Dyspraxic chaps in relationships
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Dyspraxic chaps in relationships
This is a little poll for the guys on the forum to see what proportion of us are in relationships or not.
Due to the way the whole courting thing works it is still in most cases down to the bloke to make the first move to get a relationship rolling and I suspect this is a factor that is a problem for a lot of us, however seeing the statistics would help to show the situation a bit more clearly.
So chaps - and chaps only please, go ahead and vote based on your situation. The vote is of course anonymous.
As usual if you'd like to add some comments and thoughts in addition to your vote, please do so.
Dan,
Forum Admin.
Due to the way the whole courting thing works it is still in most cases down to the bloke to make the first move to get a relationship rolling and I suspect this is a factor that is a problem for a lot of us, however seeing the statistics would help to show the situation a bit more clearly.
So chaps - and chaps only please, go ahead and vote based on your situation. The vote is of course anonymous.
As usual if you'd like to add some comments and thoughts in addition to your vote, please do so.
Dan,
Forum Admin.
I done single, and not looking, but maybe after getting my C&E license, then I might start looking again!
but the way I feel, then that is too far away!
but the way I feel, then that is too far away!
Mike
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I unfortunately haven't found anyone that I really like.
There was a girl I liked last year, but after saying she would go out with me, she text to say she was going to get back with her ex boyfriend.
It's very difficult to just approach someone and build a conversation and friendship. I can't relax either, which doesn't help conversation as I am nervous.
There was a girl I liked last year, but after saying she would go out with me, she text to say she was going to get back with her ex boyfriend.
It's very difficult to just approach someone and build a conversation and friendship. I can't relax either, which doesn't help conversation as I am nervous.
Well I've got some people who you could say that I was in a relationship with, depending on how you choose to define it. There are a couple of people who I have sex with, but we'd probably kill each other if we had to share a house for more than a few hours. (By we I mean me and one of them, I think they'd get on okay fine) There's one gal who I feel extremely emotionally close to, which kind of feels like we're in a relationship, but we don't want to do anything physical or committ to anything long term with each other. An a few oddballs who I do wierd stuff with. I'm not sure if I count as 'looking' or not because while I really do miss the stable long-term loving relationship that I was in previously and would like to seek something like that again, I'm not being very active about it and if I found it I'm not sure how I'd reconcile that with the peeps I'm already...er...in a kinda relationship with. The world confuses me greatly and traditional cultural beliefs concerning relationships, love and how this all works seem to bear little or no resembelance to the realities of the world. Mostly I (very) occasionally meet people I like who think upon similar lines and we see where it goes from there.
Bah! Doesn't matter. The most important thing in a relationship is to make sure everyones completely honest with each other and reading off the same page about what the relationship is and where it's going. If I can do that I shan't lose any sleep over catagorical issues.
As for catagories, you didn't include "relationship but looking" and "married but looking" I have friends who slot quite neatly into those.
Bah! Doesn't matter. The most important thing in a relationship is to make sure everyones completely honest with each other and reading off the same page about what the relationship is and where it's going. If I can do that I shan't lose any sleep over catagorical issues.
As for catagories, you didn't include "relationship but looking" and "married but looking" I have friends who slot quite neatly into those.
It may be too early to say, but do you think there's a pattern emerging on this poll?
Mattie - I'm the same. I've dabbled with relationships and not really found them terribly satisfying so I don't really know if I'm bothered with them or not. My plan is to keep living life the way I want and if something comes along then fair enough.
Mattie - I'm the same. I've dabbled with relationships and not really found them terribly satisfying so I don't really know if I'm bothered with them or not. My plan is to keep living life the way I want and if something comes along then fair enough.
*does some number crunching*
Yup, that pattern is significant at p < 0.05
Good enough for a psychologist ;)
Edit: Of course this wouldn't be admissable as a psychology study because the sample is bias (arguably the sort of people who'd post to an interenet forum are also the sort of people more likely to fit the pattern) and there's no control group
Yup, that pattern is significant at p < 0.05
Good enough for a psychologist ;)
Edit: Of course this wouldn't be admissable as a psychology study because the sample is bias (arguably the sort of people who'd post to an interenet forum are also the sort of people more likely to fit the pattern) and there's no control group
I guess some people are not suited to relationships. I would like one very much, but I don't think it'll ever happen to be honest. I have too many short-comings, such as bad social skills, too serious/formal in company, and perhaps a lot of people would say a rather dull and uninteresting personality.Mattie - I'm the same. I've dabbled with relationships and not really found them terribly satisfying so I don't really know if I'm bothered with them or not. My plan is to keep living life the way I want and if something comes along then fair enough.
Mattie.
It's more trhan that though. I realise that people without personailty and looks can still have realtsionshisp. You only have to consider people like John Prescott to see that. But I am really rubbish with people, and i get so stressed and nervous over meeting/talking to people that there must be something wrong with me. nothing will ever changeDon't put yourself down mattie, noone is perfect, least of all those who think they are! You sound like a normal person to me and I doubt very much that u have a dull personality.
Mattie.
I used to get nervous talking to new people, but i find large quantities of alcohol help! Joking aside, I've realised that once you are comfortable with a few friends who love you, then meeting other people becomes less important. Once you have the people you care about, then any others is a bonus! And from what I can gather, most people in here who suffer from "bad social skills", the worst social skill is having no confidence in yourself! Most people have bad social skills, they are just better at hiding it than others. So don't worry, if your shy, its not that you're in inadequate in any way, you're just different. Vive la difference!