused offence.

I hope things work out for you
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Nmcg1993
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Re: Heartbroken any advice?

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Thank you Tom. I hope so too. We can't seem to leave each other alone and everytime we see each other we end up having sex because I cleary can't contain myself ha ha. I think I'm setting myself up for worse but I can't help it im super attached to him. Your reply was great and made lots of sense. It's nice speaking to other dyspraxics I don't feel so alone. He did want space he said but then he wanted to know about my every movement to and from work. How my day was. I think he might be depressed. The reasons he gave was that he needed time to think about what he wants and that I needed to grow up . Then he calmed drown a lot. He keeps saying he still loves me but doesent know what he wants.
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Re: Heartbroken any advice?

Post by Teejaye98 »

How is your heartbreak now?
Hopefully feeling a bit better and have learned to move on considering it's been a few months since this was posted.
Hope things are better now.
I am in a similar situation however I no longer see him much less sleep with him since the break up.
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