Finding the right people

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Finding the right people

Post by Little Miss Anxious » Wed Feb 08, 2012 1:04 am

Hello.

I am 24 and on a University access programme which I find quite challenging, especially when most of the group don't acknowledge me and none of them have invited me for a night out in the town, for coffee or for a drink but one woman in my classed asked another woman for coffee but she never asked me and lied about going for coffee as well because she denied it when I asked her. all the group have split them self into a group, except for 2 men and two women and they leave me out of discussions which makes me feel realy bad and they also laught at me during lectures when I speak my mind or ask a question which I am just after realising from the lecture is irrelevant. None of the group want to exchange numbers with me.

What organisations or clubs would be suitable to join, in order to get people, especially women to spend time with me regularly, who don't judge or critcise anybody by their sex life or adventurious behaviour and are fun to be around, are confident, like to live life to the full, are adventurous, have no addictions and are interested in movies, music, people and life in general.....

Thanks for listening.

WB......
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Re: Finding the right people

Post by Tim G » Thu Feb 09, 2012 9:33 pm

I know exactly what you mean - from hearing what people have said about me from my collage times I was a absolute joke and a mess to them. Now that I look back at that time it had dyspraxicia written all over it - myself and others just dident see that.
I have also had a lot of bad experances with speeking my mind and not thinking before I talk - its a real issue for me and the same effect with you has happed to me many times in lectures / clases etc.

I don't think there are any defifanite groups or clubs as such (I may be wrong) but it comes down to getting to know the right people - mabie see if there are other dyspraxics or people more simmler to yourself and intrests, that you could get to know - i am sure you will be able to relate and share commen intrests etc.
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Re: Finding the right people

Post by katiebatie » Fri Jul 27, 2012 4:15 pm

I know your feelng all to well my friend. Just the other day I said something at church and everyone in the group was like " What the heck" and now they all think I was either being selfish for speaking my mind or downright crazy but I think it just made them scared that I was a newcomer talking despraxicly about something traumatizing. Lesson: Just because these are church people, military,cops people in general- you're going to get three reactions 1) your crazy& they write you off by shutting you up/ belittling you.*99% because they don't understand & dont bother too find out . 2) unsure to keep you at bay 3) downright interesting because your born a non-conformist&/or life changing experience that helps you in everyday life aka not something you see everyday.

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Re: Finding the right people

Post by Tim G » Sun Jul 29, 2012 12:40 am

Allthough speeking your mind and the sochal difculities don't go down that well in lots of situations church has to be the worst.
I used to go to church with mum and sister when I was younger but really dident engage with it and I felt like a compleate outcast, as I got older I chose not to go and now its not somthing for me but thats how I feel, I am not saying go or don't go to church but it could just be the situation hightening your problem.
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Re: Finding the right people

Post by Jim » Sun Jul 29, 2012 9:39 am

I do find that people who wear their religious faith on their sleeve (so to speak) do often seem to be less tolerant of ideas expressed that differ from their own, or that are given to them by their Vicar or what not.

I'm a boarder line atheist myself, partly because I struggle with the concept of their being a god when the evidence around contradicts it, partly because many historical conflicts have used religion as a cover story and gone completely against teaching of peace and tolerance but mostly because I long ago grew tired of having religion rammed down my throat.

I've come across many dodgey people who do many nastily intolerant things but think that because they go to church and believe in their god that they're nice people and so I just see too much hypocrisy around.

That's not to say that the churches don't have their place, but to me they are not holier than thou.

My bottom line philosophy is that I'll tolerate other people's religious views and respect their faith just so long as they don't choose to preach them left right & centre to me. For instance.. I find it moderately offensive to be "god blessed" or anything of the sort.
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Re: Finding the right people

Post by LilBee » Wed Aug 15, 2012 8:14 pm

Sorry to hear you dont have open minded people in your collage course. Maybe try joining some socities or do some volunteering! Personally i find it difficult if i just purely engage in conversation, my brain cant think of new ideas\topics to bring up. So having something in common with new people you meet will give you a good headstart to starting socialising. :)

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