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George H
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Single man seeks love in Nottingham or East Midlands

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Hope I can do this on here.

I am a 37 year old man with Dyspraxia and Asperger Syndrome. I also have Anxiety, Depression and Social Phobias as well. I live in the Nottingham area. Only just moved to my new area, so I am more conscious on meeting that right person.

I would love to meet a single woman with either or both conditions, or neither conditions - I don't mind. I would like her to be aged between 21 and 29, and is local or can have easy access to the Nottingham or East Midlands area. I am prepared to travel a fair distance, but of course it would have to be on a regular basis of course. I could probably stretch it to Derby or Leicester perhaps. No single mothers, please! I want to start from the beginning.

I am a very nice person once you get to know me. I have never really had a serious relationship because of various things in my life and my condition, and as I am in my mid 30s, I would like to do something about it before it is too late. Friendship is just as powerful as love, and that is important as well.

I know that we shouldn't publish our email addresses on here, so I won't. So, if you are that sort of person, please feel free to respond to this thread if PM is not possible.
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Re: Single man seeks love in Nottingham or East Midlands

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Hi George

We're happy to let people post like this in the hope another member of the site sees it and gets in contact. You might you get more opportunitities from a dedicated dating site, though I fully appreciate that they are not always the nicest places. Don't be afraid to tell people about yourself and what you like and don't like so they are not constrained by their own idea of what a guy with Dyspraxia and Aspergers might be like. Equally be open to some flexibility about your own requirements if possible.

People can respond to you by a private message (PM) on here and you should get an email to the account you used when you registered telling you there's a private message waiting to be read when you log in. Members are of course free to share personal emails in private messages. However be careful and don't do so until you are comfortable and if at any stage you think something is suspicious or not right, don't hesitate to tell someone.
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George H
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Re: Single man seeks love in Nottingham or East Midlands

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I have tried dating websites in the past, and from what I have experienced, it can be too expensive and the people on there hide behind pictures that are nothing like the person on there. I don't like being misled when it comes to things like that, and I prefer things like that to be honest and straightforward. A few years back, a woman was on a dating website claiming to be from Leicestershire (I am in Nottinghamshire, so it was not too far away), but I later found out that she lived in Russia or Africa or somewhere - not quite local to where I live! She must have entered the British website, and as one would have to select a county at random, she must have selected Leicestershire.

I have learnt from experience about meeting women who are not what they seem to be. Ten years ago I was in Blackpool on my own as a result of a five day coach trip away, and this woman who was roughly the same age as myself expressed an interest in being my "friend". To cut a long story short, nearly an hour later, most of my money was gone, and because I wanted to get into a relationship, I was gullible to what was going to happen. This is what happens when one is put into a situation that I didn't even want to be in the first place.

I went speed dating locally in 2007. They matched me up with this woman, and I did not tick "date" for her. Contacted her mobile, answer machine was on. This happened a couple more times. Then, I managed to get in touch with her. She was so rude and offensive, swore at me and put the phone down. Contacted the speed dating people and they said that she must have changed her mind - nothing else they can do. Went on another speed dating event in 2013, hosted by a different company. None of the women ticked "date" for me for some reason. And there was me who thought that being different made you stand out in a positive way.

However, coming back to my original message, if anyone is 100% genuine and wants to know me, I would be pleased to know them, but I think that something that is similar to a "Risk Assessment" type of thing has to happen to make sure that the person is right for someone such as myself.
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