Hi,
I have always struggled to form close friendships.. throughout my childhood ...right up till now....I feel really awkward and shy...and i always worry about other people think about me. For example I recently started a new job....only been there roughly 13 weeks...and i really want to make friends..and when i have my break in the canteen i really want to sit with someone...to try to start forming a friendship with someone...there are even people i do know..but i still don't go and sit with them...as i just fear they will think..why the heck is she sitting with us. its strange really as when im working im confident at speaking to customers.. and sometimes even collegues...but i still don't think ive come out of my shell... more so with the other collegues at work....i don't know if this makes sense at all...but just need some advice really.
Making friends
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Re: Making friends
I can empathise, I find it hard to form close friendships at times as well. For me I take baby steps, like smile and listen to what people say especially in groups. I usually prefer talking to people on a one to one basis as its easier. I have worked where I work over a year now, and I have only just spoken to a person on a one to one basis who has worked their for a number of years.
When I was at college I wasn't exactly popular but I did try talking to other people. Someone did say something about my shoes, so I went up to them and they actually criticised me for walking over to them as they did not want me to do that, so after walking over, I knew they did not want me as a friend. That is their problem. But while I was working, I went over to a person and struck up a conservation which is believe me really rare that I make the 1st move and 5 years later we are really good friends.
My teenage years and still have them today are/were plagued with thoughts like you have. I would advise you to smile, be friendly but not too desperate. Maybe sit with people and say hello, if they think that then you know. Its easy for me to say that I know you never know what might happen
When I was at college I wasn't exactly popular but I did try talking to other people. Someone did say something about my shoes, so I went up to them and they actually criticised me for walking over to them as they did not want me to do that, so after walking over, I knew they did not want me as a friend. That is their problem. But while I was working, I went over to a person and struck up a conservation which is believe me really rare that I make the 1st move and 5 years later we are really good friends.
My teenage years and still have them today are/were plagued with thoughts like you have. I would advise you to smile, be friendly but not too desperate. Maybe sit with people and say hello, if they think that then you know. Its easy for me to say that I know you never know what might happen