Trouble with self acceptance.
Posted: Wed Mar 05, 2014 9:25 pm
Hello, I am the 35 year old Male Husband of a 30 year old Woman with Dyspraxia.
I apologize if some of you find what I say offensive, but it is how I feel and I am trying very hard to be an understanding person. I have been with my Wife for going on 8 years now, and ever since the beginning there have been struggles, we knew something was a little different, but it wasn't until recently that we finally figured out that Dyspraxia was the culprit.
Some of the struggles we have had over the years would be things like my Wife forgetting to put things away, sometimes leaving cleaning chemicals or pills lying around where our young children could get them. Once my 4 year old son ate most of a bottle of Vitamin C (thank God it was nothing else) that she had left out, and on another occasion when he was barely 3 he dumped some febreeze into his mouth that she had forgotten to put up.
The problems with working memory are probably the worst of it, but she is also very clumsy, and dropping things or breaking dishes is somewhat common.
Now all of those things are difficult to deal with, but I do my best to help her remember things and I try to be a supportive Husband; where things really get difficult however, is with my Wife's unwillingness to accept that she is different than other people. My Wife is 30 years old and she lies about herself, a lot.
I am sure that it's not easy recognizing that you are different, and I can understand that, but she is always doing things to try to convince people that she is somebody she is not.
She will often 'steal' quotes or ideas from people and try to pass it off as her own on Facebook, and accepts the false praise people give her for being so smart, or spiritual, as if she really was the one to invent the quote herself.
I probably sound like a jerk, but it's hard to deal with. It seems to me like she doesn't want to accept herself for who she is, so she tries to act like she is somebody else in order to gain acceptance.
I can understand that bit and why she would want to do it, but I am a firm believer that being true to yourself is the only way to go, and that we are who we are. Lying about who we are will just cause unnecessary pain and make it next to impossible to deal with our issues.
Anyhow, I guess I'm looking for a bit of a release, but more importantly I would like some advice as to whether or not 'faking' your way through life is common with dyspraxia, or am I perhaps seeing things the wrong way?
I am open to whatever help I can get at this point. Thank You all for your time....
I apologize if some of you find what I say offensive, but it is how I feel and I am trying very hard to be an understanding person. I have been with my Wife for going on 8 years now, and ever since the beginning there have been struggles, we knew something was a little different, but it wasn't until recently that we finally figured out that Dyspraxia was the culprit.
Some of the struggles we have had over the years would be things like my Wife forgetting to put things away, sometimes leaving cleaning chemicals or pills lying around where our young children could get them. Once my 4 year old son ate most of a bottle of Vitamin C (thank God it was nothing else) that she had left out, and on another occasion when he was barely 3 he dumped some febreeze into his mouth that she had forgotten to put up.
The problems with working memory are probably the worst of it, but she is also very clumsy, and dropping things or breaking dishes is somewhat common.
Now all of those things are difficult to deal with, but I do my best to help her remember things and I try to be a supportive Husband; where things really get difficult however, is with my Wife's unwillingness to accept that she is different than other people. My Wife is 30 years old and she lies about herself, a lot.
I am sure that it's not easy recognizing that you are different, and I can understand that, but she is always doing things to try to convince people that she is somebody she is not.
She will often 'steal' quotes or ideas from people and try to pass it off as her own on Facebook, and accepts the false praise people give her for being so smart, or spiritual, as if she really was the one to invent the quote herself.
I probably sound like a jerk, but it's hard to deal with. It seems to me like she doesn't want to accept herself for who she is, so she tries to act like she is somebody else in order to gain acceptance.
I can understand that bit and why she would want to do it, but I am a firm believer that being true to yourself is the only way to go, and that we are who we are. Lying about who we are will just cause unnecessary pain and make it next to impossible to deal with our issues.
Anyhow, I guess I'm looking for a bit of a release, but more importantly I would like some advice as to whether or not 'faking' your way through life is common with dyspraxia, or am I perhaps seeing things the wrong way?
I am open to whatever help I can get at this point. Thank You all for your time....