My wife and I have been together for over 45 years. I feel I have dyspraxia, and I am going to have it diagnosed next year.
Is there a support forum for my wife as at times my dyspraxic distance and non-communication is very debilitating and irritating for her. She could really do with someone to talk to who will understand my seemingly illogical and unusual dyspraxic habits. It would help her as she finds it hard to believe that I care for her.
Support for my wife
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Re: Support for my wife
Hi
Welcome. I'm sure you cannot be that unbearable, given you've been together for 45 years? I think we do often have a bit of a tendency for over self loathing. Unfortunately I'm not aware of such a group anywhere. Not to say that one doesn't exist or could not be started out there
We do get non dyspraxic partners here from time to time so you may wish to point your wife in this direction, if she doesn't mind computers? You could also try the Dyspraxia Foundation's helpline but they're more geared to children, young adults and parents. I hope you find something, and please let us know if you do.
It may be worth casting the net wider to look at groups who support partners of people with other conditions as dyspraxia is a very niche/poorly understood and too often unrecognised condition.
Welcome. I'm sure you cannot be that unbearable, given you've been together for 45 years? I think we do often have a bit of a tendency for over self loathing. Unfortunately I'm not aware of such a group anywhere. Not to say that one doesn't exist or could not be started out there
We do get non dyspraxic partners here from time to time so you may wish to point your wife in this direction, if she doesn't mind computers? You could also try the Dyspraxia Foundation's helpline but they're more geared to children, young adults and parents. I hope you find something, and please let us know if you do.
It may be worth casting the net wider to look at groups who support partners of people with other conditions as dyspraxia is a very niche/poorly understood and too often unrecognised condition.
Tom
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Re: Support for my wife
Thanks for your reply Tom. It's not that I am unbearable, it is more the simple fact that I too suffer from the typical Dyspraxic communication problems that so many of us have written about. The end result is that I exhibit a lack of intimacy in conversation, I appear to be distant, I sound uninterested, in common with so many of us. When that side of me is missing for all the reasons we understand, it still means my wife is denied that intimate side of mine that she should be able to expect in our marriage. Being married for over 45 years does not make it any easier for her.
That is why I posed the question as to whether there is any support that could be given for the long suffering spouses and partners of us Dyspraxic people. All through my married life I have been aware that something was not right with me and only now have I started to appreciate what it is. But that knowledge does not make it any easier for my wife. As you rightly say the Dyspraxia Foundation is more geared to support for children, so maybe there could be an area of this forum for spouses and partners to share their experiences and feelings to gain some support. I feel certain that there must be many spouses and partners of Dyspraxics who could benefit from support and shared experiences. Maybe the Moderators might like to take this idea in board.
That is why I posed the question as to whether there is any support that could be given for the long suffering spouses and partners of us Dyspraxic people. All through my married life I have been aware that something was not right with me and only now have I started to appreciate what it is. But that knowledge does not make it any easier for my wife. As you rightly say the Dyspraxia Foundation is more geared to support for children, so maybe there could be an area of this forum for spouses and partners to share their experiences and feelings to gain some support. I feel certain that there must be many spouses and partners of Dyspraxics who could benefit from support and shared experiences. Maybe the Moderators might like to take this idea in board.