college life and socialisation
Posted: Thu Nov 08, 2012 9:50 am
hat is the right way to approach people and how I get myself in a social group?
I am a 25 year old mature student on a 3 year programme in Galway college. It is my first year.
I enjoy music, learning, reading and going out watching movies and just chilling out.
I say hello to people sitting beside me during lectures and change the places where I seat but nothing comes out of it. I have asked them what they think of the course etc and may even have made some jokes or just got kinda Witty. some fellas who I did that to responded in a positive way.
I have given my email to some and given my mobile number to some.
Nobody wanted to get to know me in my tutorials.
I am nervous around people I don't know and when making friends.
I would like some like minded friends in their 20s or early 30s who are doing one or more of my subjects and are in my year.
in a few societies I went to there were only 2nd and third year and many were not even doing my subjects.
Most people tend to be already in a group and many people seem to know people from secondary school or another course.
I am getting no attention from men either which doesn't usually happen.
One man who is older than me has suggested that I engage with people in order to make friends but I do do that. A college service worker suggested that I just ask them to hang out on the first time I meet them and maybe even ask them for their number on the first time I meet them.
On my leaving a course card in 2007 it said "the life and soul of the party". Many people including my family have said that I am an interesting person and very likable. some believe me to be charismatic and witty. some believe that I should be popular.
There has to be something wrong with me because I am not attracting many people. I am not getting anywhere with anybody. Most of my older sisters friends think I am cool and that is because they told me themselves and because my sister told me that when I was depressed and when I was not depressed. I have hung around with my sisters friends in Sligo where I am originally from and they loved my company every time.
I have dcd or motor delay which effects the organisation of my thoughts and my timing. I have dyspraxia.
I want some friends to go to nightclubs and music gigs and to the movies with and I also want friends who will help me with my study or subjects.
Any ideas?
Thanks for listening.
WB....
I am a 25 year old mature student on a 3 year programme in Galway college. It is my first year.
I enjoy music, learning, reading and going out watching movies and just chilling out.
I say hello to people sitting beside me during lectures and change the places where I seat but nothing comes out of it. I have asked them what they think of the course etc and may even have made some jokes or just got kinda Witty. some fellas who I did that to responded in a positive way.
I have given my email to some and given my mobile number to some.
Nobody wanted to get to know me in my tutorials.
I am nervous around people I don't know and when making friends.
I would like some like minded friends in their 20s or early 30s who are doing one or more of my subjects and are in my year.
in a few societies I went to there were only 2nd and third year and many were not even doing my subjects.
Most people tend to be already in a group and many people seem to know people from secondary school or another course.
I am getting no attention from men either which doesn't usually happen.
One man who is older than me has suggested that I engage with people in order to make friends but I do do that. A college service worker suggested that I just ask them to hang out on the first time I meet them and maybe even ask them for their number on the first time I meet them.
On my leaving a course card in 2007 it said "the life and soul of the party". Many people including my family have said that I am an interesting person and very likable. some believe me to be charismatic and witty. some believe that I should be popular.
There has to be something wrong with me because I am not attracting many people. I am not getting anywhere with anybody. Most of my older sisters friends think I am cool and that is because they told me themselves and because my sister told me that when I was depressed and when I was not depressed. I have hung around with my sisters friends in Sligo where I am originally from and they loved my company every time.
I have dcd or motor delay which effects the organisation of my thoughts and my timing. I have dyspraxia.
I want some friends to go to nightclubs and music gigs and to the movies with and I also want friends who will help me with my study or subjects.
Any ideas?
Thanks for listening.
WB....