Any tips to make things stable?

[Nat+charley]

Hi,
Just found out my partner has dyspraxia and now his mums really not well. He has snapped a few times at me and my son, he gets very snappy, more quite and not wanting to talk.
Wondering if anything i could do or does it get worse with more stress?
Please help, as this is so new to me!
Thanks
Nat

[Tom fod]

Hi Nat

Sorry to hear of the stressful situation you're all in. Has the diagnosis of dyspraxia come as a shock to him? there is on one part the revelation that there's a reason why a dyspraxic person feels so useless and then the realisation that there is a serious lack of recognition and help and there is as yet no cure.

I'd suggest you give him as much space as possible but also makes sure he knows you'll be there to help as much as you can. Try to reassure him by focussing on the things he's good at and which you appreciate him for.

When I'm cross or upset I need time to come back down. and I'll often feel bad for hurting people or having made an exhibition of myself So if you can practically draw a line under his shouting and get him to focus on stuff that nakes him happy/calms him that's the way to go.

Hope this helps

Tom

[Catwoman42]

When I'm tired or stressed or need me time my symptoms are worse. I usually try to be by myself as this helps me. You can only be there for him if he needs you and back off when he needs space. BUt you're supporting him already by coming on here and trying to understand him. That counts for a lot.

[Jim]

He's probably under a fair bit of stress at the moment with those things to come to terms with.

The best thing to do really is get to know the triggers to his iritability and simply give him the space he needs for solitude at those times.

As has been pointed out, symptons of Dysbraxia are exerebated by stress and fatique. When someone is irritable and uncomunicative the last thing they need someone to do is to persist talking, questioning, conjoling them as it only serves to feed the iritation.

By leaving them alone, you are taking yourself out of the firing line and also removing unwanted stimulation from them. You might be surprised at how quickly someome calms themselves down when left to get on with it.

[Nat+charley]

Thankyou all, been very helpful and hopfully things will calm down. But not sure hes found out his mums very ill and not long left so seems this is sending him over the edge. Will try what you have suggested.
Thanks x