Confusion

david456 · Post by **david456** » Wed Mar 14, 2007 8:30 pm

I get really confused about how people are with me sometimes. I don't really know when they are being serious or sarcastic.

Whether they like me or not, that sort of thing. Anyone find the same or know how to deal with it?

monkey · Post by **monkey** » Fri Mar 16, 2007 9:36 pm

i fidn it hard to know if some one is jokign or being serious. dad thinks its ebcuase i cant read body langage. maby you dont understand body lange. my close freinds tell me when thye are joking with me or not. maaby you shoudl ask people to tell you when they are not beign serious so tha you know.

Post by **Daniel** » Fri Mar 16, 2007 10:23 pm

Sometimes if you get to know a person you can learn if they're the sort of person who might joke with you or not.

Post by **Shadwell** » Sun Mar 25, 2007 3:26 am

it is possible to wirte a book on this subject, as I am confused on so many matters, but in reality they never seem to get answered!

take toninght for example, I went to my friends stag/pub crawl, I walked home, and then in Bridgend town I decided to see if the pub that my cousin works at was still open, as I knew most Saturdays she works, well I seen her.

(I say cousin, but she is cousin through marriage/adoption), and so ok we have lived like that for about 15 years or so, I feel like there is family pressure to get with her or something,

yes she is a nice girl, and we get on really well together, or last time we were really close. Ok, so they want her even more part of the family, than she already is! and I think that bit has stopped us from being closer than close!

so why do families put the pressure on? like every opertunity my mother gets, she says she would like to be a grandmother! and other family pressure like my grand father " oh you, and your cousin would suit eachother" (mentioning names)

yes in a way before all the family pressure, I said to myself if nothing happens between me, and the girl in London, then she would have to be the second choice! and never thought about it since.

but it seems like the pressure has got to her more, and means she doesn't call when she say's she will (like she said she will to me tonight)

and it just hurt's me the way that she said "no" to one of my questions, yet a couple of weeks later her sister's/my cousin brought it up in conversation, and yet her sister was like waiting for my reply! (at the time I had only just found out I was Dyspraxic when speaking about the situation with my /cousin),

so cleverly I turned the question around to see how the sister would react, but not giving a definate answer myself.

even though I didn't say no, my mother butted in with say it was like mike, and * (metioning naems), who aren't total cousins!

I think my mother was getting to the point that I was working around to, but still iterfering, in a way, as I was testing the water with her sister, like I said I would do (but not so many words), before anything could possibly happen.

but from what I could see is my cousin by adoption saying "no", but her body language saying "yes", which at the time I was taking no, as meaning no, not encluding body language as well,

and to be honest at the time I was thinking more about the family side of it, like what if? but after seeing my adopted cousins side, and my cousins side, then it seem's that she is holding out for me to make the move.

as you seen above "yes", I do hope that somehing happens between us, but I am petrified to make the first move as such after such a long time apart!

sorry this is such a long message for the board, but I think you should now the in's and out's! but in the shortened version!!

Post by **Shadwell** » Sun Mar 25, 2007 4:09 am

that is why I ask, why are women so confusing when playing so called games?!

ask if it confuses Joe Bloggs, then it definately confuses the **** out of someone that has just found out they have been diagnosed dyspraxic some 19 year earlier, but never told about it.

Johanna · Post by **Johanna** » Sun Mar 25, 2007 5:04 pm

I can never understand what poeole really mean so i just smile and nod.

Liz944 · Post by **Liz944** » Sun Mar 25, 2007 8:11 pm

Where am I?????????

Post by **Shadwell** » Tue Mar 27, 2007 11:11 pm

on the Dyspraxic forum Liz!!

is it me? or am I trying not to think about the situation that I am in? all the signs are go, and I am still stopped, and don't know which way to go! and wondering where the **** I am, type of thing!!

all I know is I want to see more of her, rather than just while she is working, and that is because she doesn't have the time to stop, and chat. and I know I have really missed her being in my life for so many years.

but yet everytime we see eachother we get on really well, and then the next moment it is like mount everest is between us. and on goes the withdrawl syptoms from her.

like she is thinking of 500 stages down the road, while I am still on stage 4! and not knowing the way to stage 5! besides which I don't really know if I want to jump in that deep, and certainly not for at least a couple of years.