Making small talk

[Tom fod]

I'm guessing this is something many of us find difficult so last night while I was kept awake by either the police or hospital helicopters landing I had a brainwave of starting this topic.

Whilst I'm lucky I have knowledge of 'geeky' thing I'm interested in, I'm not into what I guess are the classic geeky things. I'm visually impaired so don't drive and find the 'blokey' subject of cars is all a little pointless to me. Really don't care much at all for sport either. If I'm not felling too under pressure I can pluck all kinds of odd facts from my mind which I retain for quizzes and do like to know at least a bit about many things so I can be helpful and useful.

Problem is my mind goes blank and I become tongue tied when I do need to try and give a good account of myself and/or I always feel that I'm on the outside looking in.

Guess that's it for now as can't think of anything more to say which maybe illustrates my point a little 8-)

Just thought I'd start a topic in hope it's in someway helpful to others too.

[FAndrews]

yep, odd facts and useless is my go to area as well, nope sports and cars don't really interest me. yeah small talk and starting conversations can be quite difficult at times, especially at parties.

[cj254]

I know this problem all too well. I just always feel like, "it's not my turn to speak yet", or my mind goes blank then I think of a really good conversation topic a short while later.

I just try to opt for playing a bit of a clown if all else fails.

I don't know, I suppose if people are worth talking to you, they'll listen to you (even if you're struggling with conversing), if not never mind

[paulo]

some people srtuggle to get into the rythym of a conversation and end up feeling like they are being ignored (which is usally not the case) learning to play an istrument can help with a better sense of rythym and thoose skills can transfer to other areas of life, and also give you some confidence.