Other ways of finding love

GWhizz · Post by **GWhizz** » Mon Mar 12, 2007 8:15 pm

Just wondering has anybody here tried Speed Dating and/or Online Dating

Post by **Daniel** » Mon Mar 12, 2007 9:29 pm

I reckon speed dating would be a bad idea for dyspraxics as I suspect it would be too fast with too much to take in, remember and deal with. Online dating on the other hand might well be a goer although it's not something I've tried as yet.

Dan.

littlelostkitten · Post by **littlelostkitten** » Mon Mar 12, 2007 11:10 pm

yeah, but speed dating you get a notepad to make notes, and as the encounter is only brief, you don't have to worry about impressing them too much.

online dating is a minefield. all the free sites you'll find are inhabited by weirdos. i've yet to find one normal person on one to make it worthwhile. plus i've heard about the number of prostitutes touting for business through dating sites. it's free advertising i guess...

Post by **Daniel** » Mon Mar 12, 2007 11:53 pm

littlelostkitten wrote:yeah, but speed dating you get a notepad to make notes, and as the encounter is only brief, you don't have to worry about impressing them too much.

A brief encounter eh? Here's hoping that one of the ladies gets a piece of soot in her eye to whom I can come boldly to the rescue and arrange illicit meetings with thereafter at Milford Haven station. Ahem. I'm still not convinced speed dating would be my cup of tea though. I think one date in a blue moon (which is still significantly higher than my current average of slightly more than one a millennium) would prove quite sufficient.

online dating is a minefield. all the free sites you'll find are inhabited by weirdos. i've yet to find one normal person on one to make it worthwhile. plus i've heard about the number of prostitutes touting for business through dating sites. it's free advertising i guess...

I would have thought the more well known paid dating sites would be ok, as they'd have reputations to upkeep and they'd probably invest in filtering against undesirables, although I'm only guessing. If the local talent wears thin I might have a butchers

david456 · Post by **david456** » Wed Mar 14, 2007 8:19 pm

I'd love to go speed dating, as at least you know everyone is there for the same reason and they are single.

The trouble is ther would be no girls between the age range of 18-26, who would be going.

donnaf · Post by **donnaf** » Wed Mar 14, 2007 8:26 pm

I've seen stuff on TV n heard about a surprising number of girls in their early 20s going speed dating!

david456 · Post by **david456** » Wed Mar 14, 2007 8:27 pm

Any ideas about which company does it? I could look them up online. I've not seen or heard about that before.

fuzzy · Post by **fuzzy** » Fri Mar 16, 2007 9:18 pm

I think speed dating would be awesome fun!!

Greg · Post by **Greg** » Sat Mar 17, 2007 2:50 pm

The university does have a speed-dating society :P

It must get boring with it being the same people each time though :S

Post by **Daniel** » Sat Mar 17, 2007 5:55 pm

LOL, it would be a bit rubbish if you had to pay for an annual membership for it, wouldn't it?

Greg · Post by **Greg** » Tue Apr 03, 2007 12:18 am

It does have an annual membership fee :P

I can only assume they go to events away from the uni.

NickC · Post by **NickC** » Wed Jul 04, 2007 2:25 pm

I haven't tried speed dating, though the idea often appealed to me, I have used internet dating though, through many sites. But the problems that occur in real meetings still occur on an internet based relationship.

The first problem that what ever site you use, the odds are the person you meet will be some distance from where you live, also when witting your profile, and when they write theirs you only put what you feel are your best qualities (seriously, do you think your going to put I am dyspraxic, insecure, obsessive prone to mood swings, dispassionate, over emotional etc?)

the second problem occurs when entering the relationship, if the person is some distance from you, meeting may well be difficult and infrequent, the usual sense of low self esteem and no self worth take hold, you know the person met you online, you start to wonder who else they are chatting to, what arrangements they have made. What are they up to etc. This can be hard to control. I found love on the Internet and then killed it with my insecurities, I loved her, only woman i ever loved, but i just couldn't believe she loved me and in the end i killed it drove her away. When it all fell apart and i told her about my dyspraxia, she couldn't understand, thought i was some nut case, dangerous and violent.

Sadly there are no easy answers, if you lack confidence in real life, you will lack confidence in the virtual world as well. Well thats my opinion anyway

Post by **Shadwell** » Wed Jul 04, 2007 10:06 pm

I think if you are feeling insecure yourself, then you could be saying the samething about someone that lives next door that you get serious with,

you would never know what happens when she isn't in the house/flat or whatever.

it all boils down to trust, like you could for example meet a female who lives in Australia, but yet she is 100% truthful, and not a cheater, and not into chatting to other blokes. but the insecurity kicks in, and the mind will be 10,000 to the dozen, on what is happening.

the only thing you can do is trust them 100% not to do the dirty on you, until you learn otherwise, and actually got good reliable evidence to back it up.

gherkin001 · Post by **gherkin001** » Fri Aug 31, 2007 3:02 pm

If I ever found out Clive was playing away his life wouldnt be worth living and I'd make his life so it wouldnt be worth living anymore.

But i do trust him 100% to never do that to me as much as i'd never do it to him.

Ive found in my experience though that the perfect person comes into your life as soon as you TRULY stop looking. Thats how Clive and I got together 5 years ago this December.

Kirsty......

Esioul · Post by **Esioul** » Sat Sep 01, 2007 10:47 am

Iv'e been cheated on and dropped for better looking women several times now, so I just don't trust blokes now.