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The Key is finding a guy or gal who understands.

Posted: Sun Oct 20, 2013 3:14 pm
by Niamh McGlade
I haven't really been lucky in love. I'd been dumped because I didn't want sex and I broke up with someone because he wasn't what I was looking for. Then I met my current boyfriend three years ago. I avoided giving him cards because I didn't want him to see my writing. He knew there was something a bit different about me. I hated shopping unless it was for food, music, books or games for my DS. I didn't wear makeup except eyeliner and mascara and my hair though clean is often scruffy. I was terrified of telling him I was dyspraxic. It had put off other guys in the past. I decided to be honest though. With dread I waited for an ominous text or meeting telling me he couldn't cope. Instead what I got was "So I after you told me about what you have I went home and looked it up." I was so touched because this hadn't happened before. As someone with dyspraxia I'd say we need someone who understands us, cares about us and has the patience to understand that our brains might have perceived something a bit differently. I never would have thought that he would have stuck with me as long as he has. We are still together after three years. If he hadn't understood me he would have been long gone. That's why it's important to find a guy or girl who actually takes the effort to find out about it and tries their best to help you cope with the obstacles being dyspraxic sometimes presents.

Re: The Key is finding a guy or gal who understands.

Posted: Sun Oct 20, 2013 7:21 pm
by Creative
I agree but have yet to find that special person. I don't go out much with people my own age (I'm 29) so find it difficult to meet people.

Re: The Key is finding a guy or gal who understands.

Posted: Mon Oct 21, 2013 9:55 pm
by Niamh McGlade
AWW what's your name

Re: The Key is finding a guy or gal who understands.

Posted: Mon Oct 21, 2013 10:44 pm
by Creative
Jess. I like cats, reading and going on the internet.

Re: The Key is finding a guy or gal who understands.

Posted: Tue Oct 22, 2013 10:54 am
by Ferrus
Creative wrote:I agree but have yet to find that special person. I don't go out much with people my own age (I'm 29) so find it difficult to meet people.
Yes, I find that too... (albeit a few years younger at 26) - but more I just find I never really seem to meet many people of the opposite sex in a social environment.

Re: The Key is finding a guy or gal who understands.

Posted: Tue Oct 22, 2013 11:29 am
by Creative
I'd like to go out socially with other adults with Dyspraxia but there aren't any adult groups in Norfolk.

Re: The Key is finding a guy or gal who understands.

Posted: Tue Oct 22, 2013 11:49 am
by Ferrus
I guess farming and dyspraxia don't mix? ;)

Re: The Key is finding a guy or gal who understands.

Posted: Wed Oct 23, 2013 9:52 am
by Jim
I think in some ways it would be kinda cool to organize a forum gathering.. but it would be a organisational nightmare, I mean how would we even begin to choose a location and venue? :-k

Re: The Key is finding a guy or gal who understands.

Posted: Wed Oct 23, 2013 10:41 pm
by Ferrus
Yes, but we are dyspraxics we can organise anything. Badly

Re: The Key is finding a guy or gal who understands.

Posted: Sat Oct 26, 2013 11:25 pm
by Niamh McGlade
Guys we can stick together! All of us would make amazing partners. I BELIEVE IN US! I'm so glad to make new pals! add me on facebook if you have it. Niamh Mc Glade. :P :D

Re: The Key is finding a guy or gal who understands.

Posted: Sun Oct 27, 2013 2:02 pm
by Jim
I have no doubts of our abilities to effectively organize something, and I would be up for meeting some people here.

The difficulty is in selecting a venue which is suitable and fair to the group as a whole. We could for instance decide to meetup to do a sight seeing tour of London, which is an enjoyable activity. But that would still be costly and difficult for many of the members here to attend simply from a transport and cost point of view.

If you came from further up north of the country, then you may well be put off by the difficulty and cost of attending a relatively short event to meet people you've never met before in your life.

Personally I don't mind travelling, I get a good feeling of independence from it even if it can be stressful. The cost factor would be a hindrance though as in would I need to spend money on a flight, train ride or several tanks of diesel for my car to get there?

Re: The Key is finding a guy or gal who understands.

Posted: Sun Oct 27, 2013 5:57 pm
by FAndrews
Yeah i also believe you need to find someone who understands, understanding is a major part of any good relationship. I sadly have also never found anyone willing to give me a chance :(

Re: The Key is finding a guy or gal who understands.

Posted: Mon Oct 28, 2013 9:17 pm
by Niamh McGlade
AWW you will find someone who will give you the chance one day. Guys I live in Belfast in Ireland so I can't go to England. That's why I became a member because I don't really know many dyspraxic people and I sometimes feel so excluded by other people. Particularly other girls.

Re: The Key is finding a guy or gal who understands.

Posted: Tue Oct 29, 2013 9:27 am
by Jim
Hehehe, I've effectively given up looking for a relationship in the vain hope that one just hits me from the blue in the future. I haven't had a girl/woman show me genuine interest since my late teens (too long ago!). I have hit it off with some women in a banterly kind of way since but they all tend to be spoken for or otherwise completely out of my league in some way :-({|=

Niamh, that's exactly what I'm talking about. Because you'd struggle to make it, a London venue could make you feel excluded. And that goes for anybody who is daunted by the travel. Personally in a mostly selfish point of view London makes most sense for me because it's pretty easy for me to get there because I live in a neighboring county and can hop on the train. But equally I'd be quite happy (funds permitting) to catch a flight to Ireland or Scotland or to take a drive to Wales or northern England. But I can't expect others think the same. And this is mainly what I refer to when asking how on earth would we ever agree on a venue?

Re: The Key is finding a guy or gal who understands.

Posted: Wed Oct 30, 2013 12:58 am
by FAndrews
yeah a physical venue would be awkward to organise so to speak, this is why we have this forum :)